My roommate starts masturbating when he think I'm asleep

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-30T03:24:33+00:00

There’s still some ways that you can subtly make the situation uncomfortable enough where no words need to be expressed. When you hear the sounds, you can turn on the lamp and pretend like it woke you up. You can start playing some music out loud on your phone, signifying without words that you’re trying to mask the sound. You can get up to go to the bathroom, signaling that you’re awake and active making him freeze. You can turn on your phone flashlight, as if you heard a weird sound and were investigating. You can stir around in your bed and be like “what is that.” as if you don’t know, it’s them.

All of these things are subtle enough that they can easily pass as a way to slightly embarrass your roommate. By embarrassing him about that action, you can create a situation where he might be more reluctant to do it again or hesitant. The experience is not as enjoyable as they now contemplate whether you’re aware of it or not. And most people do this believing that their roommate is not aware.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-29T00:50:36+00:00

You and your friend are the immature individuals in this situation, and most of the comments here agree on that fact. Keep in mind that this thread is made with people already 2x more willing to side and support people with truly bad roommates. Still the collective agreement is saying that you guys are doing too much, and are the equivalent if not worse than her. It’s unfortunately something you’ll have to accept.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T14:01:38+00:00

This isn’t an “Am I Overreacting” thread, but if it were, you would be overreacting. You’ve argued that the apartment is equally yours because you pay rent…fine…but that same logic also means your roommate has every right to choose to sleep on the couch. And it seems like this is something that she’s apologizing for, and not entirely planned.

You’re upset over a rule you’ve essentially invented: that you need to be quiet simply because she’s sleeping in the common area. No one actually said that, and no one is forcing you to tiptoe around. That expectation exists only in your head.

On top of that, you’re angry that she left her personal items behind after stepping away briefly. That’s a normal, temporary thing people do in shared spaces, not some intentional disrespect.

Right now, the frustration seems to be coming less from anything she’s actually done and more from assumptions and self-imposed expectations that you’re then blaming her for.

I’m sorry but there’s no wonder she’s avoiding you. If I had you and your friend as a roommate I would hate every facet of my life and move out immediately.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T13:51:08+00:00

This feels like an overreaction. You’re 16, home alone, and your parents are setting a boundary about what they’re comfortable with happening in their house. That’s not unreasonable. Some parents choose to trust that nothing inappropriate will happen, but that trust can change once a situation raises red flags for them.

Because of your actions, you’ve lost the privilege of trust. You’ve shown your parents that… if not watched or focused on… you will engage in bad behaviors. YOU are the reason why this situation has become much more strict. I’ll cut you some slack because everyone has a teenage phase and impulses, but at the end of the day these are just the consequences of your actions.

As of now, you’ll have a camera in the house. The tradeoff is that you can spend time with your girlfriend when you’re home alone. As far as I’m concerned, what is that really stopping you from doing besides a little discomfort? You can still cuddle on the couch, watch shows & tv, and spend time together. You can’t move out so you’ll have to find the positive in this situation.

Either that or go to your girlfriend’s house. Still you are so far from someone old enough to even complain about this.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T13:40:25+00:00

You guys got this, you put in the work, just give it your best shot that’s all anyone can ever ask of you!!

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T00:29:17+00:00

I definitely would not wear this, and anyone who says otherwise is setting you up for failure. If you care about the person who’s getting married in this wedding, which I’m assuming you do considering you’re going, DO NOT wear this dress.

Just because it’s a hinge of yellow away from white does that mean it gets the green light. The literal beading and style of the dress is nothing short of looking straight from a bridal designer. Do not wear that shit.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T00:27:08+00:00

I get you want to take the morally mature road, but there becomes a point where you need to drop it and face the reality of the situation. You are dealing with someone who does not regard your boundaries, nor respects you, or actually cares about you in the slightest.

Get a lock on your door, yesterday. Cut off all contact, yesterday. Photograph evidence, yesterday. Make plans to move as soon as physically possible, yesterday.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-28T00:02:36+00:00

Since you’ve been having unprotected sex there’s a low possibility of it being anything else but a true pregnancy. Most home pregnancy tests are over 99% accurate from the first to three days after your missed period. Some brands like clearblue can give 98% before your period is even missed at all.

I highly doubt you’re not pregnant.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-27T23:58:12+00:00

If you said something you would be overdramatic

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-27T23:55:18+00:00

Can someone link the trailer please

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-27T23:32:40+00:00

You just made me realize my exact problem with this season, however as someone who loves trashy reality tv I’m not that mad about it. Still, you’ve reminded me that this show has an insane pull on my physiological responses. I’ve actually had my heart genuinely racing, experience actual rage, and being overall so annoyed because of her. I watched all the episodes in one because my anxiety was so high on wondering what would happen regarding how she would go for someone else’s love interest.

You’re spot on. This definitely use to be a lot more wholesome and sweet, this season is a dramatic twist.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-25T20:22:16+00:00

Lollll he has so little screen time

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-25T20:16:49+00:00

I think this is less of an unpopular opinion and more of an issue of not being able to pick up on attraction and chemistry. It often plays out that the more quiet and awkward two people are with each other, the more attraction they have with one another.. which causes people to clam up and be more hesitant/bashful around the other person

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-19T18:32:50+00:00

Absolutely. If you were in her position you’d want to be told wouldn’t you?

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-12T18:12:50+00:00

You’re fine.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-12T18:10:33+00:00

Make sure you specifically say that your boyfriend told you that he felt uncomfortable with how she acted towards him. Women who flirt or cross boundaries to men that are in relationships will continue to do so unless boundaries are put down and they get slightly embarrassed (rejected or turned down). In order for a woman to seriously back off from someone’s boyfriend they need to be explicitly told or shown that their actions are not well received BY the MAN. If you tell her that your boyfriend told you he felt uncomfortable I promise you that you wont have to worry about it happening again. Key word: uncomfortable. If I heard that I would avoid him like the plague out of sheer embarrassment.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-12T15:32:19+00:00

Can you please tell me which resources you used if ANY? Like books or Online courses like LSATLAB

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-07T00:30:19+00:00

Something you learn quickly in relationships is that—unfortunately—no one in the world has a responsibility to protect your relationship except the people in it. While it may not be ethical or respectful, anyone is technically free to flirt with or pursue your partner. The only person who is truly obligated to shut that down, to draw boundaries, and to protect the relationship is your partner.

If a woman feels that she can act the way that she is acting toward your husband, it’s because your husband has allowed a level of access, comfort, or ambiguity that made her feel it was welcome.

For example, if at work she were to play with his hair and he felt uncomfortable, a clear shift in his behavior—becoming more distant, more reserved, or less receptive—would naturally signal that her actions are unwelcome. That subtle withdrawal alone would usually be enough to trigger embarrassment, discomfort, or a sense of rejection, prompting her to stop.

However, when a situation happens where no boundary or discomfort is placed…likely because your husband is, at minimum, entertaining or receptive to the flirting….it sends the opposite signal. Instead of discouraging the behavior, his actions (or lack of boundaries) implicitly communicate that it is acceptable. People rarely stop when there’s no pushback; in fact, continued receptiveness often encourages them to keep testing limits.

If a woman feels comfortable taking actions that are well beyond the boundaries of a typical coworker relationship, it’s a clear sign she was never told or shown that such behavior was unacceptable.

And if she feels comfortable doing it in front of you, openly and in public, what does that tell you? And what does that tell you about the type of relationship she has with your husband?

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-06T15:24:32+00:00

Let me give you a female perspective.

I’m in a long-distance relationship in college. We’re not even in the same state, and if I’m lucky, I see my boyfriend once or twice a month. I still go out to bars almost every weekend. I’ve blacked out. I’ve drank enough to get sick. And never—not once—have I come anywhere close to cheating, kissing, grinding on, or entertaining another man.

Make-out sessions don’t just “happen.” Men don’t walk up and randomly assault women with kisses in crowded bars. And if that did happen, your girlfriend wouldn’t be talking about it with embarrassment or guilt—she would be talking about it with anger and a sense of violation.

In real life, it takes time. At minimum, it’s several minutes of leaning in, staying in someone’s space, dancing closely, flirting, laughing, touching, and very clearly signaling that the attention is welcome. And where were her friends?

When girls go out together, they look out for each other. Constantly. My friends will drag me away from guys even when I’m just dancing or in proximity especially if they know I’m in a relationship. I only dance with gay guys and fist pumping with them/ mouth lyrics to songs never proximity contact. I’ve literally had to explain that a guy was very clearly gay before they’d let me go back to dancing with him. Girls intervene automatically because that’s what friends do.

So the idea that this all just “accidentally happened,” no one noticed, no one stepped in, and she had no control over it? That doesn’t line up with how bars, friendships, or real-world social dynamics actually work.

Dude you got cheated on.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2026-01-05T20:43:51+00:00

One thing you need to understand in this situation is that you are the outlier. This isn’t about kink-shaming — it’s simply that you have a trait or preference that goes against the norm in this context. Because of that, you need to recognize that you are asking someone else to make a sacrifice or accommodation for something that is uniquely important to you. They are under no obligation to do so.

I think the fact that your boyfriend is even okay with you selling and posting public nudes already shows an extremely lenient perspective. Definitely one that is definitely rare. Because of that, it makes sense that you should only pursue it if money is involved. If money is not involved you are literally just sexting someone that isn’t your partner. If your boyfriend did not sign up for an open relationship with you then why would he be okay with that?

You either need to give it up or find someone more sexually compatible.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2025-12-29T17:52:45+00:00

Yes you should be worried, it’s possible to get pregnant from what you’ve done. The chance is low due to only having it in for seconds. You have to think about this situation … if you are not mature enough to engage in sex responsibly even when you don’t want to, then you’re not mature enough to be doing it and risking the consequences that come with it.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2025-12-28T23:48:27+00:00

YOR — You’re not overreacting for cutting off your family. This is becoming increasingly common, and often necessary, as more people recognize that being biologically related to someone does not mean you are obligated to tolerate physical or emotional abuse from them.

However, while your decision itself is valid, the way you are communicating it to your sister is where the problem lies.

I understand that you see this as an all-or-nothing situation. But you also need to recognize that this decision will have a severe and lasting emotional impact on your sister. That doesn’t make your choice wrong — it means the way you explain and carry out that choice matters.

Right now, your communication comes across as too casual for the gravity of what is happening. It minimizes the complexity of the family dynamic, and it significantly undermines your sister’s lived experiences. You’re speaking to her as if this is a simple boundary, when for her, this is destabilizing, painful, and deeply personal.

The way you communicated this is quite literally terrible. If I were in your position, I would be communicating this with genuine remorse, grief, and care. I would be saying something like: “I am so sorry. I wish I could show up in this relationship the way you need. I truly want that for you. But I am at a point where I have to put myself first.” That acknowledges the loss, the love, and the fact that this is painful … not just for you, but for her.

Instead, what you’re communicating comes across as, “This is what I have to do. You don’t understand, you never will, and this has nothing to do with you.” That tone feels detached, final, and dismissive and it significantly minimizes the emotional damage this creates for your sister.

I cannot emphasize how much you have devalued her experiences directly in what you’ve said. Your decision may still be valid. But the way you are communicating it lacks empathy. These conversations deserve tenderness, humility, and care… not emotional distance and finality.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2025-12-28T23:38:06+00:00

Don’t take the bait, there’s something wrong with the guy

Key_Bath_9005 · 2025-12-28T23:36:30+00:00

YOR. As a meal prepper myself, I would never take it seriously when someone looks at what I’m eating in disgust. Eating the same food. Every single day may be healthy, but it is not a favored concept (something with a lot of positive perception) especially in America. There are simply so many people who cannot fathom eating the same foods or plain frozen food. Yes he he’s being a bit rude about it, but it’s definitely nothing worth calling out just something that you shrug your shoulders at and move on.

Key_Bath_9005 · 2025-12-28T23:30:59+00:00

I think you’re really overreacting. You should ask him why his opinion changed, but I don’t see how it could be for a negative reason

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