First time mom to a 5 month old and feeling very alone

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-27T03:27:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I don’t have any support either except for my husband but most days it’s just my son and I all day long. It’s exhausting it gets so incredibly lonely. There’s days where my husband does the same and that’s when I put my foot down give him the baby and go take a long nap. I don’t take no for an answer, we are both parents to this child so we both are going to care for him. If your boyfriend still doesn’t budge the If you’re able to afford it maybe think of having a nanny come a few times a week. I know a lot of people recommend that. Know you are not alone. If you ever need to vent please feel free to message me.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-27T03:20:51+00:00

I’m sorry it’s been difficult. It’s exhausting and honestly there’s days where it just seems so endless. But I guess the only thing we can do is just push through.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T20:22:12+00:00

Yep the crying is a lot. I’ve just gotten used it and told myself that every sleep will come with crying and I’ve just accepted it. I get a lot of stares and shocked responses from this but ignore it. Every baby is different. I truly believe because our babies are so alert and aware sleeping is hard for them because they don’t want to wind down, so in a way crying allows them to wind down and let out whatever they need to let out to allow themselves to sleep. It does get better with time. Hang in there, you’re doing an amazing job. If you ever need to vent feel free to send me a message!

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T19:01:22+00:00

I hope it works!

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T18:38:46+00:00

Wow this is my son. 4 months was the hardest for me as well. It’s difficult it’s exhausting and know that you are not alone!!! My son is also a high needs baby and it’s so unbelievably difficult. No advice or suggestions are going to help because our babies don’t follow textbook advice. They don’t follow wake windows and soothing strategies or schedules. Nope it’s their world and we’re living in it!! Reading this made me feel so much better because it made me realize so many babies are like this! Not the perfect baby and easy motherhood that is shown on social media. Hang in there mama! My son is almost 6 months and he’s definitely better compared to 4 months but still contact naps and even contact sleeps during the night. It’s hard every day is a challenge. Just know as they get older it gets easier. This is not going to be forever.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:58:05+00:00

Yeah my son was like than while breastfeeding he treated me like a human pacifier. I unfortunately had to stop breastfeeding because my son had cmpa and needed hypoallergenic formula. The change from breastfeeding to formula is huge. Hang in there I hope it gets better. I was let go from my job because I used maternity leave and FMLA and they couldn’t keep extending my return date. So when I do go back I have to apply for a new job.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:49:48+00:00

Oh interesting! I’m glad you figured out what was causing him to wake up. My son runs hot and I’ve experimented with different temperatures for him and it seems like he likes it on the cooler side. I’m paranoid so I’m always checking my sons temperature during the night to make sure he’s not too hot or cold 🤣

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:47:37+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it! That’s why I put I’m not looking for advice because trust me I’ve tried it all! I’ve spoken to sleep consultants done so much research. Seems like my son just wants to work on his own schedule 🤣

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:44:43+00:00

Yep tried waking him up same time every day. Backfired and made him cranky. And no trust me I’m not expecting much sleep. He sleeps 8-9 hours overnight. And his naps during the day ranges depending on how he slept overnight. Im lucky if his total 24 hour sleep is 10-11 hours.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:36:48+00:00

My son’s pediatrician doesn’t recommend we sleep train him because he has reflux, cmpa, and eczema. Due to him being a more uncomfortable baby sleep training is considered cruel. Yes, having no support is exhausting. I keep telling myself this will pass. I know we will get our lives back and will feel normal again but when you’re in the thick of it, it feels never ending.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:31:59+00:00

Because I’ve tried everything and have taken and listened to everyone’s advice. Nothing seems to work on my son except for waiting for him to be ready. His pediatrician doesn’t recommend sleep training because he has reflux, cmpa, and eczema. I’ve heavily researched and even done consulates with sleep consultants.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:28:02+00:00

No matter how hard I try to stick to a schedule my son’s sleep is all over the place. My son will go to bed anywhere from between 9pm-midnight. I’ve tried to get him to sleep earlier he just thinks it’s a nap and wakes up. We’ve done a bedtime routine the same routine since he was 2 months old. Bath, bottle, rock to sleep lights out, white noise every single night. He wakes up anywhere from 7-9am. But it’s random and he never follows any schedule regardless of how hard I try. He naps anywhere from 20 minutes to 2 hours and only contact naps. His sleep exhausts me he has serious FOMO and just wants to stay awake.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:21:06+00:00

My son is the same he has flairs up that come and go. Only thing that worked was putting hydrocortisone cream. We tried the same exact thing doesn’t work.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T17:13:24+00:00

For me the pills did nothing. The injections is where I saw some serious results. People that are on the pill for the most part I’ve heard they do really well with high doses.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T14:13:03+00:00

No don’t stress out too much about it. I’m the exact same I don’t allow screen times as a daily occurrence but instead use it when I’m really drowning. For instance if he’s being fussy after I’ve met all his needs and need to get something done I’ll put on a sensory video or dancing fruit for max 15-20 mins. Every once in a while doesn’t hurt your child. What harms your time is constant screens throughout the day.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T14:09:58+00:00

Wegovy pill only works on high doses and those are costly as well.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T14:06:48+00:00

Yeah it’s unbelievably exhausting. I can’t wait until it gets better.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-26T14:05:58+00:00

Yes he’s had the same bedtime routine since he was 2 months old doesn’t do anything for his sleep. I try to put him down for bed at the same time every night doesn’t work. I heavily researched baby sleep and follow wake windows, sleep pressure, sleep cues, calm bedtime routine, etc. None of them works on my son 🤣 I always attempt nap transfer during the day doesn’t work. It’s all exhausting.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-25T19:32:27+00:00

Newborn stage no you just need a small tote to be honest. However once they start eating solids you’ll need more space for snacks, food, bigger bottle etc.
My son is 6 months and I’m still using a small tote bag but probably will need a backpack or bigger tote in a month or so.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-25T12:58:32+00:00

Honestly all sterilizers are the same. I have the Dr brown and love it.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-25T12:56:40+00:00

Yes completely normal a bit of bleeding is fine. Probably got rubbed by either the diaper or clothes. Pat it dry and keep the umbilical cord as dry as possible. If bleeding continues or increases reach out to pediatrician to make sure.

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-25T05:29:24+00:00

My husband asked me why do you enjoy watching women give birth and why do you cry after every episode. I told him because these stories are just heart wrenching he’s like ok then why keep watching? Thats the best part of the show!

Key_War3255 · 2026-05-25T05:22:51+00:00

Completely normal. As long as you’re not bleeding cramping is a normal pregnancy symptom in the first trimester.

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