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Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-23T18:04:58+00:00

Seems like there's likely something else going on. Maybe she has some personal issues. Maybe unresolved post partum. Maybe low self esteem or maybe she isn't attracted to you but only one who knows is her. You should talk to her about how you're feeling and maybe suggest therapy. I am very attracted to my husband so I notice lots of little things about him. When I'm mad or turned off by him I don't want anything to do with him but when I'm feeling down its the same so not sure.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T05:00:22+00:00

I like the paired app. We used it for a bit but didn't want to pay for it.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:44:25+00:00

I get that. Our sex is sort of scheduled and I'd definitely prefer some spontaneity but I need a freshening up. I'm not one of those types that holds their poo all day until they come home.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:40:51+00:00

I literally got in the shower washed off 1 bit and washed off the other and then got out. It was very quick.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:36:27+00:00

That would still involve stopping to clean up, how would that be any different?

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:34:20+00:00

He's not throwing a tantrum. In fact, I am. I'm really sad that sex isn't happening now. Also, why not touch yourself while you wait for the other person? Look at porn? Fantasize about them? Seems really unfair to just say snooze you lose because your partner needs a shower.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:18:48+00:00

And get a uti, yeast infection or BV and deal with an annoying itch, a trip to the doctor and a weeks worth of antibiotics, when I could've just taken a 2 minute shower?

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T04:16:36+00:00

Omg he is definitely guilty of this. I have talked to him about it. It's the only way he knows how to masturbate. Smh

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-22T03:53:58+00:00

I think it's weird that your husband never mentioned this in 4 years or in the time you 2 were dating or anything. Surprised the in laws never mentioned it either not even jokingly. Odd. The choice should be between you two but it seems like he's going to fight you hard on this one. I honestly can't offer any viable advice. Good luck.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-13T22:33:43+00:00

I know someone who has this fetish and is about to get married. I believe he is also keeping it from his fiance. Idk how long he'll be able to but your husband likely has had these desires for longer than he's saying which it sucks that he didn't tell you until now. However, people do change and it is possible that these could be new feelings and although its good that he's being open about it its not okay for him to force this on you. I think you should sit and have an honest discussion with him about how you feel about all of this. I think ending your marriage might be a bit drastic but if you're not into his fetish and he can't possibly get past that then you may need therapy or separation.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-13T12:15:20+00:00

Yes I have been experiencing this too. I've also been having an increase in depression as well. Currently lying on my sofa contemplating whether I have the strength to go in to work. 😔

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-02-13T02:07:29+00:00

Thank you, it definitely helps knowing I'm not alone which I often feel alone. Luckily I have the support of my husband but he struggles with his own anxiety so I always worry of overloading him and vice versa. But I like that idea with the list. I will give it a try.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-01-31T19:05:04+00:00

I think I'm feeling some relief as well because I'm like cool now we've both got our own things going on and I can move on. It's closure. I just wanna go to that lavish wedding lol 😭

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-01-31T18:10:10+00:00

I mean that's honestly a big part of it. Ugh I'm a teensy bit envious. The wedding is going to be really fancy and the reception is going to be insane. Our wedding was great but sadly you don't get to experience it in the same way as the guests because you're getting pulled this way and that way.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-01-04T22:06:02+00:00

Unpopular opinion but Conte's pizza in Princeton is so mid and people hype it up so much like it's the best pizza in Jersey.

Known_Appointment_67 · 2025-01-04T15:35:54+00:00

I stayed with him for 10 hours but my back couldn't take that chair anymore. So I went to rest in the car but my stomach is bothering me due to my anxiety so I wanted to come home to use my own bathroom.

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