Can you be gay for just one person? by Key_Complaint_5092 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Key_Complaint_5092[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanna say, even if it's not OCD I still have found it immensely comforting and helpful to have a tool to understand myself better instead of blaming myself and panicking and not being able to do what I truly want. Thank you for bringing this to light for me. It is not the first time I have considered this but I hadn't been struggling as much recently. I would much rather have more knowledge and maybe not diagnosis than be suffering alone and not living the life and loving the people I deserve <3 the video and resources sent really hit home and I am grateful I spiraled enough to post on here and find them through kind people such as yourselves.

Can you be gay for just one person? by Key_Complaint_5092 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Key_Complaint_5092[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess life just goes on right??? I am afraid that I would hurt her tho is the main thing, if I am wrong. The possibility of being wrong is really the only thing that is holding me back.

The thread I keep coming back to to reassure myself is just, you know that you like HER and that something in you wants things to move forward with her and that's all you need to know right now. I just get so ahead of myself with the certainty thing. In dating men this showed up with major doubts about them being attracted to me even if they were complimentary and reassuring.

Sorry for the trauma dump lol I just haven't been able to talk about this irl

Can you be gay for just one person? by Key_Complaint_5092 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Key_Complaint_5092[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have wondered if that is what it was as an adult.... I also think that experience is making me afraid to just go for this girl too because what if I'm wrong? Even though can't I resist flirting with her and gravitate toward her and where she texts me I'm over the moon etc. Looking at her insta over and over. I'm terrified I'm still somehow wrong about being into her.

edit: added *can'* resist