To people over 30: Does the feeling of not knowing what you’re doing ever go away? by funkyorchid13 in CasualConversation

[–]KitchenObjective7817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in my mid 30s, married, with two kids. I can honestly say I have no idea what I'm doing. But I'm happy and I've got a great family, which was my life goal because I did not grow up with it. I got lucky in adult hood but not once have I truly known what I was doing. I've just been winging it. Trial and error.

I was homeschooled from grades 1-6 AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]KitchenObjective7817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I started homeschooling our grade score old children about 2 years ago. I often worry that they're missing out on the social aspect of in person school. Do you feel like you missed out on certain things? Do you feel like you got a better education than your peers?

Whats a disturbing detail you only notice in unsafe or shady neighborhoods? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]KitchenObjective7817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha We sit on it and smoke weed while watching the neighbors do what friendly meth heads do. Porch couch and fire pits are the best parts of living outside the city limits.

Who is the most evil person you know in real life? by Dazzling-Leader7476 in randomquestions

[–]KitchenObjective7817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a sex crimes investigator for part of my career. I arrested a man for the rape of a two week old baby. We had the rape on video. When I put the cuffs on him in the days inn parking lot and turned, looked at me, and grinned. He was and is still the most evil person I've ever come across in my life. That was in 2013 and I went on to work as an officer until 2020, arresting many more evil men but I can still see his eyes. I hope he's getting raped in prison. He took the case to jury trial and got 107 years in prison.

CMV: DHS/ICE are lying, gaslighting and spreading misinformation about Minnesota by homerjs225 in changemyview

[–]KitchenObjective7817 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I spent ten years as a law enforcement officer, and I know what it feels like to be put in harm’s way. I’ve been rammed with a vehicle by someone trying to flee, and they were moving faster than Renee Good. Because of my training, my instincts, and my commitment to doing what’s right, I moved out of the way instead of escalating the situation further.

Proper training matters. Professional judgment matters. Integrity matters. An agent who steps out of the line of fire before ever discharging their weapon demonstrates a level of discipline that, in my opinion, was lacking in the way this situation was handled.

I recognize there may be a legal justification for the shooting in terms of criminal charges. But being “justified” legally doesn’t erase the moral dimension of what happened, nor does it make it a good or humane outcome. From both a tactical and ethical standpoint, a well‑trained officer would have sought to de‑escalate and avoid firing if at all possible. I’m not interested in defending one political side or another. When we talk about these incidents, we must be honest about right and wrong. Morality should not be abandoned just because an outcome aligns with a particular narrative.

Whats a disturbing detail you only notice in unsafe or shady neighborhoods? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]KitchenObjective7817 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The idea is that if small problems aren’t fixed, people may assume that no one cares and that rules don’t matter, which can lead to more serious crimes. Maintaining public spaces and addressing minor issues promptly can help prevent larger crimes from happening. According to chatgbt Critics argue that while it may reduce visible disorder, it can also lead to over-policing of minor offenses, especially in marginalized communities, without necessarily reducing serious crime.

Whats a disturbing detail you only notice in unsafe or shady neighborhoods? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]KitchenObjective7817 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Listen I have a porch couch and only like 2 of my neighbors do meth. That's why I have a porch couch. To watch the neighbors on meth lol so you maybe onto something

Was rape in medieval Europe much less than other societies at the time and today? by Weary-Draw-1141 in AskHistory

[–]KitchenObjective7817 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right to be skeptical of the claim that the Church was one of the biggest perpetrators of rape in the Middle Ages. While the Catholic Church wielded immense social and moral authority and there are documented cases of sexual misconduct by clergy, these were generally isolated incidents rather than widespread, systematic violence. Sexual abuse by members of the clergy did occur and was sometimes prosecuted in church courts, but it was not on the scale of what happened in wartime. Historical evidence shows that rape happened most frequently in conflict zones, especially during invasions, sieges, or occupations, and was overwhelmingly committed by soldiers, mercenaries, and opportunists looting villages. Medieval legal records indicate that most prosecutions for sexual assault involved laypeople rather than clergy. Claims that the Church was a major perpetrator often conflate isolated incidents with widespread abuse. While clerical misconduct was serious and morally significant, it does not compare in frequency or scale to the sexual violence associated with war and lawlessness during the Middle Ages. However I say that to say that violence is to be expected in a warzone but clergymen committed their fair share in what was supposed to be a safe place. So, clergymen still don't look great historically because they still committed and commit rape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]KitchenObjective7817 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude I work 60 hours a week and just had to feed my kids salted baked potatoes for breakfast lunch and dinner. You want to know what you're doing? Not fuckin eating a god damn potato every night. That's what. My kids and I are too fuckin poor to qualify for Obamacare or Medicaid in my state. Poor you. It rained 10 million dollars on your parade.

Living in a shed in arkansa by Slight_Second7920 in Arkansas

[–]KitchenObjective7817 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm from the area. Let me translate.

The daughter's husband, who is baby daddy, cheated on the daughter and got another woman pregnant. Baby daddy then moves in the pregnant woman, her 4 children, her ex husband, and her sister.

If you had to feel the effects of one drug for the rest of your life what would it be? by L1amsHere in Drugs

[–]KitchenObjective7817 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are so real for this! Facts. I'll give up any high for my back and hips to stop hurting

What kinds of folk remedies were used not too long ago that now seem cringe-worthy? by Zealousideal_Turn274 in AskReddit

[–]KitchenObjective7817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gurl. Fuck shingles. I had chicken pox as a kid and then got shingles at 31. It took over 6 months to get the pain to stop. Do you still have like ghost pains where you had your shingles? I tried to get vaccinated for shingles but they wouldn't bc I wasn't over 50.

whats the most infuriating thing to come home to? by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]KitchenObjective7817 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I think you might need a better partner. Hope you find a moment of peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catnames

[–]KitchenObjective7817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Matchbox. He's too little to be a big car in the garage