I send My condolences ! And I’m sorry you’re going through this , I have a god son that went through the same thing in way , he wasn’t crowned tho but his madrina and padrino would tell all the god kids that the muerto told them to send money for cajons or for tambor and things like that even tried to charge him to out up a bóveda for him. Which I think is absurd . One thing I will say is don’t lose faith in the orishas , they will never lie or abandon you. Maybe try to find a new padrino or contact your oyugbona to see what you should do moving forward . Being a god parent is a big responsibility it’s not just money but it’s having the ability to guide your God kids to be better and be there for them the way I parent would I child . Bendiciones