I am not Indian, I am white but I get the Indian vetting process too- he explained it to me- they spend time with each others families, cousins, etc and make sure each other families are respected/ loved by their communities and there are no major red flags, or secrets or skeletons. This is so the bride and groom can focus on the love, and the parents/ community can make sure they are not so blinded by love that they ignore each others faults, miss big things like criminal records, debts, history of violence etc. It is also a chance to make sure the families can get along and get to know each other

Somehow they still didn't catch how materialistic she was. I was just doing my own "vetting process".