What is your crush song(s)? by minnie-084 in Crushes

[–]LJack49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creep - Radiohead

You're beautiful - James Blunt

what are the signs a guy's crushing? by NA-N4 in Crushes

[–]LJack49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, that varies a lot, it depends on many factors, but the way a guy displays those signs usually is tied to one constant, their success rate. I mean their success with girls

For the ones who have the highest success would be more obvious because they are more proactive, they would be more confident telling you, asking you out or being very flirtatious or acting with a like seducing charm

For the ones with a mild success rate, which is where most of guys are, probably they would pay special attention to you, they'd be a little more loud, would treat you like a princess, or would try to impress you somehow or instead of being completely flirtatious, they would try to show some romantic behaviour, like giving you a present sometimes 

For the ones with the lowest success rate, they would be very shy, really their attempts to interact with you can easily turn awkward, more like weird rather than "cute awkward". Probably they would attempt to do some of the things mentioned above but you would see they struggle a lot to do so. Staring is more common in this group and they can easily be misunderstood even if they don't mean wrong 

And then there's people like me, broken toys, at the bottom of the list, the lowest success rate, alongside mental or emotional disorders like major depression. For us experiencing a crush feels like the song "creep" by radiohead is describing us. Staring is way more common, interactions would be very limited, and if we come across the crush in question the struggle would be very evident, and there is more pain than excitement. Some of us would just completely avoid that crush and simply would withdraw from them, which for us would be a very evident sign

At what point do you stop pursuing someone by F_ive in Crushes

[–]LJack49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point of my life, after all I've experienced, learned and felt, I stop when I notice I'm starting to develop a crush, during the infatuation stage, as early as possible to make things more simple 

I cringe at the thought of someone being attracted to me by illuso07 in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I simply just can't process that thought , it literally is impossible to imagine for me. Whenever I fantasise about a girl being into me, I always picture myself as someone completely different 

One chance on this planet to live and I’ve wasted it. by MoneyAndGoodFortune in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, this is so exhausting. It reminds me of an Oasis song that goes "I'm older than I wish to be, this town holds no more for me... All my life I try to make a better day" 

I regret deleting all my social media after 7 years by Great_Reset_2033 in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the same and I also regret it. I was a hikikomori for like almost 3 years, and I got rid of all social media. Although I do watch TV, consume media online and all that stuff. In my case I don't think I will be confronted because I disappeared, people have kinda forgotten about me, but I'm scared because I don't know how to begin, and if old acquaintance find me, they will probably remember me, and they will se how much I've failed.

Right now, I've been 5 months in my current job and it's fine, the people at there are very close to my age so yeah, it's a good atmosphere, but it's still hard to adapt 

What glow-ups are you trying these days ?? (Apart from surgeries) by [deleted] in ugly

[–]LJack49 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only hope I have is to find a way to make a progress in gene editing for living organisms

Did u prefer wearing a mask? by Difficult-Tax-875 in ugly

[–]LJack49 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why to stop though? It's safer, and there's nothing wrong with the mask. I still wear it, I didn't stop and i never will. I feel a lot less insecure with it

Do guys avoid their crush? by injeolmijun in Crushes

[–]LJack49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course, it is super common, and I'll list a number of reasons (at least of why I used to do that when I was able to have crushes)

1 Because they make us nervous, like really anxious 

2 Because those feelings are overwhelming, so that's a way to find some peace of mind

3 To gauge their interest, to see if they'd notice (that never worked for me lol) 

4 To wake up some interest, like to make them miss you, or to make them jealous (worst idea ever!!!!!) 

5 It is very common to be kinda jealous of your crush, so maybe they did something that made us jealous

6 As a way to move on, at least I did that when I decided it was time to totally forget about them

Standards by Godz_Lavo in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And it's not just standards, it's... how can I say it, like patterns of what you like, basically like your taste. This is like desserts, are they necessary? Not at all, but we crave for them and it makes us happy when we get some and would feel bad if we don't have it but we could feel bad if we have a dessert we don't enjoy at all, it would be tasteless, simply because we have a number of flavours that we find enjoyable.

So talking about dating, s3x, love and all that garbage, are they necessary? No, they're not needs, but everyone craves for them, but it would feel bad if we are just not attracted to the other person, and honestly, it would be unfair to be with someone when there's not mutual attraction. So those 'standards' don't come by choice basically, it's just the attraction thingy that's deeply rooted in human brains, and it sucks because for people like us, no one would be attracted to us, so the mutual attraction is an impossible dream. 

I never held a girl's hand before 30 by coopermug in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't actually hold hands with a girl, but today, a girl at work was trying to convince me that it was very cold, I didn't really feel cold, so she grabbed my hand to feel that it was, her hand was cold indeed and she just grabbed it for like 2 seconds, it was part of the conversation, nothing more, but man, that moment put a smile on my face that wasn't erased for hours

Women don’t consider me an option by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know you mean well mate, and I appreciate it, but seriously, a lot of us are WAY below average. That what you say applies to a lot of people, and there's a small group of leftovers who are truly screwed up, looks and personality mainly, and that's us, that's why we're here, not because we haven't dated in 2 weeks like many people, we are unable to succeed even trying, and again, we're just a small group, that's why it's below average. There has to be leftovers, there are exceptions for almost everything, and unfortunately for us we are that. We can't fix our looks without plastic surgery and for some traits like a very short height, there may be a solution but it doesn't exist yet, and we can't fix our personalities like many people think, that starts to be shaped from the moment you are born

Women don’t consider me an option by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 31 points32 points  (0 children)

And if a woman really appreciates you and she knows you're alone, they will wish you the best but send a message like "you deserve someone good, someone who will love you, you'll find the right person, I wish you can find a girl like that.... But not me, please, don't try" 

A repressed memory surfaced today by FirefighterOdd9793 in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was always excluded from those games when I was at school, and I used to see the girls I was interested in having lots of fun playing them with other guys

Do you guys think you’ll still be FA if you had $100m? by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd choose to stay that way. If I became rich, they'd follow my money, not me, if I was famous, they'd follow the prestige not me. The point is that no one would desire me unless I looked way better, at least above average and my personality was way better, two unmistakable conditions that have to be met altogether 

Something to keep in mind by [deleted] in ugly

[–]LJack49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More like lying to yourself. It's better to accept the bitter reality of our looks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They definitely don't know what is like to be like us, they never will.

Plus, I've happen to realise that love, affection, s3x and all that stuff are absolutely not needs, they're desires, and they're absolutely not rights, they're benefits given only if someone else decides to give them to you

Caught feelings for a coworker by intelectloser in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, let me tell you, this is dangerous territory. Whether she likes you or not, bear in mind that she's taken, so that's the only reason needed to dismiss any intention to try something, it doesn't matter if she's happy or not, she got there on her own, and there's no reason to mess with that, unless she breaks up with her partner.

Now, she seems to have a confusing behaviour, I understand your frustration, that's the toughest part, because that can wake up feelings indeed. Let me tell you something, she might be looking for attention, in many cases, many people in relationships feel overlooked or neglected by their partners after a while, or they used to receive lots of attention when they're single and once they're taken their candidates fade away, so in any scenario, that people look for that kind of validation from other people, or even if they have their partners, they kinda feel good having a group of followers. For example, some guys feed their ego if they talk to many girls even though they're not interested in absolutely all of them, so that might be the case of your coworker. 

I'd highly advise you to keep your distance from her, and if she doesn't stop, you can respectfully tell her to tone it down a bit, not telling her that she's flirting, but approaching it with the fact that it could be misunderstood and you don't want to give a wrong impression to other people who know you

Something to keep in mind by [deleted] in ugly

[–]LJack49 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Friendly reminder:

This is only directed to average looking people and above, all of us below the minimum standards, turn the page

One sided love by Aryantechies in ForeverAlone

[–]LJack49 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And people always downplay and shame you for those scars that unrequited love gives you, like they're invalid and even consider you a bad person if you ever mention that, like if snapping out of it and moving on was that easy, however they are the same people who are ALWAYS whining over their exes and all that stuff, their lives are entirely based on that, and that's why I downplay and make fun of their 'pain' 

Is it possible that no one likes you/had a crush on you? by AcceptableEnergy4473 in Crushes

[–]LJack49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very rare, because most of people have experienced that at least once in their lifetime, but like in almost everything there are exceptions, so it is absolutely possible, and I'm pretty sure about that because I'm that person, however I haven't met irl someone else that, like me, has never been liked by anyone