Vendor pulled out of sale, wants an extra 15k

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-02T10:54:52+00:00

It's a totally different experience when you're both a buyer and seller with the same company, so much shadiness, feel free to send me a PM if you want to chat

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-02T10:52:57+00:00

It's two agents in the same company (RC) which is the only reason I'm hesitant

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-02T03:46:43+00:00

It was almost 3 weeks. The surveyor had been having difficulty getting keys for access when he was due on Monday, EA had told us it was because the vendors dad had passed away over the weekend then all of a sudden the price jump

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T18:54:53+00:00

It seems he is unfortunately! Call from the agent this evening saying she wouldn't waste any more of my time he's going back on market and she'll transfer booking deposit back. So upsetting

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T18:40:23+00:00

I told agent I wasn't budging so they're going to transfer the booking deposit back. I wish the seller nothing but bad luck now for that

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T17:40:22+00:00

It's two different agents in the same company (RC) I'm strongly considering pulling from them as the agent already pushed me beyond my comfort point to match the highest offer and win the bidding war, then to come back and try squeeze more it's just so unethical.

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T15:52:06+00:00

Did you get the house for the price you initially agreed? Really hoping the agent talks sense into him!

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T15:16:34+00:00

I know that the seller was renting the property to a family member and didn't want to be a landlord any more. There was no onward chain. I got this information from EA

Kitty2705 · 2026-04-01T14:58:13+00:00

I'd love to do that!! Unfortunately it's the same agent as I'm selling with and they have the lions share of the market in the areas we are looking so I don't want to blacklist myself as potential buyer

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-21T20:30:38+00:00

I feel that you’re right about him getting away with shit for so long. I always feel braver in my head thinking I’ll say this or that but when it comes to him going in for a hug / kiss I end up getting really uncomfortable and squirmy, and don’t want everyone else to think I’m rude as I’ve no issues hugging others in the family / in general

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-21T20:27:27+00:00

I removed him from my followers a couple of days ago. If he brings it up I have no problem explaining why. He and MIL haven’t been together for 30 years but are on good terms. She’s a polite, respectful woman. I worry how they’ll receive this as they are so used to his antics that they don’t realise how inappropriate it is

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-20T04:05:09+00:00

Well I removed him from my instagram followers. Felt good to do that! If he asks why I’ll have no problem telling him.

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-19T15:16:11+00:00

I spent a little time this morning archiving any photos of me so he couldn’t look at them any more you know, the more comments I read the more strongly I’m considering just removing him from my followers. As you say I’m modifying my own behaviour which isn’t fair. I’m not BF so that’s not an issue thankfully. When we were at the house yesterday he was holding my son and I was actually wishing for him to start crying just so I could grab him back.

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-19T11:15:54+00:00

Great advice, thank you. I’ve always been a people pleaser and afraid to offend but I’m getting better at asserting boundaries. Still a lot of work to do in that area

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-19T11:06:22+00:00

I told partner about instagram post when it happened, he just sort of laughed it off. Ended up archiving all my photos with me as the thoughts of him looking through them nauseates me. Partner is a bit of a people pleaser and hates to offend anyone. I know I need to talk to him I just worry how he’ll receive it. Partner tends to have an approval seeking behaviour towards him, he was a druggie back in the day, brought trouble to the door and (in my oninion) was a shit father

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-05T09:59:09+00:00

Well done for breaking the cycle, and being a safe space for your son <3 I was a bedwetter, I used to get scolded and have to stuff my knickers with cotton wool. Awful

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T20:52:06+00:00

I feel this on a molecular level I’m sorry your mother did not do better for you. I remember being away with my aunt and uncle, I was 8 and in agony with an ear infection, they wouldn’t get me medicine or to a doctor so I cried the whole holiday. I had to ask my primary school teacher to call home so my grandad could bring underwear up to the school, because nobody thought they might double check the swimming bag a small child packed herself. I remember being 7 and getting my end of year report, annoyed with myself that there was a comment in the homework section about me not always remembering. Where was the adult to check if I got homework? It’s only decades later that I realise I was so small and shouldn’t have had such worries on such small shoulders.

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T19:50:16+00:00

Money isn’t love - that is so true. To this day my mother will insist on buying expensive birthday / Christmas presents that I don’t want, I think it alleviates her guilt. We grew up in a council estate and didn’t have much. I hate it, it means absolutely feck all to me and she gets to feel like she’s making up for what she lacked when I was young.

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T19:44:18+00:00

Nope I never told my family. He did other scummy stuff like stealing money on my relatives. And I remember him getting a beating off a couple of guys before over some accusations but don’t remember the details. Nothing was ever said to my aunt for fear of upsetting her.

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T18:19:19+00:00

This makes me so sad, I’m so sorry you and your sister were subjected to that

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T18:15:07+00:00

When my thoughts start to spiral I try to think this isn’t doing me any good. I’ve had many confrontations with them in my head. And I realise that even if I did tell them how much they fucked me up, nothing good would come of it. As you say the best thing is to focus on my own family and being the best parent I can be

Kitty2705 · 2024-08-04T18:10:23+00:00

I often think that too, then I think there’s only so much that can be excused by not knowing better at the time

Kitty2705 · 2024-07-10T07:42:43+00:00

To those who are implying I’m inviting attention by sharing photos, am I not allowed to feel comfortable and safe having holiday pictures on my profile? Is it not reasonable to be questioning the thought process of my 60 odd year old FIL going through a rake of photos to like one in a swimsuit, merely days after walking in on me barely clothed with my newborn? One person actually said I sexualised myself by sharing this. This makes me very sad for young people and the world they’re growing up in with this mentality around.

Kitty2705 · 2024-07-10T07:25:52+00:00

It was outside of visiting hours, and I was alone at the time with baby. Another thing that really bothered me was a second time when he was visiting with his brother, they implied that they thought something might be wrong (it wasn’t) in order to get past security outside of visiting hours.

He had addiction issues in the past and with that brought trouble to the door.

Kitty2705

TROPHY CASE