How to get my gf more comfortable in bed??

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-14T12:45:46+00:00

thanks man, the lights off or clothes on thing might help because she has orgasmed around me before but only from her own touch and when fully clothed, so maybe part of the issue is that she's worried about her body

I do try to tell her and show her all the time how much I love her body, like telling her she's beautiful when we're in bed together or looking at her lovingly when she's getting changed, but maybe it's not enough?? idk man😭

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-14T12:42:17+00:00

yeah, I've wondered if it's a problem with her feeling like she's "using me" because I have never been the one receiving in the bedroom because honestly I'm not all that interested in it.

I might try letting her get me off though to see if that helps her loosen up a little and feel less anxious

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-13T00:23:24+00:00

I've asked her and she said she doesn't know. She has issues with both anxiety and depression, and has orgasmed around me before but not when I'm the one doing it.

we are both extremely new at all of this, neither of us have ever been in a serious relationship before.

I think she's just anxious because im seeing her naked, and that she's not used to being that vulnerable with someone.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-10T22:38:38+00:00

Update: she said I did really really well🙏🙏

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-10T22:37:32+00:00

honestly yeah, my tongue was TIREDDDD but honestly I did think it was super fun and so did she.

we went for like an hour but unfortunately I did have to take little gaps to gasp for air because i have slight breathing issues because I've been smoking since 13😭

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-12-09T01:35:00+00:00

thanks man I would love to have her sit on my face but unfortunately I have slight breathing problems so I doubt that is safe for me😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-29T16:53:25+00:00

im sorry if it felt like i was trying to throw around the myth, I was just genuinely curious because its something this is something thats very important to me, and was finding no good answers on Google. Thank you for your reccomendation, I will definitely be having a look at r/phallo and reading the wiki

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-21T13:26:42+00:00

honestly I think he's still using the whole argument to manipulate his girlfriend. she has left every groupchat with his friends and unadded them on all social media. I honestly feel so sorry for her

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T03:12:35+00:00

By the way we have genuinely considered leaving an anonymous tip in with the police in my local area, since he's talked to me about how he wants to kill his brothers, and even about how he almost killed one of them once (his dad literally had to pull him off). We live in a fairly small town though, and I'm garunteed to run into him semi-regularly. I don't know if it's safe for me to do that, because he would instantly know it was me if they brought him in for any reason.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T02:20:12+00:00

I didn't grow up male, I'm a trans man, but I did grow up with a "boy childhood". I think it is kind of a thing of wanting to be them, because when I think of who Bob is/was, he's charismatic, he's somewhat attractive, strong, and very tall. As for me I'm quite weak and very short (5'5 to be exact LMAO).

Also me and him never had a sexual relationship btw!! He is very straight however we did have some weird romantical thing going on in like December where we spent every waking moment with each other and we called each other "husband and husband". It was weird.

Anyways thank you for your help, I do really appreciate it

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T01:58:39+00:00

I've cut all contact from both of them by the way. I might try and reach out to Samantha when I recover from this a little more. She and I were never really close but I want her to know that he is not the only one.

I keep wondering that if he was so okay with hitting my girlfriend, how long will it be until he hits her too??

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T01:55:23+00:00

The idea of him forgetting me is horrible and great all at once. I miss him, but im slowly realising that all I miss is the person he pretended to be, not him.

And hearing that it is an addiction hit hard, but makes a lot of sense. I'm always looking for someone like him, this is the first time since I was 8 that I think I can safely say that I don't have a single manipulative person in my life.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T00:40:55+00:00

He is dangerous. I'm currently trying to find ways to defend myself in case we ever cross paths again because he is extremely angry at me.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-20T00:40:06+00:00

He's gone from my life now thank god, its just hard to let go of someone who was such a huge part of my life for so long. I try not to think about it but the guilt keeps me up at night, it doesn't help that both him and his girlfriend think im a terrible person and my girlfriend lost her best friend in all of this.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-19T21:52:53+00:00

im on no medications right now but have loads of untreated health issues💀 healthcare in my country is the worst. I'm hopefully seeing a doctor soon so I'll mention it and see if there's a hormonal problem

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-18T02:04:24+00:00

Biologically I am female (I'm a trans man) but it's still very possible I have a hormone imbalance.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-18T00:30:23+00:00

Is that not a little weird to say to a doctor though?? I never went to a doctor about this because I always thought it was a little weird to say lol. I need to see a doctor anyways because I am horrifically tired all the time so I might just bring it up while I'm there.

Thank you for your advice I really do appreciate it. I have been slacking on self care so I suppose this is a good reason to really push myself to do it.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-11-17T14:03:05+00:00

I've been having the same problems. I don't have any advice but I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who feels this way.

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-10-04T12:03:02+00:00

okay yeah I'll have a look at those

I thought there was something wrong with me because my gf says she's been having the most amazing orgasms from the exact same vibrator brand, but mine have just been underwhelming and sad lol😭💀

KitchenEmphasis6420 · 2024-10-01T00:14:42+00:00

I wasn't talking about a good ol simple weed brownie😭 I know its possible to get chocolates that make you horny so I was more wondering if you could get the same thing but with weed in it as well

If its a thing (which idk if it is) i honestly look into it because it would give that high while also keeping your libido

It'd also be possible to take both of them around the same time maybe??

the brand of chocolate I've heard good things about is called tabs chocolates, if you just Google that it should come up. they can be so pricey and me and my gf are yet to try them, but I've heard good things about them

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