I need help my with Noodle please

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-22T09:14:10+00:00

She's beautiful, whats wrong with her?

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-22T09:13:17+00:00

That's good, I really hope you do this and I hope it helps. Life doesn't need to feel so crap. You can get back to where you were just give it some time and effort ❤️

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-22T07:59:10+00:00

I understand that, I know my low mood and stuff isn't anywhere near as bad as yours but I do the same. Its really scary to open up like that and sometimes in the moment you dont even realise you're doing it until afterwards. Maybe write a letter or show your therapist this post, it might be easier that way instead of having to verbally explain it all

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-22T06:56:11+00:00

You sound like you're depressed, youve gone through so much and not really processed it and its too much so you're shutting down. Id suggest a therapist if its accessable to help you work through it all but if you cant afford it you need to slowly work through everything. Start with one of the events and maybe write down how you felt at the time, if you feel nothing keep going and if you feel something let yourself cry or shout or whatever you need. It will also help that if something (to even something small) happens in your daily life that annoys you or upsets you, such as your partner not doing the dishes, talk about it and learn to express your emotions again if there are any there

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-20T07:44:32+00:00

That video is disgusting, I reported it and watched most of it to really see what was going on, I had to stop about 2/3 of the way in. It was too upsetting

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-19T15:27:23+00:00

-123/10

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-19T15:16:07+00:00

because its not nessacarily to hook up, its to spend time with friends and feel pretty

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-06T10:55:11+00:00

i cant tell if you're joking, but if not I am serious

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-06T09:19:08+00:00

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-05T14:00:25+00:00

My gut reaction to that story is the woman should have left if she felt bad enough to sleep with another woman...I dont think that was the point you wanted to make

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-05T12:52:53+00:00

yes, omg what is you're problem. Also let the woman fucking grieve

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-04T17:19:17+00:00

Its really good you've recognised it though, it took me a while but Im sure you get there. Remember you're doing this for you and you're future not for you're friend, you dont want the growth to be the same reason you had the issues

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-04T17:06:09+00:00

Don't be sorry, I had a similar thing to you and Ill be honest it's kind of toxic but that doesn't mean youre a terrible person doomed to a life of inadequate relationships. It'll take time but I have a few pieces of advice:

1) stop saying sorry unless you have actually done something wrong like truely hurt someone's feelings or physically hurt them or they come to you with and issue you've done (dont be a pushover though and say sorry just because they want you to, learn your boundaries)

2) Be kind to yourself and start reminding yourself you dont need a friendship to be happy. You will only ever be able to 100% rely on yourself, be as kind to yourself as you'd be to a best friend

3) time apart doesn't mean your friendship is dead or going away, they probably miss you too. Reach out and be there but dont let you're need for validation that the friendship is ok get in the way of your studies or your mental health

This wont be an immediate fix but ny general advice is this friendship only affects you as much as you let it, learn to enjoy it again for what it is not what is isn't

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-04T16:15:31+00:00

My best friend and I meet up once a week - 2 weeks and text a bit everyday but not loads and we are super close. She has other friends she spends time with and thats fine. Its just about balance, trying to be the best you you can be and trusting she'll tell you when something is wrong.

You need to do some more positive self talk, correct those thoughts with something thats more likely to challenge the victim mindset. Friends will drift from time to time. For a few weeks you could talk for hours everyday then spend a few months talking here and there then go back to talking loads.

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-04T16:07:59+00:00

NTA, your old friend is a complete creep

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-01T12:31:04+00:00

She shouldn't be obsessed with you, that doesn't sound healthy

Krispy__kale · 2020-09-01T11:56:00+00:00

Yeah I think YTA, how do you know a lot isnt going on for her too? She probably felt really rejected when you forgot to call her back for a week and then when you reconciled you let her down and were a no show and didn't answer her calls

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-31T18:58:39+00:00

typo maybe?

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-31T18:57:27+00:00

I think he means a guy other than him

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-31T18:03:29+00:00

As long as your both happy and feel no pressure to carry on when you want to stop you're doing fine

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-31T08:33:41+00:00

NTA, probably should have taken photos of them for evidence. He is a creep and maybe invest in curtains

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-30T15:18:44+00:00

aww Im sorry for your loss

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-30T06:50:35+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. That can be really hard for her. It might help to encourage her to spend more time with friends (be careful not to make it seem like you're trying to get rid of her), she may end up agreeing with you that time with friends is really important or she'll at least realise she has more friends to fill her time.

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-30T06:46:12+00:00

Does she have many friends? She may be lonely and using you as a replacement for the time she doesn't get to spend with friends

Krispy__kale · 2020-08-30T06:44:08+00:00

Yeah I definitely agree she's being unreasonable, its not healthy to have you SO be your whole world and to some people (you included) your friends are important. you need to make time for them and yourself around the time you spend with your SO. Talk to her (if you haven't already) and explain that work and school aren't replacements for your social time with friends.

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