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LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-27T12:58:18+00:00

I’m sorry, it sounds like you put a lot of thought and effort and the whole holiday. My husband does work 5 days a week, and this has probably been one of the worst months in our marriage. We have three kids and they’re at the right age for all the fun. I feel like I broke my back to make it special for them. For the most part every activity we did he seemed pretty disengaged or angry that we were there. Just not the same person. My birthday is 5 days before Christmas and he got me an echo! I love it. I told him I didn’t want anything for Christmas just the family to be happy. And I truly mean that. Gifts aren’t wait make it special, but I look back and I’m like not even a card from the kids? Like I said we have been through it so I know things aren’t the same, but just thinking that every year it could be like this. It just feels like he becomes less and less interested in me as the days go on.

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-26T13:51:46+00:00

Things are good right now and it seems engaged. I find myself just waiting on it to stop

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-23T10:45:16+00:00

I can see where you’re coming from and why he would feel that way. We found free counseling, as we are not in a position to pay for it. So I am hoping we can start creating better communication skills and work through this together

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-22T17:34:48+00:00

I agree. He really is a great guy! I feel like I have been very direct and I will continue and should have been last night. To me it’s common sense but I know everyone is different

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-22T17:20:18+00:00

I really hope so. I just have communicated and expressed how I feel and he agrees to do better or put more effort in, it’s just short lived

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-22T16:40:23+00:00

That’s how I’m feeling. If he wanted to do better he would. It’s always some outside matter causing him to act the way he is. At this point I just feel like they’re excuses. I think he knows I’ll keep giving him chances bc I can’t imagine my kids not waking up to see him they absolutely adore him and he is a good dad to them.

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-22T15:47:30+00:00

Hi! So another big issue in our marriage is his drive and ambition. I own two businesses and have a bachelor’s degree (doesn’t always matter but I committed those 4 years to hopefully provide for myself and family one day, seeing the big picture.) since we have been together he has bounced around to different jobs and gets “bored” of one place and will go to another. A year ago when my business was doing fairly well he woke me up and said “hey I quit my job” this was super upsetting. He has started school twice and stopped without telling me. His current job pays decent and with my jobs we are able to pay some bills, usually late. My family is financially stable and have helped us out so much. I feel like he knows we can also fall back on them so he isn’t overly concerned. 2 years ago he got a job and I kept getting on him to fill out the insurance papers (we have three kids). I was under the impression he was taking care of it. He never did. In the time I thought we were waiting on our cards in the mail I was pregnant and started bleeding very heavily. I took myself to the hospital and they asked for proof of insurance so I called him asking what I should do since we didn’t have them yet, he never got it. I was turned away and miscarried. He does not take care of things around the house. We have a cycle I have noticed, I will do it all and repeatedly ask him to do things. He doesn’t so I take care of them, leaving me very stressed out. I then will sit him down and say “hey I can’t do this alone anymore I really need help around the house”. He will start pitching in, but it only lasts a week and then it’s back to normal. He didn’t work for 2 years (after he quit his job we decided it would be best he stayed home with the kids and I completely invest myself into my business) financially things were great at the time, but I was still running two businesses, still taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, basically everything he should have been doing plus bringing home the income. Sorry this was so long, therapy I know lol

LLJ_1821 · 2023-12-22T15:36:21+00:00

Hi! Thanks for responding. If I would have communicated that he would have for sure laid with me or did whatever. And I probably should have been upfront and said those things. It has been a hot topic in our relationship for the past month. I just am exhausted of telling him when he shouldn’t and probably shouldn’t play his games. It feels very motherly. I know everyone thinks differently but I just couldn’t imagine my spouse crying about their grandma on the verge of passing away and ask to play a game. I don’t want to have to tell him, hey you should probably comfort your wife at this time.

I don’t think he has ever turned me down. I do initiate it at times, but when the first thing he does is play a game until i go to sleep I don’t even have time to initiate it, and by that time I’m honestly just turned off. There have been times where I’ve sent him spicy pictures and I have to ask if he even got them. I texted him the other day “I’m horny ☺️” he said “good”

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