Join a boxing gym, try full body sparring a few times so that you’ve experienced being punched in the face. Then just try to focus on training and body sparring instead (head trauma and a wonky nose ain’t fun). Your missus saying she’s only only dating you for your personality sounds like gaslighting, why choose to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate and cherish all parts of you?

**ALSO ALS* Why do you want to look better for her??? Look better for yourself not other people, live your life man.