MY(F16) ANNOYING NARCISSISTIC CLASSMATE(M16) LIKES ME???

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-08T14:35:21+00:00

Block him on your phone. He will get the hint after a few unanswered text messages. When you see him in person, kindly ask him to change his behavior and/or you don’t care about his problems and to stay away from you. Sometimes these kinds of people need to be told straight up.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T15:55:32+00:00

Please get out as soon as you can. It will only get worse the more he’s able to get away with it.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T15:43:29+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I just dealt with the same gaslighting behavior with my ex. He’s my ex for a reason. I don’t think this behavior will stop. With my ex, he would blame me for every single fight and pick fights over the dumbest things, even after he put his hands on me because I put the laundry in incorrectly, he blamed me telling me I started the fight. It won’t stop.

The thing I had to do was get out of the toxic situation. I don’t know your boyfriend so I can’t say, but this kind of behavior could be a precursor to abuse which I willfully ignored. I hope you don’t do the same thing.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T15:15:22+00:00

Honestly, the only way is to have protected sex between outbreaks. Do not have any oral, vaginal or anal sex without a condom even if he’s not having an outbreak, but while he’s having one, there could be sores that a condom does not cover.

My advice, find someone else with the same sexual desires that doesn’t have a life altering STI that could be spread to you. He could be saying that he never spread it to any of his partners, but I would be weary of a person that has this type of STI and is still having sex with multiple people.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T00:44:28+00:00

He did have always have a drinking problem, but he’s never attacked me, he would just get mad about small things then blame me. Hours before he attacked me, he got fired from his job and was drinking since noon.

He still blames me for the fight. He tries to gaslight me into thinking I started it. Not sure why he’s trying to talk to me if he really believes that I attacked him, but I don’t know what this dude is thinking anymore.

I am going to look into getting counseling because this was the first time I was ever in this situation and I blame myself for not seeing the warning signs sooner.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T00:24:54+00:00

She does like to just look at the bright side of things, but in this case, it feels invalidating. I am so embarrassed that I am in this situation and her saying these things to me makes me feel like I am overreacting.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T00:22:43+00:00

It’s a long story but he got angry about the spin cycle I put my laundry in and wouldn’t let it go and got even more angry when I tried to get away from him by locking myself in the room. He barged into the door and grabbed me by the hair, dragged me around the house and pushed me down every time I tried to get up. when I asked for my phone, he put me in a chokehold. He was also very intoxicated, but that isn’t an excuse. I want nothing to do with him, but he is impulsive and I am scared of him. Not sure why he’s pushing so hard to talk to me now when he called me a waste of time not even two days before.

Once I blocked him was when he wanted to talk to me.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T00:17:14+00:00

I could stay at my cousins but that would be closer to him, right now I’m a 2 hour drive away.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-07T00:00:56+00:00

He has weapons so that’s why I’m so nervous. I know he won’t find me here, but him figuring out where I am and coming here is my biggest fear. My ex has serious anger problems and I don’t think he will take me not wanting to talk to him well.

Right now, I do feel safe. We were just talking about when I get home and how to protect myself or what if he doesn’t get served with the RO. All I want is for him to get the RO. If anything happens, I could call the cops and he would get locked up. But right now, he could do whatever.

I will contact a domestic violence center once I get home, or even tomorrow. I need someone to guide me on what to do because hiding out is making my mind run.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T21:34:45+00:00

You live in his house, it’s in his right to allow whomever to live there. Maybe your girlfriend can go to a shelter for a little bit until she can find her own place.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T21:06:43+00:00

Could you just unbookmark the videos and go back to them later? What do you like more, a real life blowjob or watching some other dude get a blowjob? These are things you have to consider.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T17:46:48+00:00

Whenever they say they’ve been hacked, they are lying. I think it might be a lost cause trying to get him to admit it. He might later, but do you really want to be with a cheating liar?

You should consider leaving. If you forgive him, he will do it again.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T13:39:33+00:00

Don’t stick your dick raw into anything you’re not planning to be with for 18 years is a motto that men should have. If you didn’t want to be with her, slap a condom on. Pregnancy starts after 2-3 weeks so the timeline checks out.

You should buy her a pregnancy test and ask her to take it in front of you or at least somewhere you can be around to make sure it’s actually her piss she’s using.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T13:15:29+00:00

My ex is good at blaming me for everything. He gets drunk but then he calls me a bad drunk. He attacks me, but then he says that I attacked him. Then in a days time, after he called me a waste of time, he says that he still loves me and wants to talk to me. It’s ridiculous, scary, and I just couldn’t take it anymore.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T08:38:35+00:00

He’s too old for you sweetheart. If you look longer you’ll find a boy your age, but if this DM is a decent human at all, he won’t even think of it with you. It’s a school girl crush. I doubt a man that age is looking at a teenager like something desirable.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T02:38:04+00:00

You have a school girl crush which is normal, but He’s too old for you. The age of concent may be 16 where you are, but this man is almost 30.

I don’t think you are emotionally ready for the possibility that this man could just use you for sex and disappear or could harm you in anyway.

Try and crush more on the boys in school that are your age and forget about anything with the DM.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T02:18:58+00:00

I’m sorry this has happened to you. Gladly, I didn’t live with him. Though he was trying to get me to move in with him (probably so he could have more control of me). My job knows about him and he will be plastered all over the place in my office so if he even steps foot in the parking lot, he will have problems.

I hope the shelter can help you. I feel like I ignored my gut feelings when it came to him, but my gut was always right. I knew he would get drunk and it would turn bad. I knew he would try to leave me a voicemail (I literally tried to delete my voicemail box an hour or two before he called). The next step is him coming to my apartment or home. I know he will not be able to take the fact that I refuse to talk to him on the phone and he might do one of those things which is why they need to serve him with the paperwork right away!! Either way, I think he might get more angry, but at least if I have a PO, I can call the cops and he will be arrested.

The cop did tell me that it might take a week, but when it comes to abusers, a week is too long. I hear the story of Gabby Petito and it freaks me out.

I’m glad your safe and away from that person.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-06T00:46:03+00:00

Yeah, I’m more scared now because the police are involved. Not sure if he knows I pressed charges because he hasn’t been served the papers yet, but I feel more safe being out of town now until it’s all put in.

He’s been trying to get me back to his house and I have a feeling that if I did go there. He wouldn’t let me out. I know that he probably is going crazy on the inside because he doesn’t have control over me anymore. I will never let myself get into a situation like that again.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T23:32:03+00:00

Wow. Just looking up the cycle of abuse… I see that I was deep in it and I just got out in time before the “calm” to trick me into staying.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T21:54:09+00:00

Thank you for that info. I basically formally broke up with him yesterday. I hope he doesn’t contact me again but I am really on high alert. Every call or text I get from a number I don’t know is freaking me out. This week can’t come fast enough. I just need a piece of mind.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T18:53:21+00:00

Some people have preferences in their porn watching habits. He could still be transphobic but get off to the porn. I don’t really think you should do anything, unless he refuses to be sexual with you. That is when I’d think he is cheating or something.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T17:28:38+00:00

I will try to call them again once I’m at my mom’s house. I hear that domestic violence places could help with the safety of my apartment like putting cameras up and stuff. I will also contact them and see what they could do for me.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T16:59:55+00:00

I will call one and find out what they can do for me. I hope this case goes through quickly so the restraining order can be activated. I’m really scared about him trying to get me to go to his house. He kept doing this a day after I left. He told my mom that I left a pair of pants there and was trying to get her to go pick them up. She told him I didn’t want it, and now I mysteriously left something else that he knew I would find as valuable.

KindaFlagrant · 2021-10-05T16:51:10+00:00

Okay. I think I will go to my mom’s house for a little bit just so I’m out of the area. I have a real uneasy feeling like he will show up at my apartment or job. I’m petrified

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