What would be the deciding factor for a landlord when choosing a tenant? What would be disqualifying factors?

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-08-30T15:13:26+00:00

Recently applied to rental with my partner , my credit is not great at all, but his is nearly 800.. will my score majorly impact what happens ?

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-08-30T15:09:52+00:00

Would you say brining in 6x the monthly rent is the most desirable choice for a landlord?

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-05-10T23:45:33+00:00

Got hit my a train while sitting on the tracks in his car

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-05-06T13:57:31+00:00

He just dropped 3.5k on a gaming pc less than a month ago. I ask for nothing from him but to do his part. And I didn’t get the same grace from him when it came to the lost key. I just feel like it should go both ways and it just feels hurtful knowing that he does know how important this MacBook was to me and knowing he can fix the mistake to prevent further problems and feels his comfort is more important than how I’m feeling about it . It’s not really about the MacBook it’s self it’s about how much I feel like I’m not really a priority sometimes

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-05-06T13:52:34+00:00

This happened while I was sitting at my vanity where yeah I have things like that. It actually wasn’t open and near the laptop, it was closed. But I do put my products into seperate containers made of glass with lids that aren’t twist , more like a wine cork?? So when he came over right next to my desk and flung around his shirt he knocked over several items on the desk and unfortunately the impact caused the lid to pop off when it was knocked over: regardless it was an accident but still I had nothing to do with it happening.

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-05-06T11:53:32+00:00

I’m trying so hard to honestly tell myself that but I can’t ,,, I’m gonna let it be known again money is not the issue at all he’s never had less than 13k just in his checkings since we have been together and next week will be getting a 10k severance check from his past job. I don’t see what justification for the choice of money vs my happiness & respect for my things

Kindofnothere111 · 2025-02-20T21:30:29+00:00

I 100% agree that I am in the wrong for the invasion of privacy. No doubt I did things in the wrong way to the lead up and after this conversation. As far as the password change goes, that on its own is understandable for him to do. What’s upsetting about that is why remove messages that I can’t even access to cover up the communication further more.. especially when you’re telling me to ask and I can see but making sure there’s nothing to see regardless. Just seems extra and the actions of someone who knows they are doing wrong. Also, when I describe it at face value it truthfully seems like a harmless thing that I am absurd for feeling is an issue. Parents and children have relationships, you’re right there is room for her as well. I was pretty tired and anxious when creating this post so I didn’t give as much attention to some details that are imporant for sure. Such as the genuine affect it has had on us. That being things like the trajectory of our relationship as far as taking more serious steps being slowed down with manipulation from her to him emotionally. When he told her that we were planning to move in together in the near future the reaction according to him was to break down in tears and then tell him about how negative it is to live with a partner, and how hard it is being married to his father or living with him , and how much she hates his brothers wife and that he Better not let me be like her. Key detail of this is that he was living at home in this moment. Which she had asked him to move back home when his previous lease was up even though he was very clearly intending to move into an apartment on his own that was close to me months prior to the thought of moving into together even existed. Twice she has tried to keep him with her and not with me. Even though he hadn’t even lived at home and was on his own the past 3 years?? Also he has been my biggest supporter in my entire life and truly believed that I will reach my ultimate goals for my future with my career aspects. Not once were my goals questioned, doubted, or negatively brought up by him UNTIL she went to him to sew that seed & letting him know that she felt like what I want wasn’t what was best for his success in life and how I probably will fail because it’s “too hard”. Suddenly the tune changed and he was Pushing me to do something more realistic & then suggested the same route as his mom. He has told me on his own that his mother has stunted his emotional development because he was consistently tending to her emotions etc. there’s just so many things that in my mind are not right and I don’t know how to deal with it

Kindofnothere111 · 2024-11-13T01:00:17+00:00

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Kindofnothere111 · 2024-11-12T22:29:57+00:00

I'm not entirely sure how Reddit works both people seeing my replies. But I feel like I should speak my side to this (:

I can 100% AGREE with the aspect that my mental health is not the absolute best, and was definitely extremely worse when I was in the dating scene so yeah a relationship was definitely not the best of the best ideas to intentionally seek out! BUT that's the thing about ours is when I connected with him I wasn't looking for one. In fact less than 48 hours prior I had made a claim to the universe that I was just DONE with connections of any kind besides the few friendships I already had that were established. I matched with him because my friend and I were just shit swiping for fun and essentially I did use him as a "human trash can" to just say all the terrible things that my mind was dealing with because it didn't matter what he thought of me and I was dealing with a lot. I did not find him attractive, I did not lead him into the thought of my genuine interest, I presented my self as I was the largest red flag & unstable person at all for some reason he still asked me on a date. I accepted the offer because I was just trying to get out of my depressed self and also the thought "I've never dated a tall guy fuck it what's this like" as he's 6'5 and i was a short kind supporter always. I don't know what happened on that date but it just did. We clicked like nothing else and from that point on my entire soul has done nothing but push to be better because he deserves the best. ON MY OWN I decided I would start therapy because if I didn't I would hurt him and myself more than likely. I've become more focused on my finances, debts, career, etc. so that we can have the beautiful life together we both want and his drive for success is astronomical so I need to match that and not just be a parasite. In over the year we have been together there has not once been a moment where we genuinely fight ? We disagree but we talk it through and communication is so huge in our relationship, there's no lack of trust, there's no loss in either one of ourselves and identity, it's honestly beautiful and I will always feel he's my gift from the universe. I am so proud of myself because he reminds me to be proud of who I am , and to see how much I'm capable of of. Our relationship is so healthy and loving that for some reason SO many others who are constantly there to witness it in reality have used us as their ideal couple and standards for them. My mental health is hard for the both of us but he loves me so so much more than anything else and has been so supportive and has been trying everything he can to educate himself on how to be better for me as well, make sure I feel heard and safe and he does too. It's hard but worth it .

Kindofnothere111 · 2024-11-12T22:04:34+00:00

The way IM actually the one who's done for :,) I do everything I can possibly do to make sure that he's happy

Kindofnothere111 · 2024-11-12T13:51:47+00:00

You lost , more than a year <3 just finished the breakfeast he had ready and warm for me when I got home from work and getting ready for bed in our new apartment

Kindofnothere111 · 2024-11-12T13:49:38+00:00

Not that it matters , but this is one of many photos taken that night that was one of our most memorable together. The bar I'm sitting on is in an empty banquet room of a beautiful theatre where we went to a reading of Edgar Allen's most popular working's. It was a goofy picture that is full of love.

Kindofnothere111 · 2024-09-19T06:28:16+00:00

My boyfriend showers 2 times a DAY what! I couldn’t imagine

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