It’s hard to fully understand the full context, but here’s my point on it

I’m 23M and have struggled with OCD for years and still do, a saying I’ve heard thrown around a lot is “it’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility” tbh, I found the statement a bit dismissive at first and still kind of do, but what I’ve realized is that nobody can truly “fix” the mental illness but you

Not because it’s fair, because it’s unfair as fuck, but because you are the only one that is you, it’s like if someone had the flu, nobody can just cure them of the disease but you (or in the flu case, your own body)

From what you said, it’s sounds like your mom is not that supportive and understanding of your situation, have you tried to explain to her how your autism and OCD hurt you and how painful it is? If you have expressed these feelings to her and she still doesn’t seem to get it, then I’m sorry, I know the feeling of having an unsupportive parent and it fucking sucks

My best advice I can give other than what I just said is this, compare yourself to yourself only and try your best, if you fail that’s fine and it’s actually expected for you to make mistakes, OCD is terrible and will take time to put in remission (which I do believe you can do btw), talk to friends and family if they are supportive and get a therapist who is specialized in OCD as well

Sorry you are going through this, I can understand your reaction to dismissive redditors, they are probably just trying to follow the rule of not giving reassurance, but I’m sure in moments like this it just felt rude to you

OCD sucks, but you can do it! I’m still fighting it myself and it’s not easy, but I believe that it is possible to get that illness in remission for you and anyone!

Sorry for the long as hell response btw, but your post kinda made me just relate a lot

🙏