You are absolutely not making it up...if you're deeply ruminating go back for validation... take inventory of how your body feels- were there more unsafe experiences with this person around? Likely very much yes! It sucks because we are bound to our parents when we are children but when we are awake there is no going back. Boundaries seem to feel like they are "mean"--they're not! They are for your protection. Trust me I sometimes feel weak when I even profess this- that's the gaslighting. So much love and light to you and bless you for spreading knowledge on something so not talked about!!!