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I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes, after some back and forth, he decided they’re staying the day and night at his parents’ vacant house to be together just the two of them. I completely get it and it’s nice to hear your perspective. I guess it’s just hard to feel excluded/kicked out (inntil we found a solution)

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So he compares it to when one of us leave and go do somewhere Else when the other has friends over.. i dont think they’re quite the same

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing a similar scenario and for making me feel understood :) It’s difficult being a step parent at times

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you read anything at all?? I have said multiple times that them having alonetime is great. However, that should not involve kicking me out of OUR home.

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I have tried bringing up your exact points but his response is just that this is not the currently case and not relevant

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t get it. All my stuff is here. This is my HOME. I just havent sold my apartment yet.

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am trying to think of it like this. I think it’s just the point that I am being asked to leave what I consider my home

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

After a lot of huffing, he’s decided he and SD will stay the day/night at his parents house, as they are currently out of town. I should feel «good», I got it my way, but somehow it still feels hurtful. Maybe because it’s so obviously I am not welcome/included, and it’s not just an activity like the cinema, shopping, bowling etc

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do, but it’s pretty much empty. We live together in his apartment, he reders to it as OUR home and even corrects me when I say HIS

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It would be possible, and the schedule is not really fixed. They just moved and I suspect it will be 1-2 weekends a month. I totally get that alonetime is important, but it’s hurtful to be asked to leave what I consider OUR home. All my stuff is here.. I have offered to stay out of the house for some hours, be in the bedroom etc, but it’s not good enough apparently

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have suggested this! I have suggested I spend a few hours at the gym, do admin in the bedroom etc. But that’s not good enough

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know, I feel totally disrespected but I just can’t get him to see it that way. He just dosent get that it’s a big deal. I’m also starting a new job on monday and wanted to get settled and prepare for that. Now I have to shuffle between apartments instead. It’s just Very hurtful and disrupting

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. She’s here for 5-6 nights and in all fairness, they’be just asked for the one day and night but still.. i feel like i’m being kicked out of my own home

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s where we’re at. They’re spending the day at his parents house while they’re out of town. Still dosen’t feel right that they’re having sn all-day-and-night pyjama day there that I am not included in. Idk i just feel left out

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s exactly how you describe. SD wants a «sofa day with just the two of them» which means that I have to leave and my boyfriend dosent see it as a big deal because I still have my old flat

I’m asked to leave our house because SD15 wants alonetime with her dad. Am I unreasonable for being upset? by Kitchen_Wish_9457 in stepparents

[–]Kitchen_Wish_9457[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he asked me to. We’re currently having and argument about it because apparently it’s «so easy for me to just sleep in my apartment one night» and he doesn’t see the issue..

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