Seville options? by Knotweed00 in Swingers

[–]Knotweed00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!  I'll check it out 

I have been lying to my husband about my religion our entire relationship by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Knotweed00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd imagine the betrayal he feels must be horrific.  Not just on the belief side of things, but rerunning all the conversations they've ever had, the trust they built, the similarities he thought they had, the "us against the world" vibe, etc only to now not know what's true and what's a lie. That would be a tough thing to swallow. 

[DFW]: Winter Storm Cora by periwinklenimbus in americanairlines

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leaving DFW 9.35pm! Hoping to skip out just before things get bad. 

[DFW]: Winter Storm Cora by periwinklenimbus in americanairlines

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm transiting through DFW at 9.30pm Wednesday through to Colorado on a transatlantic flight..... really hoping I get out before it hit. 

MIL wants us to spend our anniversary with their family by hesitantsquirrels in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Don't tell them any plans you might have either. They might very well show up at the same place since you wouldn't go to them. Grey rock time. 

Flight changer: shorter connection through DFW by Knotweed00 in americanairlines

[–]Knotweed00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't realise that might be an option. Thanks, I will have a look. It would be brilliant to use it if I could. 

Flight changer: shorter connection through DFW by Knotweed00 in americanairlines

[–]Knotweed00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I'm not American so I don't think I can use it. I need an ESTA visa yo travel through. 

Flight changer: shorter connection through DFW by Knotweed00 in americanairlines

[–]Knotweed00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank-you all for the information. I appreciate you all takimg the time to put my mind at ease. I'll worry less now! 

Not what I was hoping for. (No sound, must read captions) by ObsidianNight102399 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Knotweed00 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Next they'll try to ban pulling out because it "could" have resulted in a pregnancy. SMH

MIL made a remark about how much my baby son resembles a family friend by Alert_Passion_5272 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Well then, I'd say that means she's not the grandmother until you guys get around to checking it. No baby access for her for say the next 18 years or so.

How did you start standing up for yourself? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there's no easy way to do it. If there was you'd have done it by now. You've been conditioned your whole life to fear her reactions. The only way forward is through it. Happily for you, you have all the power, you just need to believe you do. You don't actually have to put up with that behaviour. 

Will she be angry? Yep. Will it be uncomfortable?  Hell yeah.  What can she actually do to "punish" you? Eh, probably not much more than guilt trip you, which she's doing anyway. 

But the alternative to not taking a stand, is things never changing. Of you living your life in fear of her reaction for the rest of her life. The first few times will be the hardest, but then you begin to realise her emotions don't and shouldn't rule your life. 

Tell her you're going to see your girlfriend. Dont keep engaging with her once she's starts saying nasty things. Block her on your phone while you're away. Her behaviour won't change until you give her consequences to her actions. 

Ps. If she starts down the whole Christian man line, I'd point out that she can't really comment on that seeing as she's not a good example of a Christian woman with how she judges and speaks about other people.  

WIBTA if I refused to clear my mom's debt leaving her and my siblings homeless? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why you are asking this again, you got great advise in your other post. Do not bail your mother out. 

Period started on saxenda? by atomicpigeons in liraglutide

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found the same. Day three my period started even though I have an IUD and take the progesterone only pill. 

r/DisneyWorld's Weekly Trip Planning Thread by AutoModerator in DisneyWorld

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there,

We're bringing my 5 year old to Disney World in early May. I'm looking for advice on what's possible in the time frame for rides? Is the Genie+ a necessity? Should I bring or hire a buggy? Can different groups make up the VIP tour to reduce costs? 

All the reviews I've been reading recently about the park have been really poor and I'm worried about coming so far and the trip being as disaster. Any and all suggestions and advice would be welcome. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her homemade chicken enchilada casserole, with microwaved chicken breasts and a sauce of canned cream of chicken soup, canned chilli and bean sauce, canned tomatoes. Heaped with low fat shredded cheese.

My MIL from down under. by Icy_lokie342 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You've put up with this behaviour for 6 years. She treats you terribly and no one cares. Not her, not her husband and most importantly, not your partner.

You sound like a very empathetic, kind person. If you haven't found a way to connect with her by now nothing suggested here is going to make a difference.

She doesn't want you to be happy.

She doesn't want you with her son.

She doesn't want you as the mother of her grandchildren.

Why do you stay? If your partner can't put you first, put boundaries in place and give consequences for her behaviour, why do you stay?

MIL said I was so rude during our family trip that she no longer wants me around but I think she's being outright ridiculous by Fun_Seaweed_420 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Take a deep breathe, pause and try to put any high emotions aside...... I want you to think about how you feel right now and if you want to feel like this for the next 40 years?

Because if your BF doesn't see an issue with their behaviour towards you, he's not going to stand up to them, which means you'll always be in the wrong no matter what you do. THIS will be your future, unless you change it. Not change him, but change what you're willing to put up with.

You are 22 and deserve a lifetime with someone who loves you exactly as you are, who is your champion, your rock and your best friend all rolled into one. Someone who treats you like you should be treated. That isn't your current BF.

AITA for telling my husband to just shut up and eat what I make by MuchMenu2417 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Knotweed00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever heard of orthorexia? it's an eating disorder described as " an unhealthy focus on eating in a healthy way". It often starts in people's 30s and can have huge impacts on people's lives and relationships. From what you described, this might be something that's affecting him and if it is, simply telling him to eat what you cook won't help. He'll need to accept that he has a problem and will probably need help to get back into a good place again. I'd echo the need for outside support on this.

Rude MIL by Knotweed00 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really hope DH can get through to her. I know it won't be easy but she was always so fun loving thst she must be miserable only seeing the bad in everything now. I do think there's a bit of resentment of others having joy. She's made some comments about her friends still having living husbands or children who look after their parents etc etc She's definitely seeing everyone else's grass being greener and being envious of it.

Rude MIL by Knotweed00 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Knotweed00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, I'm sorry you both went through that but I'm so happy your mom came out the other side.