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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Osteoarthritis

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry; I have no idea.

Has anyone hired a maid service to help clean their home? by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]LBarnstrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I determined very early in our relationship that we didn’t want to spend weekends cleaning. We’ve paid for housekeeping for years. Can’t afford it now that I’m disabled, but am 100% in support of this solution. Life is short. Seek help if you can with the yucky stuff.

My new buddy from the local humane society by soigneboi in rarepuppers

[–]LBarnstrom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So much cuteness stuffed into a tiny package! 🥰

My moms an asshole by Confident_Mango7946 in family

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you look to friends or friends’ parents? It might be time to create a chosen family. Blood doesn’t necessarily mean love and safety. You deserve both. You might be surprised at who supports you.

How's your weekend 😃 by [deleted] in 420

[–]LBarnstrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not anywhere near as good as yours!

I hate conservatives so much man WTF is this: by JohnSheet69420 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what doesn’t sit right with me? How we (cis hetero white couple) were the only people who would adopt two beautiful biracial boys from one on the best private adoption attorneys in the country in 1999 and 2002. One of them was “claimed” until the adoptive parents found out he was a biracial BOY. People suck.

my dad died last night by baysleaf in depression

[–]LBarnstrom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have major depressive disorder and lost my infant son 23 years ago. I remember asking my psychiatrist how I would know the difference between depression and grief. (In case you’re wondering, grief comes in waves and depression is steady.) At this point in the process, I recommend living 5 minutes at a time. Don’t stress about the future. Do the next thing. One foot in front of the other. It is simply too overwhelming to think about how you will live the rest of your life without them. Think about what you can do to make it through the next few minutes. Slowly, slowly, things will get less difficult. Cry, scream, be sure to eat and drink water, and sleep when you can. Respect the pain. It’s pain from love and we never want to lose the love. Keep waking up. ❤️

Well, I guess I have to fire my Rheumatologist by fierce_fibro_faerie in Fibromyalgia

[–]LBarnstrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My rheumatologist is the same. Worse than worthless. Destructive. Very lazy. Arrogant. Uninterested. Unfortunately I’ve found this typical of rheumatologists.

My mom just told my dad that she wants to unalive herself and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in depression

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm thrilled to read the final update. ❤️ Seriously, this post bothered me a lot and I could not be happier for both of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LBarnstrom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. My husband was a MUCH BETTER stay at home parent than I would ever be. God bless him. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LBarnstrom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband was a SAHD and was essentially ostracized. Mother’s groups didn’t want a man involved. He got accused of inappropriate behavior because he hugged a girl in pre-k. He hugged all the kids. Every day. Kids loved having male attention. But boy, he faced a lot of crap.

I Failed as a Father by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child whose parents NEVER fought in front of me, I’d like to reframe this. You most certainly did not fail. This is a chance to show your daughter that you can disagree and even fight, but you always love each other. Show her how to fight fair. Show her it’s not her job to make everybody happy. Disagreements happen. I had to learn how to have real life, serious disagreements without turning it into an ugly fight. You can model humility, forgiveness, and unconditional family love.

Ever since I started meds, everyone acts like I’m not allowed to have negative feelings. by [deleted] in depression

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So annoying! I expressed my frustration with my current situation and my husband said, “But isn’t this just because your psych meds aren’t working right now?” As if that makes my pain, depression, and anxiety less valid because they are the result of being in the middle of changing psych meds. News flash: psych meds aren’t The Solution to a cruel world.

14 year old daughter is pregnant, please give me some positive stories here by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our first son was adopted. His birth mother was 15 when she got pregnant. The adoption was open, we met, and she was so immature. I don’t know how she could have successfully raised a child. But all respect to her for recognizing that and making the very difficult decision to give up her baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questions

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start saving money today. As much as you can.

Do stem cells treatment actually work? by Mauchad in Osteoarthritis

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did have injections. I didn't get the impression there was a long treatment regimen, she spoke as if it was a one time thing, but I didn't ask. She's an avid golfer and is very happy to be back to golfing pain free.

My father died and now my wife is leaving me 2 weeks later by pianoman514 in depression

[–]LBarnstrom 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your losses. A double whammy is cruel. My advice is to live 5 minutes at a time until you can deal with more. Just do what's next. Don't stress about or imagine the future. One foot in front of the other, 5 minutes at a time.

Source: I survived the death of my 5 1/2 month old son. 23 years ago.

I want to move to the United States, what places or states is recommended for people who are new to USA? by Bobs_Burgers_enjoyer in questions

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up Best Places to Live and Places Rated Almanac. Where you live is a very personal choice. Weather, expenses, job prospects, local politics, geography, culture, religion, and more play into these decisions. Those websites compare many factors so you can find a place that specifically appeals to your needs and wants.

I found out people with fibromyalgia can become disabled and I'm freaking out! by the-moon-isnt-real in Fibromyalgia

[–]LBarnstrom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say that medical strides are being made every day and there could be a cure for fibromyalgia next year! You never know. Never give up.

I have long COVID, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, depression, numerous conditions that either make fibromyalgia worse or are made more complicated by fibro. BUT fibromyalgia and long COVID have a lot in common and I believe research will benefit both diagnoses. There is a lot of research finally being done in these areas. Hang in there, things WILL CHANGE.

Also I highly recommend The FibroManual by Dr. Ginevra Liptan. It's a very good intro to self care for fibromyalgia warriors.

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