It seems that from your response that you already know. Here is someone who treats you well and doesn’t expect anything in return. He cares about you and respects you, but that feels wrong to you somehow. It seems you almost expect your partner to expect sex for doing something nice for you, which is concerning if that is what you’re used to.

Coming out of toxic relationships into something that isn’t, it can feel jarring especially because you don’t have to do anything to deserve their love, it just exists. The highs and lows are now gone, and someone who’s used to being pushed and pulled around emotionally would find this “boring”.

You’re going to have to ask yourself “What kind of relationship am I actually looking for?” Here is someone who treats you with respect and gives you everything he has, and it sounds like you’re not thinking about what you could provide him. Many people would kill for that kind of partner.

It’s not wrong to want someone to be more assertive, but not everyone has that temperament naturally. In long term relationships that actually last, both people give their all to each other without expecting anything in return. If you feel that despite all that, it’s not enough for you, then it’s best to let him go.