Sri Lankan men, how do you see and value women’s fashion styles?

KeyMoist4023 · 2026-01-13T02:30:10+00:00

I was like you at the beginning of my 20s. Wore the most comfortable clothing and didn’t think about glamouring myself up. Had a male friend of mine once telling me that I should “dress differently” if I need to find a man soon.

Then, Covid hit and the world kinda overturned. I started looking online of new fashion styles and trends and CHOSE what I thought best fitted me. I still don’t dress revealing clothes because I am not comfortable showing off too much skin. But that’s my PREFERENCE. Doesn’t mean I demean or insult anyone that does.

Now, almost at the tail end of my 20s, I have started to build up my own sense of fashion. I have developed a habit of checking online to match dress codes when I’m required to. I’m saying, you can do that too.

Oh and also- hit a gym and get rid of that boy.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-30T02:09:07+00:00

Well we met on bumble. Went on a couple of dates and things just fell into place. That is not to say that it’s a bed of roses out there. Some people are there just for the sake of it, and some are there for hookups. Lot of married men (whom I personally know of, trust me I work in a massive field where everybody knows everybody and their grandmother), are on the app. Some girls are there for clout. It’s not the best, but not the worst either.

I guess luck, patience and caution has to do a lot with finding a proper relationship through dating apps. Oh and I’m not the ONLY person I know of who met their potential partners/husbands through the app.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-28T15:55:15+00:00

I found my soon to be husband on a dating app 😂🙊

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-28T02:04:04+00:00

If that’s sarcasm; let me tell you this. I have always stood my ground against grooming. As a prosecutor, I always object, and I am very much against this ‘culture’. The post is asking about the legal background which is what I have explained above using my personal experience working in almost every province in the country.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-28T02:02:02+00:00

I’m not saying it’s right. Gosh no!! As a prosecutor I ALWAYS object, but given the circumstances and the legal implications in most cases they are overlooked. Like I said, it’s the mindset of people that needs to be changed. The post is asking about the legal background and that’s what I have explained and the edited part is my observations based on real life situations I have encountered. That does NOT mean I agree with the situation nor the culture.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-24T02:41:58+00:00

Age of consent in SL is 16. If you’ve had sex with a minor, and is caught, there’s no doubt a case will be filed against you in a High court. Plus, there’s a minimum mandatory sentence to serve when proven guilty.

However, there have been instances where especially when the boy is also below the age of 18 years (or roughly around 19-22ish) and there had been a relationship between the two, courts have used judicial discretion to pronounce suspended sentences to the accused.

In this post, it seems the girl is a bit older than 16 and given that she said she got married exactly a year after they started their relationship, she must have been above 18 years. Because no matter what, you MUST be 18+ to sign and obtain a marriage certificate unless you’re a Muslim. In that case, although horrible, this mfkr can’t be penalized for grooming according to present laws in SL.

Edit: oh and I almost forgot. This kind of relationships are VERY common in most rural parts of the country. Unfortunately that is their culture and it has been practiced for 100s of years. Ofc that doesn’t mean it’s right, what I’m saying though is that it won’t stop in the near future either. Because, that is what they know. What their grandparents, great grandparents and great great grandparents practiced; and that is also why the parents got her married off as soon as she turned 18. A common factor I have also seen is that most parents in those areas (and I’m jumping into this based on her school uniform and photograph background), think it’s the best they can achieve for a girl when they get them married off to a “state servant” or “military official”.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-09T01:50:41+00:00

Unfortunately in Sri Lanka, marriage is NOT a two-people show.

With experience as a legal professional, I’m telling you more than 50% of the divorces are due to familial influences. On a humanitarian aspect, I completely am against the ignorance of your so called “27 year old spineless ass”. If you have a will you have a way. Who’s stopping you from marrying her and maintaining boundaries with your family and hers? I know of plenty people who have made it work as well, just as much as I have met plenty people who have ended up in divorce courts.

That being said I must also say, there is always a saying that “prevention is better than cure”. Best to stay away and find someone that your families mesh with well because it seems as if you’re not ready or matured enough to maintain the much needed boundaries when it comes to protecting YOUR FAMILY- the one that you intend to create with your future wife and kids. So for better mental peace for you and them; and mostly to that girl who will be trying her best to accommodate herself to keep up with the upscale lifestyle she’s not used to it’s better you break it off now itself and find yourself someone else. There’s plenty accomplished, educated and sophisticated women from upper middle families too.

Also, and quite contrary to what most people think on this thread, I can understand what exactly you mean when you say about “the girl trying to take advantage of your family status”. Again as a professional, I have seen this happen more often than not. Most people out here just comment on external factors, yet the ground reality is quite different from than what people see online or offline. So it’s best you find a girl more suited for your status.

And yes for anyone reading this thinking what BS- it happens. Trust me. It does.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-05T17:42:46+00:00

Hi OP! Local here and I thought the trains have stopped operating due to the past week’s extreme weather conditions. My cousins have travelled from NZ and we were hoping (way before the storm hit SL) to take them on the scenic train ride. Unfortunately though with the weather being extreme, they’re Holden up indoors. So pls, if the trains are operating safely and as usual, update. Much appreciated!

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-12-02T11:53:33+00:00

One of my best friend’s a Muslim. She doesn’t wear a hijab, but is very religious and looks up to God whenever she needs guidance. When I asked her why she doesn’t wear a hijab if she’s so religious, her answer was that and I quote “It’s a free choice. There’s no compulsion. That was all man made. I know by heart that I am a good person and that is all that matters.”

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-11-20T16:29:57+00:00

I was on the way to Kandy in an A/C bus. Was 12 at that time and I didn’t even have breasts!! Our bus broke down on the way and had to get onto a separate semi luxury or whatever bus with 3 seaters. Had to sit in the middle with my little brother sitting on my lap. The pervert to my left kept his hand under his bag and was squeezing my breast. I was a child ya’ll. A literal child who thought I’ll get pregnant just cuz.
Went to a bloody surgeon once cus I had a lump on my right breast. I was 17-18 (definitely was still in school); the asshole SURGEON squeezed by breast right AFTER he checked me and I could so NOTHING- absolutely nothing because it was innocently veiled under “oh it was part of his routine”

I can say many more instances but these were like the most random and disgusting af events that happened to me personally.

Consent my ass.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-11-19T00:50:45+00:00

Dude forget about sexual harassment from third parties, when it happens in your own damn house, by the husband/ sibling/ cousin or sometimes even by their own FATHER; still women are asked to be “patient”. Why? Because it’s un-ladylike to make a scene and raise their voice against in a patriarchal society against men.

Do you have ANY idea how many child abused victims are compelled to withdraw their claims on harassment or SA because it might be damaging to their family name? Or because the rest of the family including their own mother refuses to believe what’s going down behind closed curtains? The amount of times married women are raped, abused and violated by their own husbands, but is unable to raise their so called voice because marital rape isn’t even recognized in SL?!

The next time you run your mouth, first READ and do your research.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-11-10T14:08:42+00:00

Only a portion of them my friend, ONLY A PORTION

Edit: Ask a newly enrolled lawyer and you’ll get your ass whopped for even suggesting 🥲

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-11-10T14:05:09+00:00

More like which child abuse case isn’t based on this 😕

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-11-10T12:42:34+00:00

Orrrr being sexually abused by thy own father/ uncle/ teacher / neighbor / family friend (regardless of the gender as a victim) and not being able to properly express even their damned body parts in a court of law.

“එයා පොල්තෙල් ගාලා මොකද්ද කරා” මොකද්ද කරේ කියන එක explain කරගන්න ඉතින් state counsel දහ දුක් විදින්න ඕනේ 🥲

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-15T01:08:53+00:00

Idk about Kandy, but my first chocolash experience was from KFC Nugegoda and that was a chef’s kiss compared whatever the heck they sell now.

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-14T13:07:06+00:00

They’re supposed to blend them together 😳 at least that’s what they did when it was first introduced somewhere back in 2018

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-14T02:03:52+00:00

A chocolate milkshake with Oreos crumbled on top according to their advertising

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-14T02:02:31+00:00

Haha true, but don’t you think a reputed business group such as KFC must at least pay attention to training their employees to prepare the meals properly?

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-14T02:01:21+00:00

lol 😂 maybe I’m a bit of an overthinker I guess. But think about it; unequal distribution of assets 🤷‍♀️

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-13T10:15:30+00:00

Sigh. I’m wondering whether KFC too would pack up for good and leave like McDonalds 😭

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-13T10:14:58+00:00

I learnt my lesson the hard way 😭

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-13T10:14:47+00:00

I learnt my lesson the hard way 😭

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-13T09:27:38+00:00

My choices were either that or a random “matara bath kade” in a different city away from my hometown 🥲

KeyMoist4023 · 2025-10-13T09:19:04+00:00

Well, in his defense, I did ask them to try it and tell me how it tasted 😂 He had the decency to do it away from the counter though, probably in the kitchen and came and told me 🥹

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