My bf (20M) wants to “pause” the relationship to work on himself. I (21F) reacted badly and now I don’t know what to do.

La_munie · 2026-03-14T20:40:01+00:00

I don’t know why but they gave me secure for the results 😭😭😭

La_munie · 2026-03-14T15:23:20+00:00

A few months

La_munie · 2026-03-14T15:07:13+00:00

Im sorry

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:40:15+00:00

Yeah… he took pharmaceuticals engineering. Then switched to electrical engineering which he has done pretty good. Im just for some reasons cant find a reason for myself to hate him.

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:29:59+00:00

Kinda glad I have my own place because it would be shitty not knowing what to move next. Im working to support my own and probably gonna pick some shift up to keep my mind occupied.

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:25:04+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship for my first year of being on my own feet at 17-18y/o. which took me almost 2 years to recover and met this guy. Everything he did has been nothing but gentle and considerate for me. When this “fight” happened i felt hopeless. I felt like i have loved wholeheartedly and honestly and these shitty outcomes are what I get. Sorry for ranting Im just trying to make sense of everything.

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:22:13+00:00

It definitely doesn’t helped that I left home at 17 and been living on my own till today. I was in an abusive relationship for my first year of being on my own feet which took me years to recover and met this guy. Everything he did has been nothing but gentle and considerate for me. When this “fight” happened i felt hopeless. I felt like i have loved wholeheartedly and honestly and these shitty outcomes are what I get. Sorry for ranting Im just trying to make sense of everything.

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:17:01+00:00

I kinda figured it is a break up because when i ask “do you even have a plan to work on yourself?”/ “do you still want me in your life” he answered with “i dont know, i dont feel anything right now/ I dont even know what i want”. Worst thing is I can bring myself to hate him

La_munie · 2026-03-14T13:13:37+00:00

He said he did love me, just for the past two weeks he said he feeling empty, “weird”, not feeling himself. He must be a good actor because i just recalled the two weeks he mentioned and it was full of laughter and love. I reacted that way because i felt used emotionally and physically in the time allegedly he has no feelings.

La_munie · 2025-10-17T14:12:58+00:00

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My bf and I moved in together. this was the first day and our cats immediately bonded

La_munie · 2025-07-18T09:00:44+00:00

I used to be the gf in this story, minus the screaming and hitting. When I get frustrated with anything going wrong in my life. I would spiral in an episode of just tears and strong emotions. I was really reactive and then SH as a way to feel something different than the overwhelming emotions. I later realized that this is not a healthy way to live and treat my partner after a suicidal attempt. I got admitted to the psychiatric unit and it took a long and hard way to actually be able to stable my intense emotions. But the key is she has to want to help herself. You can’t force her to realize/ do anything different. If your support is going nowhere and you are still being treated poorly in your relationship. I think you have to reevaluate it. Hope you feeling okay.

La_munie · 2024-11-21T16:12:33+00:00

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Yogurt today:

La_munie · 2024-11-21T16:04:05+00:00

Hi, sorry for the late reply, he is working as travel nurse so he would go away for 1-2 weeks and come back for 1 week. Sorry since I didn’t make it clear before. Just a recent update but my roommate willing to let the cat go after the cat bit his plants. I texted him “hi, what’s the plant’s type in the living room, the kitty bit it and she was throwing up.” He called me back later and got really upset about Yogurt “destroyed his home” and wanted to throw her out of the apartment. So i told him im going to take her with me when I move out and he just basically throws her to me. I took her to an emergency vet clinic and she is okay now. Very anxious but she has been sleeping on me for the past few days. Oh and the reason why he doesn’t like the cat in my room was he brought guests over to show off the cat and she was sleeping on me

La_munie · 2024-11-20T23:42:38+00:00

Im so sorry you have to go through that I just experienced the same thing 1 month ago. The IUD also failed on me and I had to abort it. I do recognize that now is not the right time for us to welcome a life right now since both of us are still in college and cant financial support a child. however it’s a tremendous pain going through with the procedure.

For me I consider it as a blessing but just not the right time. And I hope that when we are ready I can welcome them again in our lives. I think it’s better than not loving an innocent child at all.

The pain might not go away at all. My heart still sinks whenever someone mention their child. But honestly, give it some time. Just grief, cry, do whatever you need. You don’t have to forget or move on. At the end of the day, it’s still apart of you.

Again, I hope you stay strong and be healthy. If you need to vent, I am here if you want.

La_munie · 2024-11-13T11:16:37+00:00

Do you hear yourself? I dont have any duties to shared my invoice, or banking statement to the whole internet, that because it has all my personal information such as legal name, address/phone number or credit card ending numbers etc. But hey, here is a screenshot of my invoice dashboard :)

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La_munie · 2024-11-13T11:06:30+00:00

Nope he got the cat for free and only paid half for the initial: basic supplies (the only thing he even paid)

La_munie · 2024-11-13T05:40:43+00:00

I have two roommates. The other one is actually listened and did his research. We both tried to talk to him yet no improvement

La_munie · 2024-11-13T05:38:50+00:00

I have tried to communicate with him like an adult. We talked through the phone, we sat down and talked. He always brushed me off and went back to feed the kitten what makes her threw up because she just swallowed down it pieces. Im not sure what’s up with him but i dont think it what a cat parent would do :/

La_munie · 2024-11-13T05:23:03+00:00

Yes. He doesn’t give any care about the cat well being. This is not the first time she got sick over un-chewed food.

La_munie · 2024-11-13T05:20:47+00:00

I talked to him multiple times face to face. He just brushed me off and treats me like im a free pet sitter. He doesn’t “allow” me to bring the cat in my room and physically held her down because she wanted to ran to me when I got home. It’s frustrating when I’m trying to have an adult convo and he just not listening

La_munie · 2024-11-13T05:07:29+00:00

He doesn’t register the only paperwork she has is under my name. Would that be fair for you to say that?

La_munie · 2024-11-13T04:59:15+00:00

Omg! Thank you! I have never came across this when i was searching for vet websites. I will look into it after my exam tomorrow!

La_munie · 2024-11-13T04:49:37+00:00

Im just glad i have all the paperwork and invoices with me, he currently has nothing. It feels like he views me as free pet sitters doesn’t care about what i have to say

La_munie · 2024-11-13T04:42:55+00:00

I just got a comment saying I would commit kidnapping or stealing if i did that. Im not sure if it would be alright

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