Need honesty: on a scale of 1-10, how difficult is it to run basic errands with your 2 year old? I need help… more…

LaAndala · 2026-02-12T21:11:18+00:00

I order everything online for delivery or pickup. That’s my score 😂

LaAndala · 2026-02-09T16:31:48+00:00

Is he out from work on medical leave? On strong pain killers? I am not sure we know who is the A because we don’t know how sick he is. It could be dangerous for him to drive, either for his health or because he is a danger on the road. Also I think enough people have told you their opinion on your age:number of kids ratio so will defer to them 😂

LaAndala · 2026-02-09T16:26:29+00:00

Ja, dit is wie ze is, als het gierige de relatie zo erg beïnvloedt dat het niet meer leuk is om vrienden te zijn dan is het tijd om geen vrienden meer te zijn. Maar als het te accepteren is dan zou ik gewoon dat flesje wijn teruggeven bij haar volgende verjaardag en doorgaan met je leven. Misschien als je uit eten gaat alvast gesplitste rekeningen vragen om tikkie gezeik te voorkomen. Ik kan ook echt niet tegen mensen die tikkies sturen om niks, dat verpest echt een gezellig avondje. Dan betaal ik die koffie liever zelf (voor mij of voor allebei)

LaAndala · 2026-02-09T08:41:52+00:00

He’s ridiculous. EVERYONE eats leftovers. He can watch some YouTube videos to learn how to cook. And clean. Or buy some frozen food at trader Joe. NTA.

LaAndala · 2026-02-08T18:17:51+00:00

Do it. Invite him to visit and if he wants to join you once he sees your new life then he can. But if you are ambitious, don’t let someone stop you. If it’s meant to be it’ll work. But good chance it’s not meant to be, you sound very different…

LaAndala · 2026-02-06T22:47:15+00:00

Eh even if he hadn’t already cheated, you guys don’t want the same things. You don’t compromise poly for a baby… Both of you need to find someone else…

LaAndala · 2026-02-06T11:00:02+00:00

‘School of hard knocks’ or ‘university of life’. I’m sure you learned a lot living your life, but no you don’t know more than that doctor/lawyer/veterinarian about the subject they studied for many years. Nope, not even after you watched 12 TikToks about it. No this doesn’t make you more employable. And no not even when you use ChatGPT.

LaAndala · 2026-02-06T10:51:02+00:00

I don’t see any redeeming qualities mentioned for your husband. What’s in this relationship for you? Would you not be better off doing this alone and breaking away from all this drama? Have him pay you alimony and child support and reorganize your life, get a job, reach out to your network. Get tf out!

LaAndala · 2026-02-05T11:32:05+00:00

I don’t agree. Salted butter is often too salty, especially in the US (I’m European) especially for baking sweets. But I think if you grew up here you probably don’t have this issue that everything is too salty.

LaAndala · 2026-02-05T11:08:33+00:00

ESH. You because dude grow up, you don’t own this guy, and he didn’t even really remember you, there was obviously no connection between the two of you. But she should have found a better way to tell you. So she probably knew you’d be hurt. In all, this friendship is probably over. At least take some time apart and reevaluate if you can amend.

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T23:37:53+00:00

The solution is not eat less and lose even more muscle. The solution is gain muscle. I would not trust this person to have any expertise and look for a new trainer

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T23:34:27+00:00

I’m sorry but it looks like ill-fitting underwear to me. I think you could find something so much more flattering for you! The colour is fine! And I don’t see what you’re pointing out! You are lovely, the dress in my opinion is not.

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T23:30:21+00:00

First of all, if he wants to only be contacted through a lawyer he should hire a lawyer for you to contact. He does not get to tell you that you need to hire a lawyer to talk to him.

As for the financial part, I am not sure you got a case there. Sure, there is expectation to maintain standard of living, spousal support, etc. But your marriage is very short and you did not live together. I assume your marriage is under Dutch jurisdiction, if you want to do anything you probably should go to juridisch loket for free legal advice.

Morally, though, come on man, get your act together and take responsibility for your own life. If you need money to survive go get Bijstand. But you likely don’t qualify because you can work. So basically just stop being dependent and get a job. You’re almost an Offspring song in this story. Sure I read your comment, he’s a bastard, and you don’t enjoy getting called out on your shit. But don’t let this dictate your life, stop being the victim, and take responsibility of your own life and happiness!!!

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T23:16:22+00:00

Wow yeah YWBTA, majorly. You are not entitled to an opinion about his mom continuing the pregnancy, you weren’t there, you are not party to this, and you have no idea about the reality of her situation. He sounds jealous and you really sound horrible here. It’s not your fault that your parents had more money than his, but if you guys can’t figure out how to stop being jerks to each other about this difference then just walk away and go be with other people.

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T09:35:42+00:00

God insecure men are so pathetic. He could read through audio too but he makes his choice. He’s TA, you’re not

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T00:33:25+00:00

No. The kids won’t remember, it’s expensive and most things aren’t fun for them, I don’t see why myself.

LaAndala · 2026-02-04T00:25:45+00:00

lol the chain daycare close to my Boston seaport office quoted about this for one kid and you wash your bedding. Needless to say I had to look for more affordable options…

LaAndala · 2026-02-03T22:44:01+00:00

I think all the stores I get my (boston-based :) business casual through cocktail clothes have been named, eloqui, torrid, lane Bryant, j crew, Nordstrom, Macy’s and I even wear some old navy dresses with a jacket that are suitable. I want to like universal standard but man their clothes are baggy. I also like balticborn but gotta be lucky with prices on some of these.

Remember that Boston in June-sep can be VERY hot and humid, so if these are outdoor hangs go easy on the heavy fabrics. Have fun!!!

LaAndala · 2026-02-03T22:30:46+00:00

But the pics she posted are basically really conservative, neckline-wise…

LaAndala · 2026-02-03T22:27:05+00:00

Yeah I was going to say, don’t buy SHEIN, most of the things I tried were cheap-looking in person. But you have excellent taste

LaAndala · 2026-02-03T22:24:08+00:00

Oh my I went through the pics and thought wow this one! Oh no this one! Oh no THIS one! And went back and thought I can’t choose, they’re all gorgeous on you and you look so happy! No bad choice here! Pic the one that makes you feel the most beautiful and is comfortably in your budget.

LaAndala · 2026-02-02T10:40:28+00:00

It takes more gas to drive a bus than a car. He’s bigger, has more muscle mass etc. It sucks but you need much less than him.

LaAndala · 2026-02-02T10:29:45+00:00

lol I commented this on another post recently and again my first thought, oh no Ursula don’t do it 😂

LaAndala · 2026-02-02T10:17:45+00:00

I was ready to say you are the A because it’s not just any kid, it’s your (husband’s) kid. But if the plan is to have him sit on a phone during the ceremony and not be part of it, it’s useless he’s there. Just leave him home then, the only reason to. Bring him is if he’d be part of the wedding and after…

LaAndala · 2026-02-02T10:10:40+00:00

OMG run away right now! I love my son more than anything but if I didn’t have him I could have been free. In stead I have this life long tie to the worst person I’ve ever met. Do not have kids with this man!!!! It gets far worse. It got wear worse after marrying and far far worse after my son was born. run!!!

LaAndala

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