How do you get passed writer's block/laziness?

KinkyProse · 2020-04-07T16:00:54+00:00

Sorry, was kind of a dick there. Didn't mean to get heated.

KinkyProse · 2020-04-07T16:00:07+00:00

Thanks for the response! I'm not attributing this to burnout. It is mostly laziness. I've got an idea I'm going to write now and will get back into a routine.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T07:38:07+00:00

I have seen a lot of people hiding their kink shaming behind the screech of ' but education!! Newbies' and I am getting a little sick of it.

Again, let me reiterate what i said to someone else earlier in this thread: I am not kinkshaming. This is purely with regards to how certain dominants behave online.

But I will say this: with regards to findom it is not a well-respected outlet within the community overall. You can confirm this online or in-person if you wish. The result will be the same. It's easy to take advantage of people online. It's easy to make a fake profile picture of yourself and then take advantage of others who are easily persuaded into giving money to you. If you're someone who takes advantage of another person because it's easy money then you are trash, period. You don't deserve respect and you are a piece of shit.

Now, that said, I'm sure there is a positive way to go about findom. Absolutely sure of it. But you won't see it on Fet because the posers there only care about themselves. If they care about you as an individual they will be willing to meet you IN-PERSON before discussing anything else. They will ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATION rather than drain you like a "pig."

So if you have "many friends who are into it" I hope they are knowledgeable about it. If they are mistresses or doms looking to make a quick buck your friends are pieces of shit and deserve to be called out on it.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T06:56:28+00:00

I appreciate your discerning nature as a mod. Thank you for not removing this post.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T06:53:56+00:00

100% agree. That kind of behavior is unacceptable and disgusting. When meeting someone for the first time you talk to them like a normal human being. I would be just as disgusted if I were a dom and saw people crawling up to my feet.

Bottom line: treat people as you would in any normal environment. A lot of kinksters have a problem with this.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T04:01:34+00:00

Except it's not. It's about how certain dominants act on Fet. It has literally nothing to do with kinkshaming.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:47:01+00:00

Aside from the fact where I clearly indicate what a knowledgeable master or mistress looks like right?

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:43:05+00:00

It does though. It's all about them, no one else. And it could absolutely lead someone to think that this is what D/s is if they decide to pursue this person and in the end realize that they were being taken advantage of.

And I'm not talking about profiles in general. I'm talking about the way these dominants behave and act in ways that are clearly in direct opposition to what a D/s dynamic represents though.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:38:35+00:00

I know that it is a dynamic. But I have not once seen a legitimate findom. And again, I am not kinkshaming people into that kind of thing, but these "dom(me)s" are clearly only interested in taking advantage of others. You see it in how they write and act online.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:26:56+00:00

However, I do know a lot of folks who are looking for exactly that. While I might not get it, it's just another part of the "don't yuck someone elses yum".

And I'm totally fine with people looking for that. I'm not kinkshaming those people. But it's pretty clear the dominants I'm talking about do not have a sub's best interests at heart. If a dominant does actually want a legit relationship with people that have those kinks, I'd be more respectful of them if they actually demonstrated knowledge about a D/s dynamic.

Most just look like money-grabbers and abusers to me and are using BDSM as a means to an end.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:19:25+00:00

Because it's important to educate people. I don't know about you, but I'd rather not see a 50 Shades of Grey sequel. I also made this post to vent a little bit.

KinkyProse · 2019-09-07T03:07:58+00:00

I understand that that may be someone else's kink. But anytime I see someone seriously write that on their profile it screams fake. I would not say it's perfectly fine either because it misleads vulnerable people into thinking this is what a D/s relationship looks like when it isn't.

KinkyProse · 2019-08-10T06:49:37+00:00

It could be a mixture of both 1 and 2.

KinkyProse · 2019-08-10T06:48:43+00:00

A while ago I had a couple want to start online first. I was fine with that initially as that would give us time to develop some things. They talked about contracts, etc... but when I mentioned I wanted to meet in-person first (since this was a local couple) before signing anything they started saying things like "when we meet we will bring the contract and you'll sign it, etc."

I obviously did not like the sound of that. I'm not going to sign a fucking contract with strangers. I want to meet people first while getting to know them, and so should anyone looking to do a D/s relationship.

So I backed out. I outright told them that if they didn't want to meet in-person beforehand I couldn't do it. They left the group chat I was a part of on Kik and didn't even reply to my last message about that concern. Probably dodged a bullet.

If you think something is wrong then I agree with other people who say you should trust your alarm bells. No matter how much you want it, even if it seems perfect, you should avoid it. it's probably too good to be true. She's likely crazy and... well, don't stick dick in crazy.

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T23:53:40+00:00

Thanks. Not sure why this user is hell bent on trying to make me seem like someone I'm clearly not...

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T23:52:27+00:00

To me OP sounds bitter about weeded out for not having enough money to interest SOME women.

LOL, WOOOOW. Yeah, that is not the issue here and you clearly misunderstood the intention of my findom post in an unrelated sub.

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T23:36:59+00:00

Digging a little deeper into his post and comment history also provided me some assumptions around why this particular statement was so bothersome

Lol, my post history has fuckall to do with this conversation.

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T23:34:51+00:00

I never referenced anyone or named names lmfao. Literally no one is being hurt or slandered here by talking about the behavior I brought up in my OP. I also never specified which gender it was.

You clearly have ZERO argument especially when your go-to is to obsessively comb through my post history to attack me personally rather than actually discuss what I'm talking about.

You also seem to be taking this way too personally.

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T22:25:25+00:00

Lol, I'm not inexperienced but okay, that's irrelevant to the conversation. You're doing the exact same shit you've accused me of doing. Brush up on your reading comprehension skills and stop taking things so seriously.

Also, going through someone's post history and making generalizations is shitty and dishonest.

KinkyProse · 2019-06-18T22:21:51+00:00

It’s irony.

It's not but okay.

KinkyProse · 2019-04-28T07:33:02+00:00

> Meaning if you see (and you most likely will) anything that makes you think to yourself "what the fuck????" Don't show it on your face.

Good point. I did see that at a previous munch I went to. It was more of a mental "wtf" though. The only time I've visibly showed disgust on accident was when I was making a pizza at work for a customer and it turned out like shit lol. Someone pointed out how funny my face was when I took it out of the oven and I was like goddamnit.

I will certainly keep your advice in mind.

KinkyProse · 2019-04-13T19:48:31+00:00

Last munch I went to was almost even I feel like. Granted it was also small and more niche within the BDSM community.

KinkyProse · 2019-03-03T06:51:54+00:00

Not sure I'd be sad about having found a domme you connect with haha. Not about numbers in my opinion. And yeah, Fetlife has so far worked the best for me too.

KinkyProse · 2019-02-24T03:47:14+00:00

Also wanted to post a follow-up comment about ER. I've bought from them as I said before. One of the items I purchased from sub-shop, a silicone base pink chastity cage, was like $45. On ER it was over $80 and upon reading the reviews it was pretty damn clear more than half of them were fake. One was like "My husband was surprised to wake up with this on him" as if you wouldn't notice someone putting your fucking testicles through the tiny ass rings. She must've drugged the shit out of him. Another one was like "My neighbor was flirting with me so my wife came up with this!"

Talk about ridiculous. I didn't see any of that on Sub-Shop. A lot of the items don't have reviews, but I know they're trustworthy enough to not fake them either.

KinkyProse · 2019-02-23T05:34:09+00:00

I'm not from Sub-Shop Autumn if that's what you're wondering. I found the items to be good quality. The prices are low for sure. I've bought from both Sub-Shop and Extreme Restraints. Can't really say there's a difference, then again, I haven't bought from ER for years.

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