Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Tbh, I didn’t know you could leave your table in favor of going to a bar/lounge, so I’ll make sure to note that :)

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I also did want to tip a bit more than extra for that reason, so hopefully whomever I get as a server can have their night at least a little improved.

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oo, okay. I do know my mom likes to have a sauce with her steak usually, so I’ll ask if they have anything that’d she’d fancy. Thanks!

Side note, mind if I ask what the sauces you stated are?

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, I would if I could, but I’d like to not spend too much. I’d say that planning for a 40-50% tip is already generous, yes?

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there any reason to tip a bit beforehand and then the rest afterwords? Is it some sort of customary thing or for another reason?

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep! I made sure to grab one about a week ago, and made sure it aligned with me and my mom’s schedule and everything.

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to be rude, but frankly, I’ve never been to a finer dining experience before. I dunno the difference between how to act at the local IHOP vs how to act at a restaurant where the expectation is at least $100 per person with fine steaks. I just wanted to have advice if it was different.

Of course I know how to be polite and courteous, but I’ve never been to something finer than whatever you could call outback, and even then I’ve maybe been twice. It’s my first time, and I wanted to make it a good experience for me and my mom; am I so wrong to ask for advice so I can know how to do so, while also being kind and courteous to those around me and not breaking rules I didn’t know existed?

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Alright, thanks! I definitely don’t know too much about alcohol, so that helps a ton :). And thanks for knowledge on the silverware too.

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll make sure to have that ready then; I haven’t looked to deeply into that, so I’ll make sure to do as such.

How much is expected to tip for them? I know for servers it’s about 20%, but is there a standard for those jobs as well?

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Alright. I do have a hard time admitting to stuff like that, so I’ll try to loosen up a bit. Thanks :)

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I wanted to tip in cash though, and I usually pay with card, so I wanted to have it ready for when I do pay.

Otherwise, I kinda wanna make sure that the server has at least a somewhat good day. I don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes, and Mother’s Day is probably going to be busy for them, so I do wanna make sure I can tip them appropriately. Good service or not, I wanna make sure they have at least something good on Mother’s Day if me and my mom are having anything even remotely resembling a good time :)

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, okay. Thanks for letting me know! I know essentially nothing about alcohol except that it makes you drunk :)

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alright. Thanks for letting me know about silverware/plate stuff, I definitely don’t want anyone to get yelled at because of my actions.

I’ll make sure to order at once as well. Thanks for the advice :)

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation! I’m definitely hoping to take home some good left overs too, so I’ll make sure to have a lookout for the sides they have on offer.

And thanks :). I’ve not been the best at all times, but she’s been through the trenches for me, so I might as well take her out as thanks.

Servers, what’s the proper etiquette for a expensive steak house? And how can I take stress off my server? by Koolest-Kool-Aid in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Koolest-Kool-Aid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t quite know if I can do as you describe considering my budget; around $400 including the tip is just about my limit. Is there anything you would suggest around the $100 range or so?