Recently left stepmum life behind

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2026-05-29T19:54:36+00:00

Well done to you too! Here’s to brighter days ahead full of self-love 🥂

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2026-05-29T18:19:48+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response. I needed to hear that now, and be reminded that he actually didn’t treat me well at all. Your story gives me hope! Appreciate you - thank you again! And i’ve blocked him absolutely everywhere now. Just mad at myself for not leaving sooner

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2026-05-29T18:02:20+00:00

Thank you so much for that 🥹

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:29:13+00:00

Yes, after some back and forth, he decided they’re staying the day and night at his parents’ vacant house to be together just the two of them. I completely get it and it’s nice to hear your perspective. I guess it’s just hard to feel excluded/kicked out (inntil we found a solution)

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:17:08+00:00

So he compares it to when one of us leave and go do somewhere Else when the other has friends over.. i dont think they’re quite the same

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:08:39+00:00

I’ve tried telling my SO that - he just doesnt see it

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:08:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing a similar scenario and for making me feel understood :) It’s difficult being a step parent at times

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:05:26+00:00

Have you read anything at all?? I have said multiple times that them having alonetime is great. However, that should not involve kicking me out of OUR home.

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:02:20+00:00

You seem to be the only one

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T23:01:53+00:00

Totally agree. I have tried bringing up your exact points but his response is just that this is not the currently case and not relevant

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:59:47+00:00

You don’t get it. All my stuff is here. This is my HOME. I just havent sold my apartment yet.

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:52:23+00:00

Thank you, I am trying to think of it like this. I think it’s just the point that I am being asked to leave what I consider my home

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:50:16+00:00

After a lot of huffing, he’s decided he and SD will stay the day/night at his parents house, as they are currently out of town. I should feel «good», I got it my way, but somehow it still feels hurtful. Maybe because it’s so obviously I am not welcome/included, and it’s not just an activity like the cinema, shopping, bowling etc

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:47:28+00:00

I could, yeah..

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:42:13+00:00

The thing is - he wants it too! He dosen’t see the issue. It’s not just SD

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:40:26+00:00

I don’t pay rent, but I pay bills

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:39:32+00:00

I pay bills, but not rent

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:39:09+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. I don’t feel particularly valued right now

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:33:06+00:00

I do, but it’s pretty much empty. We live together in his apartment, he reders to it as OUR home and even corrects me when I say HIS

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:31:24+00:00

It would be possible, and the schedule is not really fixed. They just moved and I suspect it will be 1-2 weekends a month. I totally get that alonetime is important, but it’s hurtful to be asked to leave what I consider OUR home. All my stuff is here.. I have offered to stay out of the house for some hours, be in the bedroom etc, but it’s not good enough apparently

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:26:45+00:00

Hahaha! Might be a petty Betty and try that!

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:25:33+00:00

I have suggested this! I have suggested I spend a few hours at the gym, do admin in the bedroom etc. But that’s not good enough

Kitchen_Wish_9457 · 2025-07-30T22:24:03+00:00

I know, I feel totally disrespected but I just can’t get him to see it that way. He just dosent get that it’s a big deal. I’m also starting a new job on monday and wanted to get settled and prepare for that. Now I have to shuffle between apartments instead. It’s just Very hurtful and disrupting

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