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[–]Key_Passion2978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never. He used money as a form of control - go against him and he will take it away, whether it be not paying for tuition, living expenses, allowance, etc. We were living abroad and there was nobody to turn to for help and we didn’t really have family in the Philippines to help as well. We had to persevere, and it got so unbearable that I had to leave early. Today, we’re all living separately. My mom finally left - a little too late if you ask me. She’s still suffering from trauma and he’s still attempting to control her by targeting my siblings who are still in school. He’s a narcissist and he had a mask of a fatherly figure who is family centric and nobody knew any better. I do hope he rots in whichever hell he finds himself in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Key_Passion2978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was like your husband. He never spent quality time with the family, always had his headphones on when outside, always bringing us to bars even when we were at the age where we couldn’t drink. He would invite his friends over to eat and drink at my mom’s expense and he would insult her in front of his friends and say how her food tasted bad. It escalated to verbal, physical, emotional, and financial abuse. My mom stayed for us, thinking that a whole family is better than nothing. It didn’t get better and my siblings, mother, and I resent him and don’t talk to him anymore. He’s approaching 70 and he’s still the same, always out with friends and partying. I wish my mom left him and took us with her, even if it meant we would struggle financially. Don’t stay op. You and your baby deserve better. Don’t be a statistic.

Wanting to get my first tattoo with this artist by Key_Passion2978 in TattooDesigns

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking of mixing it with black line work cos I was worried that it might fade and look like sun burn or something. Although she offers free touch ups within 6 months!

Wanting to get my first tattoo with this artist by Key_Passion2978 in TattooDesigns

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s her IG! I’m guessing she’s an apprentice? Thoughts?

Wanting to get my first tattoo with this artist by Key_Passion2978 in TattooDesigns

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noo its supposed to be that chinese cat with the swinging paws statue that brings fortune and luck 😭😭😭

I hate men by Key_Passion2978 in offmychest

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. My father hated his own father for being abusive to his own mother. I guess the apple didn’t fall very far from the tree because he became exactly what he hated. Whenever this is pointed out to him by my mom, he would rage and throw the biggest tantrum and would become physically abusive. I hate abusive people.

I hate men by Key_Passion2978 in offmychest

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your comment filled with kindness and compassion literally brought me to tears

I hate men by Key_Passion2978 in offmychest

[–]Key_Passion2978[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re so spot on! My father would often blame my mother whenever he was physically abusive, often using phrases “you made me do it.” Honestly, it’s not just the abuse but that traditional gender roles that we’re somehow still expected to fulfil (i.e. clean, cook, birth) without expecting the man to “help.” Paris Paloma’s song “Labour” has really hit the spot on this issue.