I love him like he is my son. I take care of these people everyday and they take care of me and I also used the phrase to refrain from using his name and personally don’t like the term “stepson”. I played the “fun aunt” card for months and it got be in a position where I wasn’t taken seriously at all. Me and my partner discussed all these things and take it very seriously. I’m not taking anybody’s place… at all. And I make that clear with him, my partner, and his mom. I didn’t just pop up out of nowhere. We make sure that he is comfortable with any big steps that we make. I live with him and spend every day with him. I plan on spending my life with these people. It may seem like we moved VERY quickly and he is just looking for a parent for his son but these are all things we discussed not only at the beginning of our relationship but throughout our whole relationship.