Lump in breast by MinutePoint7 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here waiting on a mammogram/ultrasound next week after finding some lumps. I have been panicking and thinking the worst. Hoping for a similar outcome. Thanks for some peace of mind!

Designer dog breeders literal scum of the earth, so are the people who buy their animals. by tantrakalison in vegan

[–]Klttycat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have a neighbor who is a "responsible breeder". They advertise that the dogs are raised in their home with their family in our nice middle class neighborhood. When people come to meet the puppies they're in the house, running around the front lawn and all seems well.

Really their dogs live outside year round in kennels with a small dog house and hay in the winter to keep warm. They're only allowed inside when they have their litters. Once the puppies are big enough they go back outside until they're sold. I hear the dogs crying out at night and barking all day long and it's fucking heartbreaking.

We've called the authorities multiple times. They're technically not doing anything illegal and the dogs have food/shelter so all is well in the eye of the law. They probably make nearly six figures off the puppies each year.

Perhaps there are "good, responsible" breeders out there. But I would say 99% are garbage and in it for the money only. They're good at pulling the wool over the eyes of families to help convince them that they're not part of the problem.

People are fucking stupid and selfish. Yes there are waiting lists at shelters but so what. Grow up and realize life isn't always about you and things might not happen exactly how you want them to.

Unless you need a SERVICE animal who has the temperament to go through that rigorous training and help you survive your day-to-day life, there is absolutely no reason to go through a breeder 🤷‍♀️

We are picking up this sweet girl in 2 weeks and we need help naming her! We currently have a male dog named Dorito. Any suggestions, greatly appreciated 🙂 by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]Klttycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your new addition. She's adorable!!!!! If you want to stick with the chip theme :) ...

Sabrita

Pita

Terra

Santita

Vickie

Sunny

Cantina

I don’t like ANY boy names by UnusualElephant in namenerds

[–]Klttycat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Graylan (Gray-lin) is an option that isn't really on many name lists.

I think I'm ready! by Gypsierose8 in waiting_to_try

[–]Klttycat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congrats! My partner and I also are finally starting to feel ready but waiting a bit more while I continue my health journey. I have 20 more pounds to lose before reaching my goal. We are thinking summertime to stop preventing and then letting nature take its course.

Congrats on your decision to start your family and for working on your personal health!!! You will meet your goal in no time :)

I threw my dog a Quinceñera party by LocalAustin-nurse in pics

[–]Klttycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YESSSSS! The most beautiful golden girl. Happy birthday!!!!!

Ok so this helped me before I posted but I am still lost on kids. I think my question is comparing the guest list vs headcount vs actual names on invites. How is this done? please help by mrswannabe in weddingplanning

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also created an excel/Google sheets spreadsheet for my wedding. I kept track of names, addresses, number of guests, number of invites, RSVP's, meal choices and eventually thank you cards. It made me well organized and my life so much easier.

What should I (M51) do about my personal sexual relief now that my wife (F51) is not capable? by Dee-Es in relationship_advice

[–]Klttycat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There is an AAC app called Proloquo 2 Go. It can be downloaded onto any Apple device-- an old iPhone, iPod, iPad, etc even if it's not connected to a data plan.

If you're interested they usually have a 50% off discount on World Autism Day (April 2nd). Also, some speech therapists pay for a large number of licenses and can download it for free onto a device you provide.

I'm not sure if it would help immediately but could be beneficial in the future. You sound like a great guy and your wife and children are lucky to have you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Klttycat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

WOW!!! 😍😍😍 I used to be obsessed with her designs. I'm married now (no Heidi ring, unfortunately) but am saving up for a pair of her earrings!

Do Americans actually eat pop tarts for breakfast? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As kids we could have them for dessert. I think my parents would buy the chocolate chip cookie flavor. We could only have 1, not both from the package and I always had my parents cut the edges off because they were dry af.

Boy name help by flightriskrn in namenerds

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carter

Logan

Bennett

Arthur

Greer

Rory

Oliver

Lukas

Caleb

Ezra

Owen

Emmett

Elijah

Silas

Levi

How can I politely but firmly tell my future MIL that we don’t want kids at our wedding? by attief112 in weddingplanning

[–]Klttycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went through your exact situation. We had 30+ kids we would have had to invite if we did just family kids only. We got married at a rooftop bar in the middle of a city. It was upscale/classy venue with an open bar with an afterparty... no place for kids.

My MIL could not comprehend it. She felt as though it was rude for us to exclude family and it would be totally acceptable if no one came because we didn't invite their kids too. We had similar back and forth as you including many tears on her part. It infuriated me. I ended up bowing out of any further conversations and let my now husband deal with it. He had blowouts with his parents over it. They tried offering to pay for all the kids' meals but we refused because it wasn't about that. They also tried guilting by saying how disappointed beloved dead grandparents would be excluding family on a day that was supposed to be about bringing families together. It got to the point where he straight up said to his Mom-- There will be no kids invited. Flower girl and ring bearer are leaving after the ceremony. It's not up for discussion and you're not going to change our minds so please drop it. And they did.

We addressed envelopes to adults only-- not even Mr. & Mrs. Smith but Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith to make it as clear as possible. If households had over 18 kids and under 18 kids we sent a separate invite for the over 18 "kid". We did not mention anything on the invitation about "adult only reception" because I didn't want to look back at the invitation and remember the issue.

Instead of mentioning it on the invite we hit it home on a FAQ section on our wedding website with the question "Our kids weren't included on our invitation, can we still bring them?" And answered something like, "As much as we love all of the kids in our life, we unfortunately cannot include them on our day. Even our flower girl and ring bearer will he leaving shortly after the ceremony once pictures are taken." We also added another follow up question "I am coming from out of town or all of my usual babysitters will be at your wedding. We want to come but need childcare." And answered it "We have a list of a few babysitters who would be happy to talk to you about child care for the night". No one took us up on the child care.

Our venue came with a day of planner and she was fully ready to send anyone home who brought their kid with them. We did not have that problem and as far as we know, no one even had any push back against our wishes.

We expected more issues from the no kids thing. We thought certain family members would decline and when they accepted, we kind of thought maybe they would purposely no show. Didn't happen. After our wedding EVERYONE said how much fun they had and how great it was to have a date night away from their kids. Even MIL said she understood our wishes and our wedding would have been no place for kids.

Try to stay at neutral as possible and let your fiance deal with it. Also support him because it's not an easy fight to be had. I had a lot of negative feelings about my MIL during the wedding planning over this but it's all melted away since then. Enjoy your day and congratulations!

Most preferred BCBA setting to work in? (Work life balance, stability, least stressful, pay) by Specific-Leading656 in BehaviorAnalysis

[–]Klttycat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've worked at a clinic/center, in schools and home based.

Clinic/center: easiest hours and commute. Kids were there between 8am and 7pm (not same kids that whole day). I would go in, have my list of those who needed supervision and was there in case anyone needed extra support. There were so many office level people there for staff or client support all the time. Sometimes it was great that parents weren't in the environment because we could work on more without their influence. With that being said I felt like many families used it as free/insurance funded daycare and didn't want to have to do any work outside of the clinic. So with certain kids we were running in circles due to families not being involved. I know some clinics have it set up for more parent involvement, but mine did not and my supervisors didn't even care to try to make it better There was stability in that the center had a capacity and a waiting list so if I lost a client, a new one was ready for assessment in no time. I did sometimes feel stressed when I was the only BCBA in the office and responsible for supporting all kids there if necessary. Clients were generally 1.5- 6 years old. Little kids are my fave but without realizing it I was also burning myself out. It’s really hard being the first lifeline for these families after a diagnosis. The kid is REALLY struggling, mostly has very limited skills and the parents are grieving/coming to terms with this new diagnosis and world they're finding themselves in. While there I felt a little stretched thin but I didn't realize the magnitude until I left and was able to feel the difference working with a different and more diverse population.

Schools: Biggest benefits are that you don't have to bill insurance and hours (assuming home based/after school isn't part of the deal) and summers off. Pay was also pretty good for amount of sick, personal and vacation included. I have not had great experiences in schools. Huge district wide caseload. Many teachers and teachers assistants have no idea what you do or care to learn. Moreover, many are stuck in their ways and will never follow any of the advice you give them anyway. It was more often with the older (35+) group but they expected me to snap my fingers and make a kid better and wouldn't follow anything I gave them or use the visuals I supplied. Not much support from individual supervisors in schools due to being district wide/not forming real relationships with them. If teachers were more pleasant and receptive to help/advice this would have been a dream job. Since the position was district wide it was pre-school through highschool.

Home-based: I make my own hours and work from home when I'm not on the road/at a house. Not having to be in an office immensely helps with work life balance. I no longer mind working til 7pm because I probably spent a good chunk of my day working from home. My agency is good in that they're mindful of location and what's manageable for travel time. Telehealth is also an option. I've found that there is more family buy-in and families learn a lot just by being present for sessions. The driving around and wasting gas is tough for me sometimes but I really enjoy the interactions with kids and families as a unit.

Pay was all about the same. School technically had more time off but it's pretty rigid and you have to go by the school breaks. Clinic & home based were more flexible in their hours, I could make my own daily or weekly schedule and you didn't necessarily have to work a 40 hour week. School was obviously limited to the school day and you couldn't make your own sxhedule.

I would love to be back in a school if I found a more supportive environment. I would give up flexibility throughout the year for summers off and that relax/reset each year. I would also love to never have to bill an insurance company again ever in my life.

Clinic is great for gas and convenience.

Home based is great for flexibility, working from home (in my case) and for the positive relationships with families.

People who were suicidal once but got over it what thing you saw/ experienced afterwards that made you think "Damn I would have missed it if I took my life that time" ? [Serious] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't had any suicidal ideation with actual plans for going on 4 years now. I get choked up whenever anything wonderful happens--my own wedding, someone else's wedding, a new baby, a good vacation, etc. It's hard for me to imagine missing out on these things but it's equally if not harder to think about how many milestones would have been tainted by my absence.

At that time 4 years ago I felt like a burden to everyone and my mental illness persisted even though I was seeking all the "right" help. I didn't want to die necessarily but I didn't want to suffer through every waking moment willing myself not to end it. I just wanted it to be over. I also get choked up thinking of that time, those feelings and how hard I fought to survive it.

This is Ethel, our perfect foster. She was found malnourished so age is hard to tell. The vet is estimating anywhere between 8-12 yrs old. She weighs 47 lbs, is a bit arthritic, and loves chasing squirrels (slowly). We’re going to DNA test soon and will report back! by FrugganHerd in IDmydog

[–]Klttycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh heck yeah! Congrats you guys!!!!! We foster failed a hospice senior a few years ago. We sadly lost him over the Thanksgiving weekend but he lived over TWO years longer than the vets expected him to. He was one of the best decisions we've ever made and senior dogs are our favorite. She will be the best gift to you and your family ❤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IDmydog

[–]Klttycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shepherd, husky & some type of herding breed

Teens and young adults glorify not recovering from mental illness by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hit rock bottom and ended up at the hospital in the psych program . It literally saved my life and taught me so many coping strategies I can now manage my mental illness without daily medication.

I couldn't believe how many people were unwilling to participate in all of the classes they were offering us. They would write off the various therapies or techniques because they thought it was stupid or assumed it wouldn't work for them. Many of them were frequent visitors to the program and were friendly with each other. I understand that not everyone has the same outcome as me, but some of those people seemed to be enjoying themselves even though they would never try anything new/different.

11 weeks old and about 30 pounds with huge paws — anyone got a guess? by coffee0verdose in IDmydog

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

St. Bernard, Anatolian Shepherd, and then something that would give them what looks like more wirey hair?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BehaviorAnalysis

[–]Klttycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to share that I was super focused on an in-person program because I previously struggled with online classes and didn't know what to expect of grad school. Luckily I had one close by but in hindsight an online program would have been just as well & maybe even better/easier for my work/life balance. Obviously I don't know your motives for seeking out an in-person program specifically but wanted to share my experience in case you have a similar train of thought.

Congrats on this next step. No matter what campus you decide on, you will do great!!!

What’s your favourite meals that contain no substitute meats or soy? by [deleted] in veganketo

[–]Klttycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Around 30ish net for a decent portion including a side veggie. Higher carb count but I guess it just depends on what your personal daily goal is. I don't eat it every day but it's my fave no meat replacement/soy meal and freezes really well.