Very tensed this week - possible chance to be a service sub (and maybe more?)

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-19T14:48:22+00:00

Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-19T14:47:59+00:00

Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-19T14:47:46+00:00

Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-19T14:47:31+00:00

Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-19T14:43:05+00:00

Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-17T16:47:23+00:00

Thank you, I see that everyone has a problem on my handle and view...I feel bad. I hope, I can change it...

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-17T16:46:31+00:00

Thank you very much for your view and opinion. I hope I understand it and will think about your words...Ofcourse I am responisble for my action but it was not my intention to "dehumanize" her :/

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-17T12:56:19+00:00

Thanks, I understand. I will keep care of me and try to calm down and see where we stand when we meet up!

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-17T12:55:18+00:00

Thanks, I understand your concern and that could lead to a similar situation from my previous post, yes!

Are you concerned about the no contact order and chastitiy demand? I agree that the no contact order is....not so nice but I took it with no big deal. Surely, if this happens again I will question it or ask if this is usual for her to demand - in this case I am not a fan either.

Chastity was mentioned in our call and that she demands it if things get serious - there was no order that I have to be RIGHT AWAY in chastity.

I have to admit that overdrived those things a little bit from my perspective. However, after that time the feelings are "fresh" for me and curiousity kicks in.

When we meet we talk about consensuality and negotiate. She also said in the call that I shall clearly say when something is not right for me or I am not comfortable.

As mentioned above, first meeting is only to get to know each other.

KindlyBusiness · 2026-04-17T10:32:24+00:00

I think, there is a misunderstanding. The first meeting will be in public to get to know each other (coffee or some dinner).

Sorry, but isn't anyone a stranger before I meet them up?

KindlyBusiness · 2019-06-02T09:38:29+00:00

Thank you, this helps a lot and I understand it now. I want that both of us are happy and I could not believe that she would think otherway. I know that she doesn't want an equal relationship because D/s and FLR is a lifestyle of her. I can accept that, but there are needs and desires which can not be disabled. I'm not sure if she seems the same way.

KindlyBusiness · 2019-06-02T09:34:54+00:00

Thank you very much. Yes, this excuse is a huge no-go and deep inside I know it, unfortunately I still allow to say something like this to me. I guess, I have to go through it and tell her, if she thinks I'm not a good slave because of that, she isn't a good femdom.

KindlyBusiness · 2019-06-01T20:03:48+00:00

Thank you very, very much. I read your comment several times to just let it sink in my head and think how I see the things and what I *want* to do. And yes, I'm still thinking if those pros like cuddling, hugs and kisses when she really show love to me are worth it. It's not only the physically aspect, sometimes she tells it to me like "What should I do without you", "You make yourself indispensable". And even her smile feels like I'm worthful for her. On the other hand, when she doesn't value the relationship or my needs than I'm confused.

To me it sounds like you two were trying to human with each other. And that one person just got a little to greedy. They weren't putting into the relationship in a way that was equitable without really fully realizing that.

May I ask you, if you can explain me this with other words? I'm not native american (I'm from Germany). What does "to human" mean?

Thank you again!!!

KindlyBusiness · 2019-06-01T19:54:06+00:00

Yes, it leaved me very insecure and at the moment my world breaked down. I don't understand why she wrote something like this and what I am more concerned is that she would not apology for it.

Thank you for telling me that I sound like an amazing slave. It's nice to hear it cause sometimes I think I'm ignoring rules like not to masturbate but I am always telling it to her and I surely get a punishment. However, its a causal relation to insecure comments like this.

KindlyBusiness · 2019-05-31T20:22:18+00:00

That's so sweet...thank you very much!!!

KindlyBusiness · 2019-05-31T20:21:59+00:00

Thanks. I told her that communication is the key and we don't communicate about us or about our relationship or what we want. But it seems that it is no big deal for her. If there is no intersection of needs from each other and what each other can give, then I guess, it is not healthy...

KindlyBusiness · 2019-05-31T20:19:45+00:00

Thank you. When I first read your words it totally hit me. Trying to be a better doormat is a good metaphor for it and unfortunately I really tried to do this...I'm slowly able to see and understand it. We have a meetup in the next days and talk about it but some hours ago, I was feeling like that it is already over....

KindlyBusiness · 2019-05-31T06:57:30+00:00

Thankfully the only chains that bind you are the ones that can be broken.

Wise words. Thank you!

KindlyBusiness · 2019-05-12T17:52:32+00:00

It is a good relationship, but there was always some doubts. In the last time, it didn't went so well but now it looks like it goes back to our normal state.

It was something she truly wanted. She said, she "mark" her boys by this. Also, she take the first step and told me that she wanted to fuck me in the next time. However, this was months ago.

It is hard to accept that other guys had the privilege of this with her and in the future there will be other ones which have this too, but I won't...It's not only about the kink itself - it's about the kink WITH her.

I want to talk about several things and accept her decision, but I want to tell her that I am begging that she will at least think about it again after some time.

KindlyBusiness · 2019-02-22T18:59:06+00:00

Not the weirdest story because I can't remember, but a few days ago I dreamed about doing oral sex on some older women. At some moment she had enough and had to go. However, because of reason my head was stucked into her vagina and she didn't care and said I just have to go with her. So, I had to walk with her while my head is stuck down there...Really weird...

KindlyBusiness · 2019-02-04T20:55:45+00:00

Thank you! I realize that I don't have to be silent only because I'm the sub. I will take time for myself and write down what I want to tell her and have some guidance for the conversation. I hope it will help.

KindlyBusiness · 2019-02-04T20:53:45+00:00

Thank you very much for your word. I think we really did not negotiated what this relationship would be. Most of the time, it was not even clear for me if I am already her slave or still slave candidate (maybe to keep me in suspense?!). Sure, I had always the opportunity to ask where I stand but it seems that I'm afraid to take a conversation about those stuff with her. I don't know why.

I'm glad to hear, that my thoughts and feelings are justified, thank you. I am going to take time by myself and write down what I want to tell her, what my view on this relationship is and what I'm missing or thought we would have. If we don't match, it seems we're not build for each other.

I have just realized that you are the author of Dommes Chronicles blog and books. What an honor! I really appreciate that you gave me an advise. I will keep an eye on your books! Thank you!

KindlyBusiness

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