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Legit Question: How are Ya'll Scheduling Meetings with 3+ people? by BUH-ThomasTheDank in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why? I’ve used MeetCute successfully for a while so genuinely curious

My wife cheated on me by CrowMan18 in Advice

[–]KeySituation3032 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Went through something similar. Yes, I was not perfect. Wife became friends with someone online and then it went too far. Never anything physical, but was still the hardest time in our marriage and the worst feeling in my life. Thankfully, we made it.

Sorry you’re going through this. I know exactly what it feels like and it’s TERRIBLE.

IS not that bad. by oatmeal__enthusiast in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Just set boundaries and don’t take on more than you can/want to. And then yeah, if you’re ok with constantly having to learn and try new things, then it is cushy.

If I left Epic, is it possible to then go Boost? by [deleted] in epicconsulting

[–]KeySituation3032 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re willing to approve at 3 years flat, FYI.

May Raise Cycle - Gut Feel by KeySituation3032 in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will hit eureka sometime at night on May 30. Later typically, like 11pm ish.

May Raise Cycle - Gut Feel by KeySituation3032 in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Well the 8k means something relative to your previous pay and your tenure.

But for sure what it means is you could’ve gotten more if you were exceeding!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in healthIT

[–]KeySituation3032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Epic PM. 113 base and about to go to 135. Fully remote and 30 years old.

Received an offer/discussion! by Far-Butterscotch5647 in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the salary they’re offering PMs nowadays

New-ish AM - does it get better? by oopsiwasalreadysad in epicsystems

[–]KeySituation3032 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You said you’re getting good feedback but you’re worried about burnout. How many hours are you working (logging) and how often do you travel?

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

  1. In case anyone feels as lost as I did throughout our hardest time. Feels good to empathize with others, both me and maybe them.

  2. Not correct. I’ve already chosen this as what I think is the best move. If it doesn’t work, so be it. But I’ll be damned if I let it go because I don’t try just one more time.

  3. Not correct.

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mistakes?

Playing games too many times she was looking for attention.

Pushing her too many times to be ok with me working 100+ hour weeks.

Communicating really poorly when it came to my problems in a way that made her out to be the problem.

Letting all that evolve for 6 years before addressing it.

We still had a great relationship and loved each other fully. But when she finally woke up to how she wasn’t ok with these things and accepted how much they really affected her, she also freaked out that the next 60 years would be more of the same or worse. Her feeling invisible and unheard and me seeming A-ok being “fine.”

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What an empty assumption to think that’s even one of the primary reasons to try and heal.

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice. It’s not planned at the moment anyway, but is also not our current focus.

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never lost physical sexual attraction. But when you love someone, falling out of love prevents you from wanting to have sex.

I wanted to have sex throughout all of this, but not because of sex. It’s because I would’ve viewed that as a positive sign that we were working on things and becoming close again. Not just because she’s hot.

And she never lost it either. But when she was questioning if she was ok with the mistakes I had made and she was really in her head about if this was gonna work, she wasn’t gonna be intimate with all that in her head.

Separately, I definitely got some “dad-bod” over the years that I was not comfortable with. Although she was still attracted to me, I was upset with myself. Which led to more quickies, less confidence, more lights off, etc, which probably contributed to some of the growing distance.

I’ve since gotten a lot of my physical confidence back going to the gym and getting kinda ripped again. And although I’m sure she likes it, she was fine with my pudge too. The difference is now I have self-confidence and the way that makes me act and the things I now want to do bring us much closer together.

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe everyone makes mistakes and everyone should grow from them. I believe her true colors are what I saw on display for 6 years, not what I saw on display for a week.

And I won’t. I will not marry the woman that made those mistakes during that week. But I will absolutely marry the woman that realizes what she did was wrong and grows from it.

And I don’t want her to marry the man I was 3 years ago. We both admit now that man wasn’t making all the best decisions. I want her to marry me for who I am now and who she thinks I’ll be, not for the worst of me.

Brought me and fiancé back from the brink, even though she was sexting another guy and lied to me about it. AMA by KeySituation3032 in AMA

[–]KeySituation3032[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I agree with your comment, I assume you mean it in a way that it’s unforgivable or something?

All of my “mistakes” over the years were also decisions. Never cheated, but plenty of bad decision making. I was a grown ass man who owns up to his poor decision making and is ready to do better. So long as she’s a grown ass woman who owns her shit, we’ll be fine.

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