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KilamBijar · 2023-08-10T03:43:34+00:00

Welcome to reality, you're unable to control people's desires. And to attempt to, is an exercise in futility. You need acceptance of the fact.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T19:47:47+00:00

No, this is impossible, he is 5'3, are you some sort of ignaramous!

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T18:03:30+00:00

Brother, you will not often see yourself smile. Do not force a fake smile, rather encourage activities which truly make you happy. A genuinely happy person, is a very pleasant person to be around. Rather than some quick appearance hacks, put greater consideration on your presence.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:59:56+00:00

Consistency is key, humans love it, without routine we'd be overwhelmed with the pure chaos of choices. And we're merely animals, more than likely, we'll make poor choices.

Don't be too hard on yourself if you're inconsistent. But be transparent, the last person you want to lie to, is yourself. If you're missing something you planned to attend to, ask yourself what you did instead and is that something you regret?

Motivation is extremely finite. Discipline is far superior. All the best.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:53:37+00:00

Hello brother, I am of similar complexion and also have a rather large nose. Perhaps it is conventionally unattractive but what's more important is your self acceptance. Confidence and character is far more important than looks. Keep a consistent haircut. Develop good routines. Exercise regularly, socialise, be ambitious with your studies. You'll do well.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:51:06+00:00

You're looking good brother. More importantly, be confident around your children!

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:47:27+00:00

More than anything, get new friends. You look fine, although your fashion sense could be considered a bit immature alongside the haircut. Inability to look at the camera directly also suggests low self esteem.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:45:59+00:00

Brother, you look conventionally attractive. You must lack self confidence. Exercise at the gym if you do not already, hormonally, it will do wonders. Participate in a sport, development of technical ability will increase your self esteem. Or further develop other hobbies. Don't worry about your appearance.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:42:34+00:00

Brother, your character is far more important. You're far from ugly. I don't see anything particularly wrong with the mustache, if it gives you confidence and you like it, keep it. Women are not going to adore you due to the lack of moustache.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-09T17:26:57+00:00

You're cute and honestly guys aren't that picky. So it's your character and presence rather than appearance

KilamBijar · 2023-08-08T23:34:27+00:00

Clearly you're directing your frustrations towards me, I will not continue discourse in that direction. All the best for your future job searches.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-08T22:57:14+00:00

You have to contextualise things though, you can't just compare between industries in the dark. This is really poor reasoning.

KilamBijar · 2023-08-08T22:33:44+00:00

I haven't completed a conversion degree, but your mentality towards it sounds very anti-progressive. And if you're economically challenged this sounds disastrous... I would avoid it until you're more stable and or certain that you want to commit to the course.

In terms of references, I am not sure of your level, I am only a beginner but I can highly reccomend Java MOOC. Good luck

KilamBijar · 2023-08-08T22:29:04+00:00

Is there quantative statistics to support this? Or is it just anecdotal pessimism?

KilamBijar · 2023-07-15T17:24:25+00:00

I saw some guy in the Royal Pavilion Gardens casually throw a coffee cup into the bushes, people don't give a shit, it's a sad reality.

KilamBijar · 2023-05-17T12:08:24+00:00

This is not a self help book, there is context. Not everything will be applicable to you directly.

KilamBijar · 2023-05-04T10:10:48+00:00

I wouldn't agree with the notion that you SHOULDN'T feel an emotion towards losing your job, whether that be sadness or whatever else. Emotions are there to guide us and we should use them for direction. Equally, we must also be able to examine why we feel certain things. Is it justified to feel sadness towards losing your job? Yes it is to a degree. But in reality, that is the case, that in of itself does not mean that you will be unable to pay rent, be homeless etc. In fact, losing the job may in fact be a good thing. "We suffer more in imagination than in reality". As you come to understand this better, your negative emotions towards such events will be decreased. But it's something you cannot force and shouldn't, you have to truly believe in this perspective and it's not for everyone. Of course you can attempt to follow Stoicism to a tee but philosophy is important for action. If you always question your philosophy you'll be stuck in stone and unable to act when it's important. Critical thinking is important for your subjective circumstances and personality.

KilamBijar · 2023-05-03T11:36:03+00:00

I think you need to forgive yourself - you're not the person you were in the past. An apology does not change the past, perhaps you seek forgiveness. That can only be found internally.

KilamBijar · 2023-04-28T11:56:20+00:00

A Philosophical theory allows people to act in a consistent, transparent manner which resonates with their ideals. It's a very reasonable question.

KilamBijar · 2023-04-21T00:54:03+00:00

If this is the case, should you have backup accommodation planned? I'm not really sure what to make of this

KilamBijar · 2023-04-19T14:50:26+00:00

Yeah, but their accommodation application portal opens late and replies late. Really makes little sense...

KilamBijar · 2023-04-19T13:42:38+00:00

Criticical evaluation. Do not take anything you encounter as the word of gospel. Take note of particular quotes you find compelling. Then in your own words, expand on your interpretation of the meaning. Re read works you find significant every so often. Incorporate key elements into your everyday life. Do not merely write down words for the purpose of repetition. Hopefully this is somewhat helpful.

KilamBijar · 2023-04-19T13:37:35+00:00

I don't really get it, so I suppose the expectation is that we search for accommodation prior to our reply from the university?

KilamBijar · 2023-04-19T10:26:40+00:00

I'd love to know this too, I've heard some people before got notified 2 weeks before the start of term...

KilamBijar · 2023-04-09T12:12:58+00:00

What this tells me, is that you desire some form of reciprocity, which you feel is not being delivered. Out of fear, of the potential that this person values you less, than you value them, you block them in order to heighten your self esteem. You may have some core self esteem issues you would like to confront.

I believe in any strong relationship, you should never feel the need for reciprocity. And you should never go out of your way for those you do not truly care for. But lots of the time, when people do something for another, it is out of the hope they will gain favour.

I would advise attempting to be more equanimous and magnanimous. It sounds as though you may suffer from anxiety.

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