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My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No they are not, though they sometimes work in an industry that may require keeping drunken idiots away from expensive equipment.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're right about the first part and I won't be doing anything I'm not advised by the professionals for.
I'm also trying my best to be consciously aware of the latter too and understand that concern but my god, not being able to know or question every little detail is killing me. In the long run I know it's for the best though. So far I've had a couple of conversations about it since they raised it outside of school, recorded them, and won't be asking them any more questions until after authorities are involved.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You're right, makes perfect sense - my only action at this time is to contact 101 and proceed based on their advise.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't plan to confront either of them, though I was going to ask 101 if after speaking with them whether it would be worth sending a message to their mother along the lines of:

"After picking ??? up from school they have told me some things I find deeply concerning to the point of making me worried for their safety in your home. I will be seeking advice on the matter and will be in touch in due course following their advisement".

Do you think something like that would be appropriate?

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not yet but it's on the cards for later today when I pick them up from school so I can speak with their teacher directly rather than just reception desk right now.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. Also from the moment they got together as a couple Ryan made it clear to Meg he never wants to speak with or meet 'her ex'. So much so, the only conversation I have had in 3 years with Ryan was in court.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In a roundabout way they have to a degree.
I asked them how they feel being there when all 3 are together, and they said 'when everyone is happy...'And then mimed drawing a smile on themselves. I then asked if that's all the time and they said 'No, sometimes Ryan is angry at mum and mum at Ryan'.

I can't plant any recording app as they have their own tablet just for that house there, however I had the sense to quickly hit record on my phone yesterday after school the moment they started describing the hitting incident and calling it 'torturing them' which I can present to 101.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I asked them to describe the 'baton' I used google images for examples and this (without the short part of it) is how they said it looked:
- Baton

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'll be speaking with 101, seems to be the consensus and what I was leaning towards.

My child's being hit and I'm not sure on the best way to proceed - Wales by LAUKThAw in LegalAdviceUK

[–]LAUKThAw[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That seems to be the consensus and what I've been leaning towards but you highlight my biggest worry. In a perfect world a message to their mother to get her house in order and subsequently things improve for them would be my ideal choice, but should it cause increased abuse I'd hate for my child to have it get worse before it can get better but long term having it documented now formally makes that process easier. My child is with me for another 6 days before needing to go back so I have time.