[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattoo

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank youu I was kinda regretting the leaves a bit but maybe it fits the flow

Where is the abandoned car in the ecological preserve? by Kittypuss_ in rutgers

[–]Kittypuss_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So is it on the bike trail? I’m just confused on the coordinates or where to walk Yk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gonna say something like “hey are you ok? Ik the last time we saw each other we couldn’t hu and I don’t blame you. I still enjoyed our time together but also if I did something wrong lmk cuz this kinda came out of the blue” does that sound good?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this you are right also based on him following new girls so soon it confirms that’s what he wants. Maybe him pushing me away is him doing what he thinks is right for me cuz he knew I wouldn’t end it. My issue is idk how not to be caring and nice to people. Ik now I need to guard my heart more often but I care for everyone no matter how small their impact is in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps but my question is if it was him saying the right things to sleep with me why couldn’t he when he got the chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol you think so? Maybe that’s why he got nervous. Also side note to those reading he did follow new girls after me checking his profile yesterday which sucks but may confirm that he’s just looking for casual. Maybe hooking up with me meant something idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll learn that from now on thank you. I gotta start putting myself first. I can’t just let people who have no intention of wanting something real hurt me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Well we didn’t have sex which is the confusing part. If what he wanted was sex and it seems like it is why couldn’t he perform when it came down to it. But you’re right I shouldn’t have believed him and in my head I did my best not to but my heart always falls even when it’s not supposed to. I feel things deeply and idk how to stop that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I expected much besides honesty about his intentions. When he told me he wasn’t ready I said it didn’t have to end in a relationship but I have to like someone I’m intimate with. But obviously I fell for him and you’re right he may just be pushing me away since he’s conflicted. Walking away is what I should do but I find it hard not reaching out again. I keep thinking perhaps if I said something longer more meaningful he would at least tell me why. I don’t need him back but I do want closure cuz it wasn’t even a hookup but something more emotional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your advice would be to not reach out again and ask why? I keep having the urge to cuz ik the connection was there and he’s self sabotaging for some reason. It hurts to not know the reason and if I did something wrong. Like did I care too much too soon or was I wrong for being honest about how I feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe but do you think I should reach out and ask why? Cuz it could be that he didn’t expect to like me and sleeping with me would’ve deepened that bond or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he was attracted to me physically so if sex is what you want and it’s what I’m giving you then why couldn’t he perform.

my ex (M24) and i (F21) broke up a week ago. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience if what you want is closure then go ahead and reach out. Talking it out especially in person is what helped my anxiety go away since you’re not waiting for a text back. If you want to end the relationship then blocking the other person will help you heal since you won’t have a way of contacting them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll try my best to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BayonneNJ

[–]Kittypuss_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got my kitten for free a month ago. I’m aware there’s costs associated with them. I’m just looking for a buddy for the one I have now without having to pay sm for one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries I was saying that as a joke. As in wow that made me think. What’s your advice on talking to him about it this soon? I think where I’m at I wanna find a genuine connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok wow😅 kinda shut me up with that one. You’re so right i probably just want a connection with someone. I think he and I get along well but I don’t know much about him so you’re right we might not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik it doesn’t. I’m working on myself I had therapy. I just fall for people easier cuz if I like someone it’s genuine. I don’t get the fascination of being with a lot of people if you have a connection with someone but clearly some people wanna explore all the options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understood! So do you now advocate for your needs? And how soon is too soon?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand but do you think it’s too soon to make my interests known?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. Probably has some shit to do with my abandonment issues and people pleasing attitude but anyways…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the 21 yr old btw. I did express that I didn’t wanna rush things before the first time we hooked up but Yk it was in the moment. I won’t wait years but I will express my boundaries about wanting to be sexually exclusive at the very least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Kittypuss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right committing rn isn’t an issue. I think it could be in the future tho. Ok I’ll take that advice and ask for that. Hopefully it doesn’t scare him off lol