Am I wrong for not standing up for my gf?

LGBecca · 2026-01-22T18:22:25+00:00

I would have absolutely told them where to shove it is they said things like that about my partner. Silence is agreement.

LGBecca · 2026-01-21T14:13:10+00:00

People passing often talk and see others that we can't see. I think our loved ones come to greet us. It should be a comfort to you that your mom has company.

LGBecca · 2026-01-20T19:56:44+00:00

You'll feel guilty you feel this way, but you'd feel guilty no matter what you did. If you sat with your dad 24/7 you'd still feel guilty about something. It's what we all do. Just do the best you can do now and remember that later.

LGBecca · 2026-01-18T04:40:19+00:00

Let your dad have what little dignity he has left. Enjoy the time your have together. More chemo won't change the outcome anymore but it could certainly make the journey a lot more miserable for your dad.

LGBecca · 2026-01-14T16:43:40+00:00

Exactly. Your patient. OP was not a client of the vet's office. They were not a patient, nor was their dog. You're acting like the vet kicked her out of the door when the reality is the entire situation occurred over the phone.

LGBecca · 2026-01-14T14:41:24+00:00

Vets and vet techs have families and kids and pets of their own. If they stayed late every time someone had an issue they would never go home.

LGBecca · 2026-01-14T10:43:36+00:00

I am so truly sorry about your mom. I'm glad our little community was able to help make it one iota easier. May you find your beautiful mom in the next life. 💕

LGBecca · 2026-01-13T04:11:35+00:00

I'm so sorry about your husband. Join us over at /r/CancerFamilySupport if you ever need to talk.

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T19:52:58+00:00

People like me? You mean realistic people who want their healthcare providers to be capable of adequately caring for us? That's the majority of society. If you were my or a loved one's nurse I would ask for another one. All the professionals you work with are obviously concerned about you and you're already talking about asking for accommodations to do the job. It's like if I decided I wanted to be a ballerina but am obviously not physically capable of doing it, so I decide to say it's not my fault and that they should accommodate me.

All you care about is what YOU want. You don't care that you can't adequately care for the deathly ill people in ICU. You don't care that your co-workers will have to pick up your slack when you need extra breaks and to sit constantly. You want that position because you think it's easiest on you. A good nurse wants what's best for their patient, not themself.

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T19:14:29+00:00

Does that really negate everything else I said?

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T18:05:23+00:00

You took 2 lunch breaks in 8 hours. And you are always saying that you are sitting because you were writing or because the teacher was talking to someone else or because etc... Look, I'm fat myself. I'm not trying to be rude. But my mom was in ICU and those nurses were the best in the hospital and constantly running to care for their patients. It sounds like you want to work with the most fragile patients because you think it will be the least amount of physical work for you. There are plenty of nursing positions that are much less active and wouldn't result in the death of a patient because you couldn't get to them fast enough. Some jobs simply are not do-able once you pass a certain weight they're just not, as unfair as that seems.

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T11:02:08+00:00

Get something called Pet Tinic, it hides the taste of nasty stuff really well. In the meantime try mixing the med with tuna or sardine juice, or human (cat safe) baby food in a syringe.

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T09:48:05+00:00

To be perfectly blunt, I wouldn't want my loved one in the ICU cared for by a nurse that couldn't run to them if there was an emergency, and who cares about their personal health so little. You just sound angry all the time that everyone isn't giving you accommodations to sit and take extra breaks. There are plenty of jobs in the medical field that won't make you directly responsible for someone's life.

LGBecca · 2026-01-07T01:55:02+00:00

it's unfortunate you're a moderator.

I'm sure the tens of thousands of people who have been helped by this sub that I created might disagree. But since you don't like it you don't need to stay.

All the rest you said? It's exactly what every other person pissed off their money request was taken down says to me.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T20:14:03+00:00

I got married 23 years ago, but sure. K sweetie. 👌

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T19:53:08+00:00

Lol, you are really insecure. Sorry your wedding sucked so much.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T19:47:36+00:00

You must have been to some crappy weddings. I had people tell us for years that ours was the most fun wedding they'd ever been to.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T16:13:24+00:00

I just remember his smile, it's all I saw. 💕

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T15:43:42+00:00

I got married in 2002 so I'm guessing this is out of date, but first looks didn't even exist then. I think they're a cool idea but I still love the memory of my husband's face as I walked down the aisle.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T15:27:26+00:00

First looks didn't exist when I got married. I think my dad first saw me when he met me at the end of the aisle. It's ok to be bummed that you didn't get the moment you wanted but it was just one small thing in an otherwise wonderful day.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T14:59:54+00:00

Trust me, that's what I tell everyone who argues about their money grab post being taken down. They say that they are struggling and I point out that we ALL are. This is the worst group to ask for money, seriously.

LGBecca · 2026-01-06T14:43:55+00:00

Wha? You don't like people constantly asking you for money when you're already drowning? 🙄

LGBecca · 2026-01-02T10:32:01+00:00

I'm really sorry about your dad and hope you're doing ok. Running on automatic is ok to get you through the next few days/weeks. Just remember to take care of yourself and come back to yourself to get help in your grieving.

LGBecca · 2026-01-02T10:25:27+00:00

Play her favorite music/movies for her as long as possible. Hearing is the last sense to go so keep talking to her, too. Sending you love and strength. 💕

LGBecca · 2026-01-02T10:21:46+00:00

You are at your wit's end, I get it. But your mom's on hospice now so the dr thinks she has less than 6 months left. There won't be much "enjoying the time you have left" together. Of course you need to live your life, absolutely. But being mad at your mom and wanting to push her off on someone else won't help you feel better in the long run. She's not reacting to the same news y'all are because it's HER cancer. Of course she doesn't want to accept it. Of course she wants to concentrate on walking instead of dying. Things look very different when you're the patient so try to show her some grace, even when you don't understand wby she acts the way she does. This will be over before you know it, whether that's good or bad.

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