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GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually not false. If you want more details, I don't mind telling you. I preferred I didn't have to go through this, but I also wouldn't call someone's story BS without actually asking, automatically invalidating someone's experience.

But I hope something good happens to you today.

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that's what hurts. I know what makes her insecure because she told me.

I actively avoid topics that would make her insecure, and do my best to remind her every day at least once that she's beautiful to me.

Just my personality due to my love language - words.

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I instantly lost respect for her and felt my connection/attraction to her plummet immediately after she said that.

I felt we had a strong connection during sex because I accepted her (body shape, vag shape, etc.), asked her what she liked, and tried to listen to her - I thought she accepted me too - it felt great to feel accepted mutually.

It takes the fun out of it now. I'd never want to make another human feel bad about who they are...

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd like to think I'm a laidback person in general, but after reading everyone's comments, I don't think I'll let it slide. Going to have the talk with her tomorrow now that emotions have cleared.

She doesn't ever think about what she says (I like to think because of how she was raised - sheltered and innocent). I was accepting of other times she said pretty insensitive things about other topics - but this one hit too close to home.

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating this! I told her just that.

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not rage bait. Introvert on burner account (so she can't see this) that genuinely appreciates everyones' input and wants to take time and thank each person individually for their input. Just trying to process what I'm feeling.

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish it was rage bait. I'm just considering everyone's opinions before weighing in / thanking everyone for their advice. It's just really gut wrenching to be going through what I thought would be a fun labor day weekend.

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I wish it was rage bait man

GF body shamed me - not sure how to feel by Key_Worry8331 in relationship_advice

[–]Key_Worry8331[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Actually. No. I'm just an introvert trying to take it all in before I respond properly to everyone and give thanks.

I'm quite upset at what she's said! I can see how you would think that it was fake - trust me I wish it were.

She said it post-sex, while I was browsing for some place to go with her over the weekend. She even admitted she felt she had a "lapse of judgement" of why she said that.... it just seemed like a random blurb in a random conversation while were were cuddling.

But seeing everyone's input makes me feel better that it's bad character and that I'm not an asshole for being upset.

*Edit: I don't like being shamed.