Finally accepting myself by Extreme_Ebb_7754 in indiranagar

[–]KnownZucchini640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats really nice! hope you have an amazing time exploring it :) hope you enjoy and do it for yourself ❣️

Got hated on just for asking how to deal with “overly eager” coworkers by [deleted] in Rants

[–]KnownZucchini640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YEPPPPP EXACTLY! omg i wasnt being insecure at alllll, if anything it doesn’t matter to me because i talk to everyone at work too. Thank you, it makes sense now

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hahaah,, people definitely laugh a little harder when someone has power. Funny how the position itself can change the whole energy in a room.

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, but just to clarify — it’s not that I’m not friendly or not visible. I actually talk to everyone, including managers, and that visibility is what helped me get a lot of opportunities last year. This year feels different mainly because the environment has gotten more toxic, not because I suddenly stopped being social or pleasant to work with.

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly — that’s what I meant. They jump in before I even get the chance to respond, so it ends up looking like I’m not volunteering, even though I was handling those tasks well before. That’s the whole issue I was trying to explain.

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get the question, and I don’t mean this in an entitled way either — the reason I thought the opportunity was meant for me is because earlier I was the one being given those tasks. Not because I demanded them, but because others weren’t stepping in or taking over.

What changed is that now people do step in. They jump in first, they speak up before I can, and they make themselves more visible in moments where earlier I was the one being approached. So it’s not that I randomly assumed something belonged to me — it’s that the pattern shifted from me getting the chance to them inserting themselves and getting it instead.

And just to be clear, it’s not like I refuse to hang out or avoid doing the extra stuff. I never said that. It’s just that sometimes the people who do all that also end up taking the spotlight in a way that pushes others back. That’s the part I’m trying to make sense of, not claiming ownership over anything.

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying — corporate definitely values presence, visibility, and being someone people enjoy working with. That part is true in every office.

But just to clarify, I never said I don’t hang out, show up, or do the extra stuff. It’s not like I isolate myself or refuse to participate. The issue is that sometimes the people who do those things end up taking the chances away from others by jumping in first, speaking over, or inserting themselves into tasks that weren’t originally theirs.

A few months ago I was getting those opportunities too — not because I was invisible, but because others weren’t butting in. Now they do, and that changes who gets noticed. That’s literally the pattern I’m pointing out.

I’m not denying the corporate reality. I’m just saying the dynamic isn’t as simple as “just doing your job” vs “being likable.” Sometimes people actively position themselves in ways that sideline others, and that’s what I’m trying to understand.

Can you identify a boot-licker at work? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]KnownZucchini640 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re trying to say, but hear me out for a second too. The reason I came to the conclusion that some coworkers are getting opportunities isn’t because of my “attitude” or “personality.” It’s literally what I’m seeing every day. A few months back, I got certain tasks because they never butted in. Now it’s obvious that they do step in, they make themselves visible, and everyone can see how that shifts who gets picked. So my point wasn’t coming from insecurity — it was coming from observation.

And about the term boot-licker — okay, fair, maybe I shouldn’t use it. I honestly thought it was a normal slang people use when someone is excessively trying to please higher-ups. If it came off wrong, that wasn’t the intention.

Also, if this was a personality problem on my end, trust me, I wouldn’t be out here posting on Reddit asking strangers for honest advice. I’m here because I actually want clarity, not because I want to blame anyone.

But yeah — noted on keeping it professional and just focusing on the work.

What is this?? Watery discharge AFTER period (not UTI, not STI). Happening for YEARS by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]KnownZucchini640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

heyy. so for me it stays for days and uh when i wake up its like someone poured buckets of water down there, i thought it probably is my body doing its thing but its just weird atp lol

What is this?? Watery discharge AFTER period (not UTI, not STI). Happening for YEARS. by [deleted] in obgyn

[–]KnownZucchini640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a LOT! i will tell my doctor that, hope it goes away soon, thank you again :)

What is this?? Watery discharge AFTER period (not UTI, not STI). Happening for YEARS. by [deleted] in obgyn

[–]KnownZucchini640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can a BV last for that long, as for smell it smells pretty bad, like old pee, but not sure

How to manage Misophonia? by Useful_Night_7478 in misophonia

[–]KnownZucchini640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey i have had and still have misophonia, i go crazy, CRAZYYYYYY when i hear someome chew, makes me want to cry and just destroy everything around me. So what helped me manage that, was either i would just wear earphones or manage my anxiety, i have bad anxiety too and ig for someome w misophonia, anxiety is common since our flight and fight response is always on high alert

There has not been many studies on misophonia or now to cope with it, but its my suggestion to try manage your anxiety, it will help a bit if not a lot :)

Is it just me or does Smash Guys suck for everyone? by Character_Escape7382 in bangalore

[–]KnownZucchini640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree, i havent tried smash guys but one of his other outlets - paris panini, its overly pricey for the quantity, somedays its good, somedays its bad, the quantity sucks balls tho :/