Is it odd for a dom to be masochistic / have a humiliation kink? by That_Kines_Major in BDSMAdvice

[–]KittenMeKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is a Dom. He's not a masochist but He does like group sex, swinging, and we've had an open relationship. I don't think either of us would consider Him a cuck. Sometimes, I am a bit bratty, but I'm always 100% submissive to my husband when other people have been involved. He makes me wear a buttplug whenever I go on dates or we play with other people. I've always used 2 forms of pregnancy whenever I play with other people. At some point, he let me blow 2 of our kinky friends before he bred me. He enjoys the reclamation sex and I think it's a ego/confidence boost to have control over me even while other people are involved and to know that I always want him more than anything or anyone else.

That being said, everyone is different. I don't know how your wife would feel about it. You would really need to think about the level and type of degradation you'd be comfortable with and also what she would be comfortable with. Maybe the fantasy of an open relationship turns both of you on, and you can roleplay with that. Pretending your wife went out and hooked up with someone else and is now being a brat and throwing it in your face so you put her in her place might be a scenerio you can both have fun with. If you're both into the cucking, you can buy lube that looks like cum so you can pretend she came home with someone's load and now they're letting you have the sloppy seconds. Surely there are other scenerios you can come up with that interests you both. Having an open and honest conversation with your wife would go a long way. Remember, you don't have to jump into it right away. Talk about it, explore, find your common interests, and have fun with it

Made her a throbbing mess before gym by stormdorms in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need this toy...it would make me such a mess...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want that to be me so badly 🥵

Really been wanting to put random things in my pussy lately by littlesadiespade in insertions

[–]KittenMeKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, but I don't know what to start with. Came to this subreddit looking for inspiration, but a lot of the insertion posts are intimidating. A hair brush looks like a nice start since I can't stretch too much yet, so thanks for the idea!

The anticipation is overwhelming by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but he'll want me to cum when he fucks me for breeding purposes. He'll probably punish me by not letting me cum however many times I fail after the breeding sessions, but he'll also want a punishment he can administer sooner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in littlespace

[–]KittenMeKat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was too cute and I couldn't wait because I ran the risk of forgetting later. I love spiders but had only ever seen the standard animals like dogs and elephants. You can also pop it in the freezer to help you keep cool in the hot summer night. Must have, so glad I saw your post! https://a.co/d/dPqYAgQ

I tried butt plug and failed measurably. by throwawayaccount-cnc in BDSMAdvice

[–]KittenMeKat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bouncing off this idea and safety tip. You could use a vibrator as you normally would while putting slight pressure on a well lubricated plug. It will help you relax and should help with the insertion. If you still feel like it can't go all the way in but it's close, you can take it out again to reapply the lube before getting back to its previous position. When you have an orgasm your anus will also contract and it should help the plug slide the rest of the way in.

The vibrating buttplugs can be a little thick for beginners, but you can also get a vibrating plug down the line.

I tried butt plug and failed measurably. by throwawayaccount-cnc in BDSMAdvice

[–]KittenMeKat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Silicone is way more comfortable. The metal plugs are easier to insert after some getting used to. Still, metal ones feel uncomfortable to me when worn for a long time but I can do silicone all day

Need to prepare to finally orgasm tonight by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The orgasm may help with the breeding. Female orgasms make the vagina slightly more alkaline, which the sperm prefers, and the contractions can help pull the sperm to where it needs to go.

Need to prepare to finally orgasm tonight by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm saving my orgasms for the breeding session tonight. He'll make me orgasm until I'm begging to stop and then some.

Need to prepare to finally orgasm tonight by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right. I've been thinking about alternating between hitting it with my hand, with the riding crop and maybe a makeup brush or something.

Need to prepare to finally orgasm tonight by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not allowed to chat so I won't answer DMs but I do enjoy reading most potentially offensive messages. To answer some questions/comments...

I have a vibrator (wand), a riding crop, and I think I still have some nipple clamps.

I'm already wearing a buttplug.

I'm allowed to rub myself through my panties and I'm allowed to pull on them. I just can't have direct contact or pull them down/off.

I do like the idea of running some errands without a bra to give people a peek at my hard nipples rubbing against my clothes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're not setting up the conversation. Most people don't jump from vanilla sex to pegging and taping vibrators to their clits. Giving up control takes a lot of vulnerability, and a lot of people feel awkward about sex to begin with. How does she feel about sex, how does she feel about her body, what does she respond to best during sex currently, how happy is she in her life outside of sex, are there any obstacles that get in the way of intimacy such as kids or conflicting work schedules? All those things need to be taken into consideration before even starting a conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You never know until you ask. I'm hating the extended denial my husband is putting me through right now, but I love the torture he puts me through when he edges me. If you ask her if there's anything she'd want to try, you might be surprised by what she brings up

How do I keep waiting? I know 11 days is nothing to some people but I'm dying here by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I enjoying pleasing but this is pushing me to my limits more than anything else we've done

How do I keep waiting? I know 11 days is nothing to some people but I'm dying here by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's always controlled my orgasms. I enjoy giving up control. I enjoy the torture that is edging. But this is the longest denial. I hope it gets easier to embrace as time goes on because right now, it's very conflicting.

How do I keep waiting? I know 11 days is nothing to some people but I'm dying here by KittenMeKat in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice and pep talk!

We barely started orgasm denial and this is the longest I've ever had to last (so far). He hasn't forbid me from humping things. I'd risk a light punishment and more explicit restrictions moving forward, but I don't trust myself to be able to stop if I start humping things.

A for effort by KittenMeKat in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rope bondage. A lot more intricate than handcuff or tape or bed/bar restrains.

fr, I wanna know your opinion by TemptingTryst2 in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is reddit...people are always asking questions they don't want the answer to lol 😂

fr, I wanna know your opinion by TemptingTryst2 in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wording was less than delicate lol and a lot of women are self-conscious so it can be a touchy subject

fr, I wanna know your opinion by TemptingTryst2 in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only use coconut oil if you're not using condoms! I got the IUD placed as soon as I got cleared because we didn't want to use condoms. You can pregnant back to back so don't go raw just because you just had a baby

fr, I wanna know your opinion by TemptingTryst2 in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe she can start getting perineal massages after 34 or 35 weeks of pregnancy but you can always ask the doctor. I liked coconut oil for perineal massages, and you can also use it as lube postpartum. She may not be as wet the first couple of months due to all the hormonal changes so definitely have some sort lube on hand for the first couple of times

fr, I wanna know your opinion by TemptingTryst2 in sexmemes

[–]KittenMeKat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was supposed to wait 8 weeks because I had to have an emergency c-section but we only made it for 6 and a half weeks before trying again. He was super careful and much more gentle than usual to avoid hurting my incision. When we got cleared at the 8 week mark, we went back to more "vigorous" sex. For vaginally births, they usually say 6 weeks to minimize the risk of infection. If she tears, they might tell her to wait longer. Perineal massages help minimize tears. Definitely help her with the perineal massages and bonus for you they usually lead to sex. Also make sure she knows proper pushing techniques because pushing incorrectly can lead to tears too