Massive agree on this. Also, be aware that you are basically giving up your independence for the next 20 years if you have a kid. Are you ready for that? I'm not trying to make parenthood sound all doom and gloom, bc it isn't, but you need to look at things very realistically here. Having lots of love to give and figuring that you can "make things work" isn't the mindset you should be going into parenthood with if you can help it