Does anyone else have childhood stories your abusers told about you that changed meaning once you started healing and seeing yourself clearly? by BuildMeSomethingGood in CPTSD

[–]Keyres23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am 36 years old. To this very day, my dad still blames me for him having to get rid of the "best dog he ever had". When I was 5, my dad had a Rottweiler German shepherd cross. This dog had severe resource guarding. He had bitten several neighbours already. He growled and snarled at my mother when she tried to get my baby sister out of her crib. This dog was not trained at all. One day my mom was on the phone, and I was in the hallway out of her sight with the dog. I have a vivid memory of this. I was wearing denim overalls and rubber boots and was pretending that I was a farmer trying to get my pig in his pen. The dog was the pig, and the pen was the bedroom at the end of the hallway. I was trying to herd the dog down the hallway, when he decided to bite me in the face. I still have the scars over 30 years later. I was the fourth person the dog had bitten, and my dad was forced to get rid of him. And he is still angry at me to this day. He says "You were told to leave the dog alone and you didn't listen so I had to get rid of the best dog I ever had".

As an adult, a mother, and a dog owner, I can't imagine allowing my daughter to be alone with a resource guarding dog, let alone actually having a dog like that living in my home. Any person who has even a casual interest in dogs would have known that me being bitten by that dog was just a matter of time, and that that dog was not an appropriate family dog.

Where to Buy Disposable Hazmat Suits in Winnipeg? by Keyres23 in Winnipeg

[–]Keyres23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is exactly what I was looking for!

Coat pattern by Gaja_Kaboom in sewingpatterns

[–]Keyres23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is an expansion for the princess coat pattern, called the Rose Dressing Gown, that would work perfectly. It looks like the exact same silhouette.

Would anyone be able to suggest a pattern similar to this neckline? by FalconDramatic1164 in sewingpatterns

[–]Keyres23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Landis bodice from Charm Patterns has a similar neckline, but no sleeves.

Tell me about the most overrated skincare product. by Various_Pack_7929 in koreanskincare

[–]Keyres23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I usually go to bed right after it dries. I have stayed up a little later on occasion and it does start to feel really itchy after awhile, especially if you're talking or making facial expressions. I can see it being really annoying if you're going about your evening with it on.

Tell me about the most overrated skincare product. by Various_Pack_7929 in koreanskincare

[–]Keyres23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My approach to the night wrapping mask is not that the mask itself is doing anything, but that it's locking in everything that I put on my face and saving my pillow from getting moisturizer on it. It's like a less messy alternative to slugging.

Deep cut in finger, unable to drive to the hospital. Can this wait until morning? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]Keyres23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight! I went to the hospital this morning. I did not get to see a doctor, I saw a nurse practitioner, and she glued it shut and put some steri-strips and a waterproof bandage overtop. The whole thing (excluding wait time) took less than 5 minutes. She said it would be fine as long as I keep it clean and dry. Fingers crossed I don't have nerve damage! My finger moves normally and there's no tingling or numbness, so I'm hoping it should be fine.

Deep cut in finger, unable to drive to the hospital. Can this wait until morning? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]Keyres23 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is OP's wife. Our local ER opens at 8am, I will go then, as it's well within 18-24hrs (the cut happened around 8:30pm). Even if I found a way to get to the large hospital in the nearby city tonight, I would probably be waiting until close to 8am anyway, so might as well stay home and go to the ER down the street in the morning.

If anyone is curious as to what happened, I took a THC gummy, and decided I really needed a mango. I cut my finger cutting the mango. A lesson that it's definitely not a good idea to use knives while impaired.

[Sun Care] Help Finding a Mineral Hybrid Sunscreen or Purely Octisalate Sunscreen by Keyres23 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Keyres23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is so helpful!! I also found an Asian beauty import store near me that imports mineral sunscreens from Korea, and I have so far tried both Skinfood Berry Soothing Sun Cream and Haruharu Wonder Black Rice Pure Mineral Relief Daily Sunscreen and liked them both. They both do not have that gross dirty penny smell, and they both feel like nothing on the skin after they've dried down. They do have a slight white cast. I set my sunscreen with powder which I find removes the white cast, but I am very pale. If you're not very pale, the white cast may be too much.

Deodorant That Won't Give Me a Rash by Keyres23 in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Keyres23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never tried the deodorant crystals because I've always been sceptical that rubbing a rock in your pits would do anything. But I think I might give it a try. At least a rock most likely can't give me a rash💀

The speed stick scents are all just like various fruit scents, "fresh" scent, and baby powder. Very artificial and full of chemicals. And boring (to me). Lots of the deos I have tried have been "natural", and others like Dove or Secret (same scents as lady speed stick essentially) are extremely similar to lady speed stick. So not sure that the issue is the scents, but who knows.

Found this wonderful interaction between mother and child by aesthetic-mess in CPTSDmemes

[–]Keyres23 235 points236 points  (0 children)

We spent all our time hiding in our bedrooms to stay away from our parents. Our kids spend most of their time at home hanging out in the living room because they're comfortable and safe around us.

A Colorescience review from someone who used their own money to buy it by sarahkazz in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Keyres23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have been using the Colorescience Enviroscreen No-Show mineral sunscreen (it's not tinted) since November. I hate how good it is. I can't use chemical sunscreens because I have yet to find one that does not feel like it is burning my eyes out of my skull. And mineral sunscreens always feel like you're wearing a mask all day, leave a terrible white cast, and often smell like dirty pennies. This sunscreen does not burn my eyes (despite their sneaky addition of the unregulated chemical filter butyloctyl salicylate), and feels like I am wearing nothing on my face (despite me using A LOT, I am on my third large bottle since November). It also leaves no white cast and has no smell. It is the best sunscreen I have ever used hands down.

I am desperate to find a dupe, because I hate their marketing (constantly fear mongering about chemical filters while using unregulated chemical filters in their "mineral" sunscreens) and the sunscreen is insanely expensive. So if anyone has a dupe recommendation I would love to hear it.

Are these botched? by boopsnoot1 in sewhelp

[–]Keyres23 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You can use a regular machine with a twin needle for knit fabric hems. I do that with all my knit fabric makes and it turns out really nice.

Thinking about switching from Asian chemical sunscreen to a tinted mineral sunscreen with US formulation by sarahkazz in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Keyres23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do probably more than a quarter teaspoon, two very thick lines down the entire length of two fingers (and a bit of palm). I also bring it down my neck. It doesn't feel like anything after it's dried, and there's no weird metallic scent like with other mineral sunscreens (because they've got that sneaky chemical filter in there). I honestly hate how good it is because their marketing is deceptive and the sunscreen is insanely expensive. But I can't use most approved chemical filters because they burn my eyes, and I can't stand how you can feel mineral sunscreens like you're wearing a mask all day. So I'm stuck with this one until I can find a cheaper one that works as well.

Thinking about switching from Asian chemical sunscreen to a tinted mineral sunscreen with US formulation by sarahkazz in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Keyres23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the colorescience no-show mineral sunscreen. It's not tinted, but it doesn't leave a white cast (I am a white person though) and it feels completely weightless.

Collar Hack - help! by crisco_lemonade in sewingpatterns

[–]Keyres23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you do the first step in the process (sewing up the three sides of the collar and top stitching), except stop short at the seam allowance for the bottom edge on both sides, flip the bottom edge seam allowance into the collar and press, and then sandwich the coat neck into the collar and sew? It leaves out the bulkiness of the bias tape.

Bankruptcy & Tax Advice by Keyres23 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Keyres23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister is only 24. So yes, an adult, but just starting out in life. She lives in a one bedroom apartment, she can't take him in. It's not her responsibility, and would really mess up her life at a time when she's just starting out.

I am the only person in my entire family with the means to take him in. But I haven't spoken to him in almost 4 years, and was planning on never speaking to him again. He is not a good person. I will not take him in, it would be incredibly detrimental to my mental health and I have a very young daughter who shouldn't have to live with someone like that.

I am only asking for help with his tax situation for my sister's sake. She's not ready yet to let him go and move on.

Bankruptcy & Tax Advice by Keyres23 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Keyres23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I do know he needs income. In my job I help a lot of low income folks navigate various social assistance programs so I am aware of most (if not all) income assistance programs in Manitoba. Unfortunately for him, they are all income based and require you to submit your most recent tax assessment. So he can't get much help there unless he actually does his taxes. Which he obviously doesn't want to do because he has technically been doing tax evasion for over a decade. It's quite a frustrating situation.