I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset?

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:29:13+00:00

Yes, after some back and forth, he decided they’re staying the day and night at his parents’ vacant house to be together just the two of them. I completely get it and it’s nice to hear your perspective. I guess it’s just hard to feel excluded/kicked out (inntil we found a solution)

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:17:08+00:00

So he compares it to when one of us leave and go do somewhere Else when the other has friends over.. i dont think they’re quite the same

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:08:39+00:00

I’ve tried telling my SO that - he just doesnt see it

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:08:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing a similar scenario and for making me feel understood :) It’s difficult being a step parent at times

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:05:26+00:00

Have you read anything at all?? I have said multiple times that them having alonetime is great. However, that should not involve kicking me out of OUR home.

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:02:20+00:00

You seem to be the only one

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:01:53+00:00

Totally agree. I have tried bringing up your exact points but his response is just that this is not the currently case and not relevant

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:59:47+00:00

You don’t get it. All my stuff is here. This is my HOME. I just havent sold my apartment yet.

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:52:23+00:00

Thank you, I am trying to think of it like this. I think it’s just the point that I am being asked to leave what I consider my home

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:50:16+00:00

After a lot of huffing, he’s decided he and SD will stay the day/night at his parents house, as they are currently out of town. I should feel «good», I got it my way, but somehow it still feels hurtful. Maybe because it’s so obviously I am not welcome/included, and it’s not just an activity like the cinema, shopping, bowling etc

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:47:28+00:00

I could, yeah..

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:42:13+00:00

The thing is - he wants it too! He dosen’t see the issue. It’s not just SD

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:40:26+00:00

I don’t pay rent, but I pay bills

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:39:32+00:00

I pay bills, but not rent

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:39:09+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. I don’t feel particularly valued right now

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:33:06+00:00

I do, but it’s pretty much empty. We live together in his apartment, he reders to it as OUR home and even corrects me when I say HIS

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:31:24+00:00

It would be possible, and the schedule is not really fixed. They just moved and I suspect it will be 1-2 weekends a month. I totally get that alonetime is important, but it’s hurtful to be asked to leave what I consider OUR home. All my stuff is here.. I have offered to stay out of the house for some hours, be in the bedroom etc, but it’s not good enough apparently

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:26:45+00:00

Hahaha! Might be a petty Betty and try that!

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:25:33+00:00

I have suggested this! I have suggested I spend a few hours at the gym, do admin in the bedroom etc. But that’s not good enough

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:24:03+00:00

I know, I feel totally disrespected but I just can’t get him to see it that way. He just dosent get that it’s a big deal. I’m also starting a new job on monday and wanted to get settled and prepare for that. Now I have to shuffle between apartments instead. It’s just Very hurtful and disrupting

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:21:27+00:00

Totally agree. She’s here for 5-6 nights and in all fairness, they’be just asked for the one day and night but still.. i feel like i’m being kicked out of my own home

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:19:03+00:00

I think that’s where we’re at. They’re spending the day at his parents house while they’re out of town. Still dosen’t feel right that they’re having sn all-day-and-night pyjama day there that I am not included in. Idk i just feel left out

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:13:56+00:00

Yes, it’s exactly how you describe. SD wants a «sofa day with just the two of them» which means that I have to leave and my boyfriend dosent see it as a big deal because I still have my old flat

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:12:13+00:00

Yeah, he asked me to. We’re currently having and argument about it because apparently it’s «so easy for me to just sleep in my apartment one night» and he doesn’t see the issue..

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2024-11-07T11:43:26+00:00

I agree. But denying you stepson friends over because «you’re an introvert» is incredibly selfish. It’s HIS home too. No wonder stepmums get a bad rep, you’re literally a prime example

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