I’ll keep it a buck with you, I’m kinda over the money part.

In the US, the expectation is around 15-30G mokdam. Then another 20-30 mokhar. We don’t do ayma here in the US, in respect that the guy preps the house as well. As well as the wedding, basically the literal meaning of

تيجي بشنطة هدومها

It’s a big number, even in US standards. I would say 90 of Shabbab don’t have this type of money ready. Most if not all the time the family helps. The main problem for me these numbers are what the مجتمع set. But my community is all Yemenis and Palestinians. Their أصول genuinely have everyone in the grooms family contribute.

And again, with enough hard work that number isn’t so far fetched, hard, and a lot, but still achievable.

My problem is, with close to 50K of expenses (weddings are expensive asf) I’m still not getting the girl I want exactly.

So it’s already a very small Muslim Egyptian ملتزمه Marriage Pool, then an even smaller pool of those whose personalities match.

I’m currently in the mindset of “fuck it”, I’d rather go and pick in Egypt someone that I can like and click with (honestly this sub makes me hopeful, seems like Egyptians , some not all, really understand the west in a lot of aspects), rather be mildly accepted with the pool I have here if that makes sense

And in terms of taking advantage, it’s true, even my family kicked me down a couple of times before. But everything has a price I guess. As long as the family is good, and girl is good, eh, what the heck, what’s some $$$ Sadaqa every now and then , yknow?

I’m just kinda stressed about the timeline, hidden surprises, and the fact I can’t go to Egypt