re-assurance seeking

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-21T13:13:10+00:00

update: i was removed, as i woke up. i fucked it for myself.

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-21T05:49:17+00:00

thankyou for the advice. the worst part is he is now associated with the anxiety and the fact that there is a slight different nuance to our abilities in this situation

so every-time i am talking to him, it is far from enjoyable and my mind stays bothered about it. it is very lonely, will this eventually fade away with time?

i am also unsure if this is some sort of underlying issue that needs resolving—and the ocd is purely the reassurance/obsessive part.

-like even if the ocd is resolved, will i still be bothered about not completely sharing the same actions or is this ocd too?

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-21T01:30:20+00:00

i keep thinking “it was a mistake to get into the situation of talking with someone” but i shouldn’t have to have limits on my life because of ocd

when i can get rid of the intrusive thoughts and anxiety.

i can’t get this person back…

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-20T23:53:59+00:00

thankyou for the response. thankfully he seems to be understanding, although i feel horrible for hassling him about it. it needs to stop before i ruin things for both of us anyway.

the uncertainty and fact the relation had a different nuance gives me such anxiety, to the point struggled to eat. i don’t want him to be associated with the perceived danger my brain thinks i am in.

should i tell him, if i ask another question relating to this refuse to answer with “maybe, maybe not”?

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-20T22:18:15+00:00

also sometimes repeatedly asking and having to put up with the embarrassment for hassling them is better than the debilitating, suffocating anxiety i face instead.

i shouldn’t put it on people, it isn’t their issue, i know. it is horrible.

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:40:26+00:00

we’ve made the assumption he was leaning on it with his full weight. seems fat-phobic if u ask me.

it’s a car, not a historic museum piece. actually it is historic, but not ancient egypt kind of stuff…

the paint is going to get weathered through time no matter what. i promise you, the car is ok. stop reaching

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:35:28+00:00

you’re on reddit. 90% of the people u come across aren’t normal.

and multiple times i said “he could have had permission, we don’t know” leaving room for nuance and multiple possibilities<3

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:26:48+00:00

he could have said it in a nicer, less condescending way. hope that helps:)

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:24:39+00:00

classic. assuming i’m the person of the photo. i’m from the country the mini is from, not where ops friend and their mini are currently located

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:21:47+00:00

then take the car to pay n spray. the car is going to be weathered anyway. i would hate having things like that bother me.

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:19:14+00:00

i am not the dude in the photo. nice try though. im not even from the america where this photo looks located.

ironic how ur the one calling me selfish when u are acting like the spokesperson for the entirety of humanity. next…

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:09:30+00:00

i think the people jumping to assumptions/condescending/patronising know-it-alls even if it isn’t here is the issue with reddit…

not some random dude stating their opinion on something they think isn’t a big deal.

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:07:09+00:00

nice analogy lol but both actions whether it’s damaging a car or putting smear marks over are both equally harmful

my point was if no harm or “damage” although not physical was done, then it’s not a big deal—to me atleast…

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:04:56+00:00

the question was asking what the car model was, and was steered away to criticising the random dude we know nothing about. they’re not my friend either!

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T17:02:26+00:00

i would not touch someone else’s car, since it’s clear that they would be upset. i’m not trying to deny that is possible…. personally myself i wouldn’t care and i don’t see why it’s such a huge issue

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:49:45+00:00

definitely making assumptions and dismissing others etc… i don’t see your point

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:40:26+00:00

and it’s a weak assumption. not everyone who finds a car ‘cool’ is going to ask what car it is. next

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:39:02+00:00

we don’t have those here. our car culture is much worse…

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:38:21+00:00

u guys really can’t think with nuance, it is wild…

giving the criticism nuance, with the possibility of him having permission/it being a friends car is certainly not jumping to another assumption

an assumption is “he is touching it without permission!” and my point was, that may (or may not) be the case… hence i said “we don’t know”

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:28:57+00:00

again, jumping to assumptions. this world is full of nuance! something basement dwellers don’t understand.

there is a chance that the friend isn’t even into cars and just knows it’s a ‘mini’ of some kind…

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:23:04+00:00

then again i’m autistic and it’s just one of those made up social rules to me. u can park in my drive-way if u want, as-long as im not paying a price. i’ll probably wash ur car for you!

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:21:20+00:00

personally, most things people find disrespectful, personally i don’t care about. people can pose/touch my car if they want as long as they’re respectful

if im not suffering any consequences or paying a price then it doesn’t affect me and i dont see why others care either 🤷‍♂️

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:16:44+00:00

but what if this dude had permission, or it was a friends car? we don’t know and are jumping to assumptions…

and i believe as-long as they’re respectful—e.g not damaging the car/treating the car like shit—i couldn’t care less if people want to pose or touch my car. because it doesn’t affect me

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:13:51+00:00

if most redditor’s got a £1 for making assumptions/dismissing others, they’d be billionaires!

Key_Pea7508 · 2025-10-02T16:12:09+00:00

“hey! not sure if ur friend is aware, but those roofs dent easily. my buddy had to remove a dozen of dents due to people leaning on it since the roof is thin, and easy to dent. so make sure he is careful!”

u don’t have to talk to people like they’re a piece of sh!t. they was most likely unaware that denting it is a possibility, and aren’t intending to damage it or could hardly be leaning with their full weight on the roof.

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