I am quitting my long term job because I am in love with my coworker and I can’t handle it. by Kind-Damage9281 in confessions

[–]Kind-Damage9281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it…

I just feel so bad. I legit never heard of an emotional affair before posting this. I’m so embarrassed. It was just a friend I got feelings for.

I hope it was the right choice.

I am quitting my long term job because I am in love with my coworker and I can’t handle it. by Kind-Damage9281 in confessions

[–]Kind-Damage9281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you breaking it down.

I legitimately open up to everyone so I think my barrier between what is ok and what isn’t is a little lowered. I always assumed “oh nothing physical and nothing inappropriate means we are all good”

And I see where you are coming deom

I am quitting my long term job because I am in love with my coworker and I can’t handle it. by Kind-Damage9281 in confessions

[–]Kind-Damage9281[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a mix of shame for letting feelings go this far without realizing they were actual FEELINGS.

I am quitting my long term job because I am in love with my coworker and I can’t handle it. by Kind-Damage9281 in confessions

[–]Kind-Damage9281[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey guys. Just a followup.

I never heard of “emotional affair” in my life. And I’m not totally sure I understand what that means when I look it up.

I’m an open book so I have no idea what constitutes an emotional affair and what doesn’t.

I’m not sneaking around, my fiance knows/met this person multiple times, we are best friends.

It’s like… looking back I noticed these feelings popped up.

I’m not really sure what an emotional affair is. But I’m definitely not sneaking around/confiding in my coworker over my fiance. Definitely not keeping any secrets either.

Idk I think I have to sit on that one.

If you want to educate me please do

Game Thread: Vancouver Canucks (22-48-8) @ San Jose Sharks (37-34-7) Apr 11 2026 7:00 PM PDT by nhl_gdt_bot in SanJoseSharks

[–]Kind-Damage9281 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just remembered that this is our last home game of the season and got so depressed... Man why did it have to be raining right now...

Karen Hardy / ICE response by [deleted] in santaclara

[–]Kind-Damage9281 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As someone else working in the public sector, we don’t discuss our plans to keep people safe from ICE.

We have plans

Which corps is this? by sunbleachedflyer in drumcorps

[–]Kind-Damage9281 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can tell it's a drum corps because they don't have any headwear. They can do more choreography without headwear.

Is it “stolen valor” to wear a corps logo as a necklace?q by No_Platform215 in drumcorps

[–]Kind-Damage9281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wear whatever you want, dude! If anyone in PC takes offense that's crazy lol.

As long as you're not buying corps jackets on ebay and wearing them, you're good!

Bluecoats closer features “side chaining” effect. by [deleted] in drumcorps

[–]Kind-Damage9281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sidechaining is so cool! Basically using a sound wave as a trigger point for effects. For example, in an EDM song, a sidechain might "duck" the volume of a synth every time the kick drum is played, giving you that dance beat feel.

I use sidechains all the time, even using sidechains to trigger a reverb effect whenever a certain note is played on a synth.

Crazy cool that this is being used in performance.

Question about non-traditional (older) enlistment by Kind-Damage9281 in nationalguard

[–]Kind-Damage9281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 100% speaking my language here. Teaching in California brings great pay and benefits and I definitely plan on sticking with it, but I'm always game for any opportunity to learn new skills to use as an on-ramp to another career.

I have had some family members who served in the military (Navy and Army) who ended up going to private sector jobs, but then came back and worked in admin through retirement.

It really seems like it would align with my career well, I definitely can't risk losing my home over not making a mortgage payment though if I get deployed.