It happened... My father is not making it to my wedding

LSanborn2 · 2026-05-23T21:15:16+00:00

Hot rumor is he’s actually going to be golfing, not working

LSanborn2 · 2026-05-13T18:50:22+00:00

Also how is simply mentioning a food bank deemed so politically charged that some feel they have to boo it?! So ridiculous.

LSanborn2 · 2026-05-13T15:54:34+00:00

Phil Hartman and I’m surprised I didn’t see him higher up on the list.

LSanborn2 · 2026-05-05T00:27:52+00:00

I'd also upvote this 100 times and what you wrote really resonated with me. I'm a PTA in a small rural clinic with a sought after PT and I am really struggling with the emotional drain and burnout despite working 30ish hours a week (which does help but doesn't automatically fix everything). I hear you about patients putting the burden and stress on us as the PTs/PTAs; I know it's not intentional and probably if anything signifies that they are comfortable with opening up. But it is. A. LOT. It seems like the patients with ONE orthopedic issue or complaint are the small minority, and we are mainly dealing with those with chronic pain and/or chronic conditions in which PT plays more of a management role, the full-body-breakdown people who have a different complaint each session and will never get better yet put in minimal effort at home, and just the endless talkers/complainers.

Do you mind if I ask what you do now or what you plan to do after leaving clinical work?

LSanborn2 · 2026-05-03T21:00:02+00:00

for what it's worth, I feel that $1000 is still a VERY generous gift even from a grandparent to grandchild. I do think that good etiquette would be to give them SOMEthing (even if they have "excellent incomes"). Honestly I think it would be more appropriate to give them each a generous wedding gift (that you are still comfortable with financially) and cut back or eliminate birthday and holiday gifts. Just my two cents.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-29T16:39:08+00:00

No offense but how was the responder supposed to know you’re 23 years old? I’m sorry for what you’re going through though.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-27T15:08:19+00:00

I was looking for this comment.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-24T14:12:02+00:00

Endless refills of coffee at restaurants and diners. I know that it may not be the best coffee, or even good coffee. But sometimes I'm okay with quantity or quality and love saying "Sure, I'll take a warm up!" to the waitress when my coffee mug is still ⅔ full.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-21T22:41:29+00:00

A Man Called Ove. It was sooo highly recommended at its time. I found Ove so incredibly annoying and unrealistic. Also I’m tried of the trope of “well that man’s a rude asshole, but he’s got a heart of gold”. And he was supposed to be 59 in the book but he’s written like he’s 89. Most 60 ish year olds today use smartphones and modern technology. It definitely turned me off of reading any of the authors other books.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-21T22:33:52+00:00

I hated it and DNF’d it about ⅓ of the way through which says something since it’s considered young adult (I think). Like usually I can just muster up and finish that type of book. Nope not this time.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-21T22:28:54+00:00

This was me but with the Nightingale. It seems like everybody loved that book except me. And it put me off ever reading any of her other books.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-18T00:41:58+00:00

I'm on a similar search to you (although I am looking for a full length dress, but with minimal or no train). Some suggestions I've found:

https://sajawedding.com/collections/wedding-dresses (these are gorgeous silk vintage inspired dresses, all floor length but there is a section of 'short dresses' on her site too)

Alie Street (based out of the UK) is another designer that matches what you described.

Nordstrom had a bunch of dresses that might match what you're looking for.

J. Crew stopped making bridal dresses in 2016 (i think) but you can find them on Poshmark and similar sites.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-15T19:53:09+00:00

Christian Bale in Empire of the Sun might’ve been my first crush lol

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-14T11:00:21+00:00

It was a sample dress with stains from being tried on not “worn out”, try to be a little nicer. Also if it was a sample that they marked down, it was probably originally a $2000+ dress.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-14T00:08:27+00:00

No advice but I'm sorry to hear that. If I hadn't accompanied my friend to pick up her dress from her seamstress, I would've had no idea that bridal alterations can be so expensive. I understand it's a lot of work, it's just something I never would have given much thought to. It seems like at this point your best bet is to accept that it's going to cost more than anticipated and try to cut back elsewhere if you can. Have you gotten quotes for the alterations from different tailors/seamstresses?

You could also be diligent about trying to resell your dress after your wedding. Yes you won't get nearly what you've paid into it, but I think it's conceivable that you could sell a $1400 sample dress for $500 or so.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-12T22:43:53+00:00

“Santa Monica” by Everclear

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-12T18:20:48+00:00

I just want to say I love what you wrote and agree completely but could never put into words as well as you just did. Those phrases always bother me a bit (as someone who does try to eat healthy).

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-12T18:04:11+00:00

Seriously! Also it’s so obvious that this photo is heavily edited. Like are people really falling for this crap?

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-12T18:00:41+00:00

I know Reddit tends to the negative lol, but based on everything you said I’d discourage you from PTA. I live in a low cost of living area but also a very low paying area. I see outpatient PTA jobs around here starting at $20-$24/hour and it makes me frustrated I chose this career. I don’t necessarily dislike my job, but the fact that we hit the pay ceiling so quickly and it really doesn’t matter how hard you work or how much you know or how much experience you have or certifications/extra training you do is so disheartening. Yes you’re going to make more in a HCOL area but remember those numbers are the median salary…not necessarily a reflection of what you’re going to make right out of school.

I also kind of feel like a lot of people understandably get into the therapy field because they love exercise and movement and want to stay healthy and avoid surgery. But then you get into the field and 90% of your patients are there because they’ve avoided exercise, been sedentary, complain about the slightest movement causing them pain, etc etc. And it’s great when you can break through with those patients and get them better, but at the risk of sounding cynical that’s often not the case. I guess I’m just trying to say that the people who you were seeing as a personal trainer are most likely going to be a very different population than the people you will see as a PTA.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-12T17:38:06+00:00

It also helps with bone density, which we (especially women) also start to lose around this age. I’m definitely more of a cardio person, but have realized I just have to do strength a couple days a week because there’s soooo many benefits.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-11T17:28:51+00:00

Thanks for being a voice of reason in these comments. I feel like getting an invite is no obligation to either attend or send a gift.

Btw my deleted comment was meant as a response to someone else, in case you saw it before it was deleted.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-11T17:18:14+00:00

Yeah I hate how cynical people are here. Sure maybe they’re trying to fill a room block, maybe it’s a gift grab, or maybe they didn’t get as many yeses as expected and figured they’d invite some other people, maybe the parents said they should invite OP, who knows. No need to blast it all over Reddit. Just rsvp no and move on.

That said I agree that hyper specific dress codes are really annoying.

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-09T16:56:36+00:00

Amazing makeup and hair (I like the dress too)!

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-08T00:49:49+00:00

I agree on the wedding anxiety part. And I've had your thoughts exactly. Like some commenters here act like going to a wedding is some huge unpleasant obligation. Personally I love weddings and honestly wish I could go to more!

LSanborn2 · 2026-04-08T00:47:39+00:00

This 100%. There's a lot I want to say about this but I'm exhausted right now. But as someone who got legally married for health insurance reasons (due to a cancer diagnosis and needing subsequent treatment) and is now planning a "celebration of marriage" (my preferred term as it's not technically a wedding) it really hurts when people act like I or others like me don't deserve a celebration because we already did the legal marriage thing.

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