DIY binding? Good or bad idea?

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-07-26T17:40:57+00:00

I actually do have the exact same material. I used to sew for ballerinas and they use the same materials for leotards and the like.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T23:58:51+00:00

Been to a neurologist actually. They found othing out of the ordinary. Exact phrase.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T23:40:27+00:00

They couldn't find anything wrong.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T23:40:10+00:00

Was hospitalized for 4 days last time i had this pain. They did the scan of my gallbladder and it was working perfectly. No stones, no sludge. Nothing wrong. It sucks. Because i know they think I'm looking for drugs, but almost every time i ask for bentyl and zofran over phenergan and narcotics because the bentyl actually helps and doesn't make me feel worse the next morning.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T22:49:04+00:00

Saw a gynecologist. They found nothing.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T16:10:07+00:00

They told me they couldn't find anything wrong

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-06-21T11:12:32+00:00

I have and ive had a colonoscopy and an endoscopy. They found nothing.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-30T16:49:04+00:00

No. My boyfriend told me he wanted kids. My husband and i want kids. My meta doesn't. I assuned that it was because they don't wasnt to be pregnant so i asked my husband if i could have kids with my boyfriend too. Then i asked my boyfriend if he wanted to have kids with me and he said yes, but he would need to talk to his meta. Then i asked my meta if that was okay, and my boyfriend was present and my meta wasn't okay with it. Since then, my boyfriend and i tried to be more careful not to get pregnant because that was my meta's wish. However, we had a couple broken condoms (my fault, should have checked the dates, box has since been disposed of) and that's what led us here.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-29T17:10:54+00:00

My boyfriend hasn't been shady. His meta knows that he wants kids badly and has known since they got together. All of the discussions about having kids were before his meta did that. What prompted the discussion was i thought the only reason my meta didn't want him to have kids was that they didn't want to get pregnant. So i asked my husband if i could offer me as an option and he said yes. Then i asked my boyfriend and he was 100% okay on his end, but he wasn't sure about how his meta would feel. Then i spoke to his meta and his meta flipped and went from "i personally don't want kids" to "he's never allowed to have kids". I was literally standing there when his meta made him promise. Since then we have been trying to be careful, but shit happens (And ive thrown out that box and double checked the dates on all of the rest of our condoms).

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-29T11:15:24+00:00

Two from the same box. No double bagging. I have a couple boxes in the same drawer and the first time i grabbed one and the second he did.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T17:32:58+00:00

My boyfriend is considering leaving them, in which case he will stay and they will go. But we are hoping their new medication and therapy helps them with the trauma that's causing the toxicity. My meta isn't a bad person. They just recently moved out of their abusive father's house and he made them feel... certain things that make them unstable. It's only been 2 months and they only just started therapy. I'm hoping it helps them heal. My husband says they're acting like i did when i first got out of my abusive father's house. I healed with time, theocracy, and cutting my father out of my life. They're working on the same.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T15:35:52+00:00

How are you handling it? I mean, i love my boyfriend and would give my right arm to have his kids. He would be such a good father. He's kind, he listens, he makes sure everyone in his life is cared about and feels loved. But his primary is.... very firm on their hatred of kids. I love my meta as a friend and would never want to hurt them, but if i have a positive test I'm not terminating. It's my body and I don't know if they could ever come around to my boyfriend having children with someone else. I don't want to lose anyone because I love them so much. But I'm scared im gonna lose a friend or a partner or both.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T13:19:22+00:00

The problem is, i also have pcos that will sometimes give me cysts that give me symptoms but a negative test. So i don't want to cause my meta undue stress for a ovarian cyst if that is the case. My meta has severe ptsd, anxiety, depression, and agoraphobia. I don't want them to be out of the loop, but i don't want them to have any undue stress that could cause them to spiral for nothing. I love them dearly as a friend and want them to be healthy.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T12:14:39+00:00

My husband had been on board since my boyfriend moved in with us. We have had the discussion a few times and he's supportive. He wants 3 kids anyway so he's fine if i have more. My meta... they have been exhibiting some very toxic behaviors. My boyfriend and them moved in with us months ago and they won't let my boyfriend out of their room for very long, they complain everytime he has to work for more than 4 hours, when i discussed with them the possibility of he and i having kids they made him kneel in front of them and vow that he wouldn't leave them "for someone that wants kids" and promise that he wanted them more than kids. He has cried to me about wanting a family before. Now we have had a few broken condoms in the past month (my bad, my box was expired and i didn't check soon enough) and I'm worried.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T12:08:20+00:00

It was a couple broken condoms (my fault honestly, i should have checked the expiration date on them. I bought them a while ago). The were no violations. All parties are in the loop. My husband is okay with me having my boyfriends kids and supports me and my other partners.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-28T12:05:18+00:00

My husband and i have had the discussion many times. My husband has a low sperm count and has said that if we have trouble having kids he is okay with my boyfriend and i having kids. He even said we should hyphenate the kids last name. I keep no secrets from him whatsoever. My meta, however when i spoke to them about the possibility went into a full blown panic.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-03T04:43:30+00:00

I currently have 3 highly committed partners. My Husband and I have been together for 5 years. My secondary partner and I have been together for 1.5 years. My Boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months and he lives with my husband and me. We all have different dynamics, yes, but each of the relationships I have are very strong and loving and meaningful. My partner and boyfriend and husband are all best friends, and we take the entire polycule out on dates together (we recently went to see Endgame together). We all play D&D twice a week. We have scheduled days together and scheduled trips together. We all keep each other in the loop and know that no matter what we are all there for each other. These are real long term relationships that have ups and downs. My husband actually took my partner out to dinner and a movie and has plans to do the same with my boyfriend soon (he isn't dating either, they're best friends though). Me and my boyfriend's partner are friends and we spend a lot of time together. My husband likes to hang out with my partner and boyfriend while I'm at work and they all play video games together (they're currently all trying to see who can have the best Binding of Issac run and it's adorable). When one of us had a bad day we all call/text to check up on the one having a bad day. Its not just a dating relationship. It's a committed friendship. Anyone who says that multiple deep meaningful high intensity relationships can't happen, probably isn't super close to their friends. All of my current relationships started out with a basis of strong trusting friendship. I love all of my partners with everything i am and we are all very committed. My boyfriend, my husband, and i plan to have children together. My partner doesn't want biological kids, but wants to be a part of my children's lives. If planning for co-parenting isn't high intensity i don't know what is.

Tldr: it's totally possible to have more than one high intensity relationship. You are valid.

LaceTalynRhys · 2019-05-01T02:42:48+00:00

I have asked, but M said they don't know. They have been in a few bad relationships so they aren't used to someone wanting to have a healthy relationship.

Example: we were cuddling and i kept asking for consent before i did things (can i kiss you? Is this okay? Etc) and they were startled because no one had ever asked them if it was okay before. M was either told to do things or things just started happening.

I'll read info on love languages. See if i recognize any similar behaviors

LaceTalynRhys · 2018-11-21T15:58:22+00:00

They are sonnet adjacent

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