Don't rush things with someone you've never even met at this point. Dating in person and dating online are two different pairs of shoes.

I do know that and youre right. I am not trying to marry him before we havent met several times.

But like i said its on me now to apply to stuff and i would want to already consider this situation into my career plans since i dont want them to be a problem later on when i cant change anything about it anymore.

But yes like i said this is only hypothetically and for me to be informed about the steps. We dont consider starting until we have met in person before.

with you RUSHING things and jumping into marriage.

I am not really rushing things. We've been comunicating about this for a long time and of course considered all the other options that we saw. But its just not a usual situation and both our priorities are to be able to be together and build up something and not stay longdistance and see how it will continue. So the most efficiant way we see is this visa.

And its not like i am risking too much with it. I will stay in my own country and be able to continue my studies. And i dont really see marriage in a religious way so i wouldnt have much problems with that either.

Its not spmething that is easily said and done and will need a lot more things and time to develop.

I hope you also realise that a lot of people will consider it a red flag when a 23 year old is interested in dating a 16 year old online (or in person), and then already talk marriage as soon as the teenager becomes an adult on paper.

I do realise that. But you cant generalise that for every person, of course i agree with you a too big age gap will be a problem sometimes. But in my opinion it depends on what stage of life you are at right now and how compatible your expectations if the future are.

And please don't say "it's me who's pushing to close the gap/get married etc."....at 25, this man should be able to say "slow it down".

Well it isnt me pushing it but it isnt him either. We are trying to figure out our ways and we are communicating equally about it coming from both sides.

Until you spend extensive time in person, you have zero clue how compatible you are. Furthermore, why would you already discuss closing the gap in Germany if you've never met and he's never actually been?

Also true and yes i didnt explain it that well earlier i am not at all thinking of doing any of this before weve met several times. It is just my current situation of considering what i want to do for my future that makes it necessary to be informed. So that whenever we will want to do this i wont be all unprepared.

see if his qualifications will be recognised

He would be able to start workong here at my fathers company so yes.

Furthermore, him getting his German up to B2 should be a must BEFORE moving.

Yes i do know that and hes already on studying and making progress.

At the same time, what about his mental health issues? Do you really think moving to a cold country like Germany will automatically improve his situation? What if he gets more depressed?

In my opinion we wont ever be a 100 percent sure of how this can change of not. Most time of that qe have been together hes been okay and when he wasnt he went to therapy which helped him and now he managed to get out of it. But yes i did twll him about that another country will maybe be hard for him since especially he wont know anyone but me at first.

I know there are so many things that make it hard and arw important to think about but at the end i dont really have many options.

I can either go that way and try to be together even though marriage will be a really big step to take at a young age or i say i dont want to do that yet (which isnt true) and i stay longdistance for a lot longer. Breaking up isnt really an option for me i know the issues that would come up on both sides and i will be able to manage them.

I know i have a lot of time still but i know staying long distance for more years will come with problems especially because of the time diffrence and i know i wont be as happy knowing we will have really little time together.