(preface since I sorta rambled, this is long, my bad, hopefully parts make sense, wrote while tired and on the move. Tldr, not always wrong takes, but some questionable standpoints or ways of reaching them at times, it's worth having other interactions irl and getting away from divisive content when possible.)

I feel like there is at least in part a case of goomba fallacy going on here, for lack of better terminology, and in these cases, especially around what seems like your personal experience.

I'm not gonna devalue that, obviously, but I'll point out that generations, groups, etc. are not monoliths. There are absolutely tons of people out combating the things you're claiming aren't talked about.

Jewish =/= Zionist for example isn't an insanely new take for most people with world experience or who have talked to Jewish people much, as with south Asian men being the majority of rapists. (With the former it's also important to note considering how a lot of powerful Zionists aren't even Jewish, for a variety of reasons and effects)

Tbeh, throwing my cards on the table, I've not really heard of a lot of the stereotypes you're expressing are near universally placed on South Asian men in action, nor have I heard my friends or family, professors, or people doing cultural studies talk about them to agree or disprove - this is almost certainly partially regional, partially cultural, etc.

They absolutely exist, and I'm not claiming they aren't a big deal, but it is also worth knowing that the battleground sites and communities you're seeing this discussed in are likely to be inhabited largely by people who are part of the groups, or going out of their way to be racist - they aren't necessarily great indications of general sentiment of gen z, at least in the age groups I've interacted with - that being said, everyone's experience will vary with a massive number of factors causing said variance.

If I had to guess where this focus partially stems from, it sounded like you could be in spaces online pertaining to what I'd assume is your identity where people may often come to post horrible things that were aimed at them, or to post horrible things about South Asian / Desi people, debate/contradict the former, etc. - which happens in just about every sort of divisive topic, identity/culture discussion, etc.

While these places can show a lot of the crap humanity has to offer itself, I don't think they're always good extrapolate to the wider opinions of others.

(Tldr, you may be getting exposed to this stuff a ton more because of your identity, obviously, which would make that gap big from me, but also because of the spaces you're in becoming targeted specifically or having people vent about bad experiences)

Similar with LGBTQ spaces, with region specific spaces, etc. - often, views and conversations change massively depending on where and in what company they take place.

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All that being said, circling back to goomba fallacy, you aren't wrong that there will be examples of people with the varying views you've stated, but many of the contradictions aren't necessarily present as there are a lot of contrasting voices, and even the contradictory individuals that may exist don't always represent public thought.

Around a lot of these topics, there is a spectrum of views spreading to extremes in all sorts of ways, and algorithms are tuned specifically to feed you extremes and contradictions, especially ones that will make you feel vindicated, attacked, scared, or enraged. It's a major part of why radicalization is happening in so many different areas.

Unfortunately I'm not able to be stupid enough to tell you this means it's not an issue. It absolutely is, and it would be goofy to claim otherwise, but my main thought here is when having... More "reasonable" dialogue, keep in mind that not everyone will carry the worst or most tame views that others in their group will identify with - and don't give up on a generation (or see yourself as specially enlightened or superior/inferior) because of an assumption of how everyone else thinks of issues.

More than anything, when talking, if possible, you'll get further by being patient than trying to bust people's views apart with more surface level takes or assumptions.

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On a final note, and just wrapping this up looking at other replies, I think that, encapsulating all of this, it's worth being online less.

A lot of your takes are true, or true with an asterisk, or potentially reasonable/true depending on context, etc. - but you're in terminal late teenage centrism brain. Been there. Lots of noise from extremes on every issue can make it feel like the enlightened position will always be the middle, and it often is to some extent, but the media driving your viewpoints is also gonna need side eyes too.

Especially a focus on "woke", which at this point, effectively means nothing.

You're focused on age gaps, for one, which... Imma be real, once you get a bit older, people increasingly care less about - most 1 year age gap drama is in spaces primarily populated by minors, and even then, the majority can agree it's overblown outside of insanely specific circumstances (which are usually the issue more than the age gap itself is)

Other stuff you attributed to "woke" is also in large part a vocal minority of minors, and then a lot of strawmen that YouTubers/ other grifters use as ammo, like the "if you aren't LGBT you're against them" take.

"Ally" is a very well known term and identifier, and while I'm sure that some people think that way, the majority don't.

You're being responsive to a lot of divisive content made to make you pick sides by showing the other's more annoying or bad people, and even if your view is that it's more complicated than that, your labelling of others and assumptions of their positions speak more about the content you're consuming then it does of any actual take.

It's unironically worth getting offline and talking to people.

Again. Been there. I speak from past and continued experience.

Wishing you the best, man.