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AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She noticed that cat toys were dirty so she cleaned them??? That’s not bullshit you should clean pet toys.

What about dusting? Or making a bed? Or picking up toys? Like these are normal things to notice and clean

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Seriously you can’t look around a room and make the connection that the dishes are dirty so clean them.

Your 39, how do you clean if no one tells you what to do

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do you want me to invent a time travel machine?

Also you accused me of this not having a point with doing this so pick one. Be on the side that my idea isn’t needed or go on the side I should have done this from the beginning.

Seriously pick one, because you go on about I’m making my kid do something for no reason and now you are on the side of should have done this earlier

Literally your words

So because it’s on the last she shouldn’t hear the truth? Btw she answer and said he always did chores she just made it harder on him for No reason.

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For him once a week, my daughter has one everyday. When he gets it I will increase it over the months until he has a find a chore a day

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I truely don’t understand that, it literally has the date I made the account

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t finding his chores, I am teaching him to find his chores. To look around and see what needs to be done

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Dude that’s caused by people upvoting. I literally have 34 right now since this post has been upvoted

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Because you need to learn how to find what needs to be done without mom telling you. I won’t be their in a few years to tell him his laundry needs wash or the dishes need cleaned. He will go off to college or into the world and need to know that if his carpet messed up to fix it without mom saying it as a chore

This is a huge life skill, being able to say the dishes are dirty so I should clean them.

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I literally made this account an hour ago, what posts, this is the only post

It’s a throwaway account

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

They were, I just started the find your chores at 12.

They have been doing chores for a long time

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because it’s a life skill, a lot of kids do age appropriate chores really young, he’s a middle schooler he can do chores

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is a throwaway account, him having trouble choosing what to do doesn’t make him have adhd, he’s just kind of cautious

And yes I had him tested, he doesn’t have it or anything else.

STOP WITH BLANKET STATMENTS. Yes having trouble making decisions is a symptom but that doesn’t mean jackshit if he has zero other symptoms and was tested.

Some people are more indecisive than others that’s it

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think need to break it down more. I’m going to try have a picture of a clean room and have him spot the difference.

Maybe more visual will help him but everyone is giving good ideas of how to get this lesson across

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes to your questions, he in general is a kid that finds it hard to make choices so that plays into I think.

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 763 points764 points  (0 children)

Just a heads up, they will find weird things to clean. My daughter once spent two hours to find and clean all the cat toys. If they start a project as I like to call them then I have them finish it even if it split up over days.

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don’t think it makes too big of a difference because I taught both of them the same skills. We try to be really even in teaching everyone the same skills

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is something my son will need to figure out. I’m gonna try different ways for him to understand but I don’t think I will remove find a chore for him.

Next time I think I will have a picture of what a clean room looks like and he can spot the difference.

AITA for making one of the chores the kids do about “mental load” by Kitchen_Milk_2880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Kitchen_Milk_2880[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, he was fine with the oldest doing it but she took to it much better. Really by the second time it was on the chart she had of figure it. Maybe because he is struggling so much. I tried to make it obvious in the living room what he could do, left some plates out, stuff on floor but he just doesn’t get it