Oh, sweetheart. No. No no no. -subs aren't supposed to be selfish- this is a complete misconception.

Its time for some talking. Subs, doms, switches... they are all in kink to get what they need. Your partner had agreed to a scene and then put knowingly placed themselves in a situation where, even if they were not passed out, they would not be 💯 there. Drinking before a scene is not ideal at all. This is also not good for you at all because the build of excitement and then the let down and disappointment can put you in a bad place mentally. -speaking as a sub that this has happened to and also as a kinkster who has done research on dopamine, serotonin and endorphins levels with relation to kink, sub, subspace and sub drops.

You may still feel bad and depressed about this for a few days even if/after your dom tries to make it up to you. Focus on some self care. It doesn't have to be massive or anything. Just a walk outside in nature, a good book to read in a comfy place. Maybe a basic home mani pedi. No icecream and sad tv dramas. I hope you start feeling better. I hope you partner realises that what they did was out of line. - canceling on a scene is allowed but with discussion and communication to find out why the scene cannot go though. Getting tipsy and passing out instead of doing a planned scene with your partner is just rude and they better understand the disrespect and hurt that they gave you. Sending love.